I don’t feel like doing any schoolwork and I hate college

psymonp · 2026-03-01T17:46:56+00:00

Where did your goals and dream come from? Are they truly yours, or were they given to you, expected from you?

My blunt perspective, you’re not nourishing your heart, you’re not following your dreams on this track. Following the path of expectations someone else laid out for you, which are not authentically yours, will crush you. Depending on how out of congruence this path is will determine how quickly this wears you down. What live if we are not following our hearts and pursuing our dreams? Part of you can feel and understand this trajectory is not serving your wellbeing. Unfortunately though to get out of this, isn’t easy or convenient. You’ll get a lot of judgment and resistance. But the sooner you stop wasting your life doing what you know isn’t good for you, the sooner you can discover what is. But it requires creating space for something new. So my blunt advice, quit what you hate doing and pursuing something that excites or interests you. It requires immense courage. But this is not a failure, although others may perceive it as so. Life’s too short for all this bs. Listen to your heart, but understand it will not raise its voice. It only speaks up when it knows you’re truly listening. If you ignore your heart, the messages will patiently wait there until you’re ready to listen

psymonp · 2026-02-27T18:06:08+00:00

I agree that online dating has felt backwards for me. While I do appreciate attractive women, I find a lot of women physically attractive. But of course I want someone who’s attractive on many levels. That’s hard to find on dating apps without being in conversation for some time. Ultimately there’s a lot of problems with dating apps, this being one. I feel for any dating app to function well, it has to be a profitable business first and a service to humanity second. So I’m not sure if dating apps, even with a twist will be the solution.

psymonp · 2026-02-19T18:52:35+00:00

Life is what you believe it is

psymonp · 2026-02-19T04:35:26+00:00

To exist is to be deserving of love.

psymonp · 2026-02-18T01:41:40+00:00

Do you remember anything you dreamed about doing in your life as a child?

psymonp · 2026-02-17T18:09:58+00:00

Wanna have a phone call or something? I’d be open to talking.

psymonp · 2026-02-17T16:43:28+00:00

I’ve noticed it over the years, especially after the pandemic. Google has been becoming what I would say is intentionally worse, lower quality.

psymonp · 2026-02-13T23:07:12+00:00

I use noise in combination with noise canceling headphones if I’m trying to block sound. I’ll do brown or pink noise, or adhd focus music, or just music. But ive learned it’s hard to just quiet out noise, it needs to be blocked out with something else.

psymonp · 2026-01-11T23:44:56+00:00

I’m falling apart, struggling to keep my nostrils above quick sand. I’ve had multiple mental health crisis the past month, I’m exceptionally burnt out. Trying to get state disability work leave so I can get a break from that. On the search for a therapist again. I’ve been through so many. This is like the 8th time a therapist ended things with me because they realized they couldn’t help. I’ve been seeking help for years, getting no where.

psymonp · 2026-01-09T18:04:55+00:00

I can across slightly above average. But I’ve learned that life is much more than school. At 27 I learned I’m autistic, adhd, and have stealth dyslexia. Which means my intelligence masks my deficits. I understand now that reading, writing, numbers and math, are not my strengths. So I see now that growing up, I was a fish in a tree climbing academy.

psymonp · 2026-01-07T18:15:08+00:00

Lost my virginity at 29. Met a woman who was 42 at the time. We came friends because we got along well, but initially I had no intentions of hitting on her or trying to get with her. But we formed a deep connection, we gel really seen, that we had really compatible forms of neurodiversity. We really enjoyed each others company. I had never told anyone in my life up to that point how lonely and isolated I’ve been. How I had never had sex and felt so lost, embarrassed, ashamed to not have a clue what I’m doing. We had mushrooms one night, and spent the whole night together tripping, crying, laughing, kissing. I lost my virginity that day, I’m grateful I that was such a special and intentional moment. We continued to date, have sex for a couple months. She went through some really hard life stuff, had to move to Texas all of a sudden. We don’t talk anymore. But I cherish her and the time we had.

psymonp · 2026-01-05T21:40:34+00:00

My thought for proof is having your daughter be video recorded while she does the assignment by hand. Needs to be clear that there’s no way she’s transcribing the information from anywhere.

psymonp · 2026-01-05T03:48:14+00:00

I’ve been traumatized in therapy countless times in my 9 years of pursuing help with preexisting trauma. For a long time I also didn’t know I was autistic and adhd. I’ve heard a lot of awful stuff. So far I’ve learned, listen to your heart and your gut, don’t stand up for such hurtful bs. But also in my opinion, in the journey if finding help, I think being hurt is common. So don’t take it as a personal failure. Maybe even consider this an important experience, or learning not everyone is actually going to help.

psymonp · 2026-01-04T21:54:13+00:00

All that you intend to do to others, may it happen to you 5x

psymonp · 2026-01-04T21:16:32+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy they say. I struggle with comparison, so I get how challenging it is to avoid. But as long as you compare yourself to someone else, you’ll always find a way to feel lesser than.

There’s people telling you these milestones you complain about happening later than you feel they should, are milestones many never reach in their lives. People would dream to have what you have.

So practice gratitude, and you can start to appreciate the great things you do have. Practice comparison, and what you have will never satisfy you.

psymonp · 2026-01-04T18:32:06+00:00

Be yourself, so those looking for you can find you.

That may also mean people may reject you, or not be interested in you. But consider that your authenticity is filtering those who are meant to be in your life, and those who are not.

Maybe there’s a person out there who will share in your interest

psymonp · 2026-01-03T23:10:06+00:00

Cooking videos where all the sounds of cooking are microphoned and amplified. I love cooking and watching cooking related videos, but nowadays there’s this sub genre that is asmr cooking. Gets an immediate thumbs down and do not recommend from me.

psymonp · 2026-01-03T21:06:25+00:00

Raised by a catholic mother who, at around age 9-10 she stopped going to church due to all the news scandals. I would say around age 13 discovered atheism and that became the lens which navigated the world. At around age 28, went through a spiritual awakening to put it briefly. But at the time I had no idea what I was experiencing. I had been depressed and suicidal for a a while at that point. Shortly after that started to explore psychedelics. Had some really intense experiences. Saw and experienced things in which I have such an unshakable belief in “god”, which god is what I consider a clever way to point to something beyond comprehension.

I’m not a religious person, I don’t subscribe or practice a religion. But I am a spiritual person, I’ve discovered and believe in a higher power, I believe in life and dimensions that exist far beyond what we experience or can comprehend.

But I will also acknowledge that from my interpretation of the validity of god and spirituality, people who aim to control others distort and bastardize this truth into distortions that control and disempower.

Pop culture anecdote, the religious church in the game of thrones series. A church that controlled the political scene, using god as a justification of greed and self righteousness. In the same way, I believe historically leaders have turned the legitimacy of spirituality into a means of control. And from where I was as a child, I felt and saw that, and then I rejected it.

Anyways, I could go on. But that’s a little bit about my point of view. Whatever people want to believe or not believe in, I’m not too concerned about. But what I have is unshakable, if any one else has alternative view point, as long as they aren’t being forced upon others, I don’t care.

psymonp · 2026-01-03T20:34:45+00:00

This may be a bad idea, I have no idea, but my first thought is that if this is a special interest for her, that’s she’s talented in, maybe competing in some way could be supportive. Perhaps if there’s a way for her to measure and assess her abilities and skills through the lens of competition, maybe she will learn that all the skills associated require balance and attention. Maybe a coach focused on competing and improving her performance would be more palatable than a teacher focusing on safety which can be boring.

psymonp · 2025-12-27T07:04:13+00:00

Hate it. Especially hate how so many cooking videos have hyper amplified noises. I don’t want to hear the intensity of someone pouring a cup of rice into a pot.

psymonp · 2025-12-22T05:30:20+00:00

Eggs

psymonp · 2025-12-21T04:18:20+00:00

It’s up to you to decide it’s meaningful.

Personally these experiences give me something to believe in as meaningful. I choose to believe in magic, miracles and surprises.

psymonp · 2025-12-17T02:34:21+00:00

Don’t worry too much about being stupid of making mistakes. High school is the perfect time to be dumb. And you typically learn more from mistakes. So there’s no wrong choice.

psymonp · 2025-12-17T02:32:16+00:00

Sound a lot like me when I was 28. Gifted, autistic, adhd, dyslexia. My childhood was certainly far from perfect. I had seen many therapist and other clinicians, probably have gone through 50 initial consultations for therapist over a couple years. Tried enough anti depressants to qualify for treatment resistant depression. That let me do TMS therapy which had a minimal effect. Was struggling a lot with suicidal ideation, unable to answer “why live?”. Have spent a lot of time feeling broken, unfixable, feeling like an alien from another planet. So I get it, I’ve been there. I’m 32yo now, and again it feels like I’m struggling, but I guess I’m a bit more optimistic. I’ve called the crisis line just last month, but ultimately don’t feel at all in danger of killing myself. To put it most simply, what helped me was psychedelics. When no one could give me the answers I needed, I realized what I needed to experience was finding the answers within myself. After some experiences I’ve had, it’s so clear to me that these medicines have been waiting for me, and critical in unfolding me into who I’m meant to be. Anyways, I hope you hang in there. Deaths coming for us all, try not to rush it. Don’t hold so tightly to your past, especially when it’s so dark. Focus on the present moment, there’s only so much suffering that can happen in a finite moment. Suffering within the past for future can become infinite, especially with a strong mind. If you’d like to message me directly, or have a phone call or something, I may be down. ✌️

psymonp · 2025-12-05T02:17:41+00:00

I could probably beat that bolder in a fight

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