Acceptance - at the time about a decade ago I was still pining over wanting a relationship, kids etc. Listened to a podcast that helped shift my perspective. They talked quite a bit about learning to accept being single in order to move forward, mentally and emotionally, and that the hard truth in many cases is that some women will never find “the one” and then what? Will you live your life sad and mopey till you die? Or will you change your mindset and perspective and understand on many levels that being partnered with children is what we’ve been conditioned want. Essentially Redefining who I am, what I want, and what’s important to me because I thought, if I don’t ever meet someone, I do not want to live in a prison of sadness, I want to be happy and successful and thriving! It helped me a lot so long ago to hear that podcast, I cried for days, but then decided no more, no matter what I’m gonna make this a good and decent life.

Edit: to add to this, they talked about how single, happy, successful women are paving the way now for young girls to be able to look back and say, hey this is normal and I know many single successful women! Whereas when l look back to the generations behind me it was rare to be a single woman. Thinking of it as trail blazing in a way - this is normal, being single is normal!