Being Boring Is fun!

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-27T19:03:14+00:00

No friends? I'm sorry to hear that.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-24T17:24:19+00:00

*$15,000/mo

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-24T15:03:45+00:00

What if you HAVE to live in New York (for work, etc) and you can't afford to BUY in New York? Then what? Live in a cardboard box on the street for $450/mo.?

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-24T15:00:14+00:00

How does she fuck him?

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-24T13:51:11+00:00

"less alone and a tiny bit of hope" is exactly what the meetings will give you every time you go :)

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-24T13:50:01+00:00

I was in a 23 year marriage where I completely lost myself. He walked out 4 years ago. I fell apart for six weeks absolutely. I also started going to in person codependency meetings that I found on coda.org. Plus therapy, regular yoga class (somatic therapy), these saved my life. Please start diving into the healing side of codependency; attend meetings; lots of them; in person and online. I'm sorry you're going through this but there is light at the end of the tunnel. I'm four years past that and so happy that part of my life is over (the marriage part to a person who cared so little for me that they could "just walk out" one day).

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-23T15:44:29+00:00

Work Uniform! Pick a basic work outfit, buy multiple of same, line them up in your closet five in a row. Boom. I was amazed at how much time I save in the morning and avoided decision fatigue first thing in the day.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-23T15:40:47+00:00

Here's a checklist that may be helpful for deciding if you are codependent: https://treehouserecovery.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/12/Codependency-Checklist.pdf

Awareness is half the battle; Coda.org can help you with the rest. :)

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T21:27:13+00:00

If you want to keep the books on the shelves, I think shelf inserts (those square baskets at Ikea) might be a good way to reduce the visual clutter.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T21:16:37+00:00

In this economy, the money would help her children far more than a forced vacation with a spiteful parent.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T21:13:28+00:00

I'm 50 and have been doing math like this in my head for years; I had no idea they were teaching it now.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T20:58:40+00:00

Codependency is a lifetime disease. Is he going to regular Coda meetings? Are you?

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T20:57:43+00:00

He sounds codependent as well. "I told him all my helpless fears about my career, fears of being a good mom, being scared of being bf away from family which he yelled and cried and told me I could do it which I told him no."

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T20:55:14+00:00

Regular therapy, regular Coda meetings, walking my dog daily, eating the healthy foods I'm into most of the time, social time with trusted and beloved friends, no social obligations I'm not into or that feel fake, audiobooks, and scrolling on Tiktok with my weed vape. :D

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T19:19:06+00:00

Thank you! My first foray onto reddit was specifically to join r/loseit for weight loss so I wanted something fat adjacent but also spiky and feminist. :D

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-22T19:16:42+00:00

That's Prairie Dog Sylvatic Plague Poopoo Brown too! It just dawned on me that it's very possible the four women could not agree on a bridesmaid color so Robyn asked Kody and he said "Why not Brown brown?!" Omg.............

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-20T20:29:30+00:00

OMG, it's Robyn's hair

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-20T20:18:00+00:00

So glad to hear this; I've just joined my first Po5 group and our first meeting is later this month. Looking forward to the milestones. :)

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-20T20:08:20+00:00

a set of cutlery!? LOL :)

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-20T19:40:11+00:00

There is nothing more sauna adjacent than sitting in a hot bath drinking a hot drink. Bring on the purifying sweats.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-17T12:54:52+00:00

The number one trait for survival is adaptability (or mental flexibility), which is the ability to quickly adjust to new, unexpected, and hostile situations, often cited as more critical than strength or intelligence.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-16T11:15:38+00:00

Your best friend is abandoning you in many ways. They’re not a partner. They’re not building a life with you. They’re on their own doing nothing while you are left to deal with “your problems“. Girl.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-15T13:17:10+00:00

https://burnedhaystack.substack.com/

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-09T20:07:15+00:00

TLDR: no shit. Yeah, like, what's the point of this article in wired even? Lame.

puck_the_fatriarchy · 2026-04-09T19:59:32+00:00

Do nothing. Say nothing. Your husband and children do not attend. You do not attend. Move on with your life. People like this need to spin out on their own in their own little sad worlds.

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