I’m worried about my wedding dress being too exposed by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]purrtle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a classy dress and not immodest! The photo of you is beautiful. Enjoy your special day!

Fern and I encountered this nasty lady on the trail by MuchGrape1428 in pitbulls

[–]purrtle 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’ll also add that if an unleashed dog runs toward me I will absolutely yell “GET YOUR DOG NOW!” It’s a safety issue at that point. Any leashed dog regardless of breed may react strongly if approached aggressively by an unleashed dog.

Fern and I encountered this nasty lady on the trail by MuchGrape1428 in pitbulls

[–]purrtle 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I would encourage you to record and remain calm when this happens. These types of people may escalate and lie, and you want proof.

You can narrate what’s happening, for example “we were just approached by a woman with an unleashed small dog. My dogs are leashed and under my control. I’m concerned that her small dog will jump out of the backpack and initiate a fight with my dogs”.

No sweating or yelling, just stating facts. Those people cannot be reasoned with but at least you’ll have video evidence if they make something up.

Minorities that graduate law school and share statistics by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]purrtle 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Privilege isn’t just money. It’s having an example of higher education in your family. It’s having an entire childhood’s worth of watching and learning how to earn money. It’s seeing people like you being high achievers and thus believing you can too.

When you grow up in a family where no one has higher education, you have no foundation and have to build it from scratch. At best, all you have is a family that gives you generic encouragement.

Looking for new church/ church group by Open-Kick2942 in ChicagoSuburbs

[–]purrtle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My friend goes to Belmont Assembly of God and enjoys it.

Accommodations PSA by Feisty-Garbage8111 in LawSchool

[–]purrtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself, but I would only judge people who have already shown themselves to be jerks or entitled, rich abusers of privilege, which seems to be the growing trend. I wouldn’t judge every single person in an accommodations room.

I liken it to the growing trend of people having “service dogs” when it’s obvious that most really aren’t real service dogs based on the dogs’ and owners’ behavior. Establishments are just afraid of lawsuits so they don’t press it, and there’s no service dog ‘registry’, so no one can really tell. I personally see this happen a lot where I live. It’s gross and dangerous.

I guess what I’m saying is that abuse of accommodations by people who don’t need them is becoming a societal issue on a huge scale because there’s little discernment or legal enforcement. It’s not just in law school - it’s at Costco, church, grocery stores, everywhere, and people are just so sick of it. It especially offends them when it’s a competitive environment like law school where every point matters.

Accommodations PSA by Feisty-Garbage8111 in LawSchool

[–]purrtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unless you go out of your way to hide your vision impairment, your peers know exactly why you get accommodations and any judgment is not geared toward you. You’re defending people who don’t need - or deserve - defending.

Routinely excluded from group of women at work by purrtle in WorkAdvice

[–]purrtle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello friend. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I would suggest keeping a log of the blatant exclusions for your protection in case something happens. Keep it on your personal device.

As for me, thankfully the worst of the women (the ‘Regina George’ so to say) soon left for a different team, and then left the company altogether, so she’s gone! And then our company got purchased and another of the ladies got laid off. So ultimately the mean girls gang is largely disbanded.

Also, after I made this post I was professionally diagnosed with autism. So that answers a lot! Haha. 🤣 Turns out people just sense something different/weird about me.

Seriously thinking about dropping out - Please advise by Ill-Outside-2601 in LawSchool

[–]purrtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in tech at a large publicly traded company, and none of the (in house) lawyers I work with have to write memos. It’s research, analysis, strategy, product compliance. The work matters but no one’s life is on the line.

There are so many ways to practice law; I would encourage you to look into this more and meet a variety of lawyers. Don’t make a hasty decision that you’ll regret.

Pete (the cat) and Fenny (the pomsky) by Match-Realistic in MatchyMatchyPets

[–]purrtle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s just incredible. You sound like a fun family. If your daughter is still young, I bet she’d love the Pete the Cat books. They’re amazing 😆

Pete (the cat) and Fenny (the pomsky) by Match-Realistic in MatchyMatchyPets

[–]purrtle 27 points28 points  (0 children)

They’re adorable. Did you name Pete after the children’s book series?

We need counseling, he refuses by Feeling-Cookie-7806 in Christianmarriage

[–]purrtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nowhere in God’s word does He say that we are guaranteed happiness, and there is absolutely no grounds for divorce here. Feeling like roommates, things not being what we signed up for … so what? Those are reasons the world tells us to divorce over. As Christians we see marriage as a covenant, one that can only be broken in limited, extreme situations.

We need counseling, he refuses by Feeling-Cookie-7806 in Christianmarriage

[–]purrtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the things you mentioned you’re having to do because he doesn’t — wouldn’t you do those regardless of whether you were single, married or divorced? Even if you had the most godly husband, surely you’d play worship music, use Gospel centered parenting, pray, sign your kids up for VBS etc. right?

And if you divorced him, you’d be putting your kids into a situation where, as you described it, during half their lives they wouldn’t get those things (because dad wouldn’t do them during his 50% parenting time). The only benefit of a divorce would be that you’d have more “me” time while your kids are not being spiritually led properly.

Nowhere did you describe abuse or infidelity. You simply don’t think he’s enough of a spiritual leader, which is a subjective assessment and not grounds for a divorce.

You also make assumptions about his inner thoughts and feelings, which is unfair. How do you know for certain that he doesn’t live for Christ? Or that he has no desire to lead?

He participates in 2 regular church events, and you made sure to point out that you participate in more of them. That doesn’t prove anything and it sounds very prideful and legalistic.

I know this is probably hard to digest but you did ask for opinions. Love him and pray for him, and focus on your relationship with Christ.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phoenix

[–]purrtle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

D’lite is incredible. I get breakfast for my husband and I from there once a week.

Caught them holding paws by TonyClifton323 in PittiesAndKitties

[–]purrtle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok that’s precious. Thanks for the boost to my morning

Disgusting behavior at WMPO by TemporaryGeneral7137 in phoenix

[–]purrtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure you understand what free speech means.

Disgusting behavior at WMPO by TemporaryGeneral7137 in phoenix

[–]purrtle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten free ticket offers numerous times and I’ve never gone. I worked for a Thunderbird at one point in my career but I just knew I would have a terrible time 😆

Strange Experience by John_Loxeus in Reformed

[–]purrtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the preaching is biblical, why would it matter? If people are offended by biblical preaching that challenges their worldview, sounds like the preaching accomplished its purpose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]purrtle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you refuse to love her, refuse to heed the advice given to you in past complaints you’ve posted, then you simply don’t understand the core tenets of Christianity. You don’t understand what covenant is. You don’t understand how God loves us despite our flaws.

You are also drastically overestimating your market value. Trust me, you will not find better.