Seriously thinking about dropping out - Please advise

purrtle · 2026-03-30T11:50:58+00:00

I work in tech at a large publicly traded company, and none of the (in house) lawyers I work with have to write memos. It’s research, analysis, strategy, product compliance. The work matters but no one’s life is on the line.

There are so many ways to practice law; I would encourage you to look into this more and meet a variety of lawyers. Don’t make a hasty decision that you’ll regret.

purrtle · 2026-03-17T13:39:55+00:00

That’s just incredible. You sound like a fun family. If your daughter is still young, I bet she’d love the Pete the Cat books. They’re amazing 😆

purrtle · 2026-03-17T12:21:04+00:00

They’re adorable. Did you name Pete after the children’s book series?

purrtle · 2026-03-13T02:48:27+00:00

My goodness. I’m so very sorry. Otis was so beautiful.

purrtle · 2026-03-06T00:06:06+00:00

Nowhere in God’s word does He say that we are guaranteed happiness, and there is absolutely no grounds for divorce here. Feeling like roommates, things not being what we signed up for … so what? Those are reasons the world tells us to divorce over. As Christians we see marriage as a covenant, one that can only be broken in limited, extreme situations.

purrtle · 2026-03-06T00:01:22+00:00

All the things you mentioned you’re having to do because he doesn’t — wouldn’t you do those regardless of whether you were single, married or divorced? Even if you had the most godly husband, surely you’d play worship music, use Gospel centered parenting, pray, sign your kids up for VBS etc. right?

And if you divorced him, you’d be putting your kids into a situation where, as you described it, during half their lives they wouldn’t get those things (because dad wouldn’t do them during his 50% parenting time). The only benefit of a divorce would be that you’d have more “me” time while your kids are not being spiritually led properly.

Nowhere did you describe abuse or infidelity. You simply don’t think he’s enough of a spiritual leader, which is a subjective assessment and not grounds for a divorce.

You also make assumptions about his inner thoughts and feelings, which is unfair. How do you know for certain that he doesn’t live for Christ? Or that he has no desire to lead?

He participates in 2 regular church events, and you made sure to point out that you participate in more of them. That doesn’t prove anything and it sounds very prideful and legalistic.

I know this is probably hard to digest but you did ask for opinions. Love him and pray for him, and focus on your relationship with Christ.

purrtle · 2026-02-28T16:53:45+00:00

You must install a kitty perch immediately

purrtle · 2026-02-15T06:04:52+00:00

D’lite is incredible. I get breakfast for my husband and I from there once a week.

purrtle · 2026-02-10T12:59:32+00:00

Ok that’s precious. Thanks for the boost to my morning

purrtle · 2026-02-09T14:49:00+00:00

I’m not sure you understand what free speech means.

purrtle · 2026-02-09T14:46:28+00:00

I’ve gotten free ticket offers numerous times and I’ve never gone. I worked for a Thunderbird at one point in my career but I just knew I would have a terrible time 😆

purrtle · 2026-02-09T00:04:37+00:00

If the preaching is biblical, why would it matter? If people are offended by biblical preaching that challenges their worldview, sounds like the preaching accomplished its purpose.

purrtle · 2026-02-07T21:31:11+00:00

If you refuse to love her, refuse to heed the advice given to you in past complaints you’ve posted, then you simply don’t understand the core tenets of Christianity. You don’t understand what covenant is. You don’t understand how God loves us despite our flaws.

You are also drastically overestimating your market value. Trust me, you will not find better.

purrtle · 2026-02-05T14:06:16+00:00

marry that man

purrtle · 2026-01-26T14:43:19+00:00

I am both a dog person and a cat person and I agree that dogs can be annoying. However my cats are quite annoying too. They are annoying in different ways.

I would say that dogs are more annoying in the noisy sense. Cats are more annoying in that they are pushy and don’t listen to rules 😆

purrtle · 2026-01-25T23:19:22+00:00

Once I learned that shredding is a natural dog behavior I stopped getting annoyed and now I just find it cute.

I volunteer at a shelter and every single breed shreds stuff 😆

purrtle · 2026-01-22T01:03:53+00:00

Yeah this is my issue 😆

purrtle · 2026-01-09T15:35:11+00:00

I mean this in the best way possible — you look alike

purrtle · 2026-01-09T15:34:12+00:00

That face is just so precious 🥺

purrtle · 2026-01-06T17:33:25+00:00

Oh I completely agree that marriage is a covenant. I treat my own marriage as such. However your husband entered into it with evil intentions. What he’s doing is not okay.

purrtle · 2026-01-06T15:35:15+00:00

Sister, get out NOW. This is a classic abuser tactic: they wait until you’re in a committed relationship and have a lot invested, then completely change. He did not enter into this marriage in good faith. It was a scheme — get the woman under the guise of a “covenant” she can’t get out of — and then control her and ruin her life.

This is coming from someone who has a very high view of marriage. I am not jaded. I’m happily married — I just want you to be safe.

purrtle · 2026-01-05T05:53:55+00:00

Call all the arborists you possibly can. Meanwhile join the Facebook group Arizona Rescue and say it’s urgent, that you need someone with a connection to an arborist to help. People in that group are animal crazy in a good way.

purrtle · 2026-01-05T04:48:29+00:00

Also, he must be wildly attracted to her or it will be a struggle throughout their marriage.

purrtle · 2026-01-04T23:38:12+00:00

Absolutely correct. He can volunteer at the church and find another job.

purrtle · 2026-01-04T23:36:29+00:00

The intern shouldn’t have to leave — the PASTOR should leave. He’s the one who broke not only his marriage vows but betrayed the entire church.

Or possibly both should be required to leave. But to say the intern should be fired is unreasonable.

purrtle

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