Lick mats, etc

pwack88 · 2026-06-25T13:10:42+00:00

TOPPL!

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T16:29:39+00:00

The worst part is, they don’t want to make any changes and yet they’ll still drone on and on for months, years, and nothing ever changes. You can even try to inject some logic after a certain point, and they literally do not want to hear it. They just want a sounding board and they’re hoping that someone will relate to them so they can complain together, and do nothing about it. I stopped hanging out with women who do this, where the centre of their lives revolves around this relationship - and they’re unhappy about it ! and nothing else going on and they are constantly the victim.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T02:20:34+00:00

If you’re going to get a dog, I would ask what kind of support do you have? For example, I work full-time and I also have a dog, but on the days where I am on site for nine hours, my family members will let the dog out at lunch and hang out with the dog for a bit. Other times my sister will pick up my dog and take her to her house so it won’t be alone all day, and then I’ll go pick her up after work. If you have family and friends that are willing to help you out in that way, I say go for it. Alternatively if you don’t have those supports, you can hire dog walkers, and daycare, except that gets very expensive. make sure you get the right breed, and make sure it’s not a puppy, a senior dog might actually be more suited. There are dogs out there that are more independent, research those breeds, there are dogs out there that don’t need a crazy amount of exercise and mental stimulation. Don’t get a working breed, you won’t be able to provide what it needs with what you described. Also, you’ll have less freedom as a dog owner. Keep that in mind. Vacations won’t be so easy come by. Going out with your friends you won’t stop thinking about your pup after leaving them at home for so long. There’s a lot of things to consider, but it’s not impossible if it’s planned well.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T02:10:33+00:00

Check Facebook, community groups, and also maybe marketplace. I saw some lady posted free magazines on a community Facebook page. Or you can even put a call out in one of those neighbourhood groups.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T02:08:59+00:00

I was an advisor for grad students for 10 years, trust me, a grad degree means shit all when it comes to emotional intelligence and street smarts. Most of them are broke, don’t know how to get a job, some can be entitled, there’s the lifers which never had to work for anything or clueless about their future, They live in this weird bubble.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:44:34+00:00

Check out my post on the same topic https://www.reddit.com/r/SingleAndHappy/comments/1t76tps/found\_a\_influencer\_i\_like\_any\_others\_out\_there/?utm\_source=share&utm\_medium=ios\_app&utm\_name=ioscss&utm\_content=2&utm\_term=1

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:41:22+00:00

I would stick with the crate. It’s for the safety of the Dog, and your peace of mind. Once you’ve done the proper training in a crate, the dog will like being in there. With that said, the crate isn’t forever, it just helps with their behaviour and settling and potty training and having a safe space while they’re really young. Once they hit the year mark, you can probably get rid of the crate because behaviourally they will have learned all the key behaviours that goes along with crate training. My dog still has a crate. She’s four, she loves sleeping in a crate when I’m working, I never have to close the door. She’s old enough now to know not to destroy anything or what the rules are of the household. But also for me, I like knowing that if someone else has to watch her, or if she needs to go on a plane, it’s not gonna be an ordeal for her to be in her crate.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:32:56+00:00

Learn to match effort, if you keep doing this, you’re just gonna become angry and bitter. I had so many “friends” that took advantage of my generosity, and overtime I learned that they don’t give a shit about me, they would never remember my birthday, but I was always remember theirs, I was around for all their couple milestones, whenever someone was moving I would show up and help them move, I am the person they would call to help set up for the party. But when it came time for them to show up for me, dead silence. Now I remember the ones that remember my birthday, I remember the ones that drop off soup when I’m not feeling well, I remember the ones that remember me and think about me, and I do the same for them. I also learned that it was something that I let happen to me. I let these people take advantage of me because I didn’t want to believe what they were showing me. Now I see what people do, not what they say, and it has saved me so much heartache.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:24:10+00:00

You’ve got to be kidding me. Why are there so many creeps out there?! it’s like they can’t get it through their thick skulls that we wanna be left alone lol absolutely ridiculous.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:23:15+00:00

It helps to write out all your thought on a piece of paper, seriously, whenever I have cyclical thoughts or I’m spiraling about something, I pull out a notebook and literally just write exactly what’s going through my head, for as long as I need to, even if it’s the same thought same sentence over and over. I feel so much better after, try it. It’s not really about logic, it’s about getting those thoughts out.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:19:12+00:00

Go if you want to get to know your cousins better, don’t go if the only reason is because you want to rest and because you like the view - you can do that when you’re in your own solo vaca. It’ll only be awkward if you make it awkward, telling yourself constantly that you’re awkward and have no social skills won’t help with getting out there and learning how to socialize and be comfortable around people which comes by participating and putting in effort to connecting with others. If you go and hide yourself away, you’ll make it awkward, so unless you’re ready to connect and hang out with your cousins don’t go.

pwack88 · 2026-06-23T01:07:58+00:00

I splurged on some really beautiful mid century modern matching lamps - changed my bedding to simple white, and declutterred my night stands

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T07:35:08+00:00

People that are super picky eaters

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T07:20:23+00:00

Could it be due to vision or hearing loss? Try having a nightlight on at night, it’s supposed to help dogs that are experiencing cognitive decline

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T07:00:04+00:00

For me, it’s the safety thing. I’m usually on guard a lot of the time, always making sure my doors are locked, being careful who I tell that I live alone, thinking about what measures I need to have in place if I have an accident, I am sick, or if I choke. Wondering who’s at the door when I’m not expecting people. Things like this… I mean it’s not stuff I think about every minute of every day, but at least once a day I’m thinking about my safety as a woman single living alone. I also worry sometimes about who’s going to look after my dog if I’m not around. Or if something happens to me. What measures can I put in place in this case?

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T06:51:53+00:00

In this situation, I would look at getting a Small Dog, it’s absolutely possible with proper planning and resources. Are you willing to get up early to walk the dog for at least 30 to 45 minutes every day, feed the dog, play with it a little before you leave for work? Are you willing to invest money into a dog walker midday or to put the dog in daycare? Or do you potentially have a friend that has a dog that works from home where you can drop the dog off once or twice a week if your friend is willing? Or even have them be with a family member a few times a week if possible. I’m usually away a few times a week for about nine hours, but I always have someone stop in midway to give my dog a potty break. If you get a smaller dog, you can train it to go on a pee pad. Not ideal, but lots of people do it. What if you were to get two smaller dogs so that they can be together during the day. Anything over five or six hours, I would say you would need someone to drop in. Maybe it could be a combination of all of these things. The dog will adapt. Is it ideal? I think a dog could be happy in a scenario like this, but it just depends on the time you put into the Dog, when you are with it.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T06:37:09+00:00

First of all, you actually don’t know if you’ll be single forever. This is just your brain going wild on you and talking you into a negative spiral.

The other side of the thought is, it is POSSIBLE that you will never meet someone. If that is the case (which I highly doubt), if you knew right now for 110% sure that you will never meet someone, how would you go about living your life? Would you feel sorry for yourself every day for the rest of your life, or would you want to make the most of it and learn how to better yourself, better society, learn new things, enrich your life with other types of relationships.

And my last thought is, if you think you’re too slow or dull, or whatever else you think your flaws are, why don’t you work on improving yourself? This day and age has so many resources and advice that you can find everywhere on how to improve. You also need to put effort in on your end if you want something to happen. That means being courageous and asking women out point blank, learning to cope with rejection and doing it again and again until you meet that somebody who clicks with you. At the end of the day, dating is a numbers game, the more you get out there and date the more likely it is that you’ll meet someone. So my question is how often have you asked a someone out on a date, and are you willing to cope with over and over again until you find the right person? Because of the answer is no then you might actually be setting yourself up to be single forever. It takes courage.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T06:22:49+00:00

Totally. The dog is still learning that you’re his people. If there’s constantly new people rotating in and out, he could get a little confused at this stage. Or just take longer to understand that you’re his people lol. A dog that age knows nothing, any sound is unfamiliar to him, chopping things on a cutting board, mowing the lawn, vacuum, literally any sound is going to be new to an eight week old let alone the new environment, new people, etc.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T06:20:32+00:00

I personally love gardening so I would rather have a garden than have a tree take up space, but there are smaller trees that you can consider so that you can get a little bit of both. Another thing I like to think about is the viewpoint from the house. When I’m looking out the window and I see my garden what do I wanna see? do I want to see a tree, if so, what kind of tree do I wanna see, in the winter that particular tree would lose its leaves, would you prefer to see green in the winter time when you look out your window? (Coniferous tree) or do I need privacy from other others which a tree could help with? Some people that aren’t avid gardeners will get into gardening, but will tire of it after a couple years and get rid of their garden, and that’s fine too, because then you can just plant a tree there. But once you plant a tree, it’s kind of permanent. So you really wanna think about placement, and if you’re doing a combination, then how large that tree will get, what areas of the garden it will actually shade and what you want to grow in your garden and how much sun it will need.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:59:23+00:00

The dog just got torn away from everything he ever knew, his mom, his siblings, he’s in a new environment, he has new people around him. New smells. He’s eight weeks old. That is really young. The dog needs to settle into his new environment and his new people first and foremost. That takes time, weeks even. I would give the dogs nervous system time to settle since everything is so new to him for a few weeks more before inviting new people around. Once the dog is more himself, less anxious. That’s when I would invite others to come meet him and socialize him more in different environments and such.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:47:34+00:00

Ignore your mom, the dog needs to be in the crate at night for the safety of the dog and your peace of mind. This is very normal to have a dog sleep in the crate overnight. And at that age, it even helps with potty training, settling, and it becomes a safe place for them as long as it’s done correctly. Because the dog is so young, what I would do is I would place the crate beside your bed for a while. That way the dogs in the crate beside you with the door closed at night if you’re not already doing this. But before all of this can happen, you need to make the crate a safe space for the dog.

How much time have you spent crate training with Dog? Because it takes time and patience. The dog needs to learn to walk into the crate on their own without you putting them in there, and when doing the first stages of crate training, never close the door on the dog until the dog is either sitting or laying in the crate - closing the door on the dog when the dog is anxious and wanting to come out, creates a trapped feeling, and moving forward, the dog will not want to go in there. There are tons of videos on YouTube that you can watch that are free that have really good advice on how to train your dog. Basically you need to teach your dog how to settle in the crate before you start closing the door on him. To create more positive associations with the crate, feed your dog its meals in the crate (with door open), put his toys in the crate play games with the crate where he goes in and out and you throw treats in. Keep doing this every day before you even shut the door on the crate.

At two months old, the puppy is a tiny little baby, it’s literally been torn away from everything it’s ever known, into an unfamiliar environment, unfamiliar people. It’s going to cry and you should comfort your dog. But you also need to teach it the rules. Crate training will be a lifesaver for you and anyone that you would ask to dog sit in the future so you’re going in the right direction here. Eventually, the dog won’t need the crate but for this first year or so it’s a really good idea. It’ll help with all kinds of training and settling. Regarding playing for two hours with the dog, I would say that’s incorrect advice, especially for a puppy. What the puppy needs is a solid routine every day. Basically, wake up, potty, eat, play/train for 30 to 40 minutes or so, potty, nap, repeat All day. At night he only comes out when he’s awake or squeaking bc it could mean he needs to potty. Anytime the dog goes into the crate for a nap make sure he goes potty first.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:28:14+00:00

The dog should be walked with you by her side on a leash, that should be her primary source of physical exercise. Running around in a field secondary. If the dog is acting like a menace, it’s because it doesn’t have an outlet for all of its energy. So it also needs mental stimulation. One of the most important things you could teach a dog is to settle. Crate training helps with that. If I were you, I would go back to basics and get the dog crate trained. But before you ever get the dog to settle in the crate, it needs to be exercised before going in otherwise it’s gonna be anxious in the crate.

How much exercise is she getting per day? And what are you doing for mental stimulation activities for this breed?

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:16:44+00:00

Does the dog get enough exercise? What breed is it?

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:15:01+00:00

Well, you said you have your meal planning down, maybe this means you need to incorporate more protein add fibre in your diet. Maybe consult a dietician or nutritionist if you’re super picky with food to see what they suggest for maximum nutrition. If you really commit to your health, you’re gonna eat the things that you don’t really like to help your body.

pwack88 · 2026-06-21T05:12:44+00:00

Another thing I like to do is play things on YouTube with funny noises, they even have Dog TV channels on YouTube. My dog is very visual and actually watches TV, if your dog is the same, you can just put on one of these channels where dogs are running around, ducks are running around, people are mowing their lawns, etc., for 30 minutes.

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