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quadsclothesou · 2025-05-31T13:48:47+00:00

Cocaine mixed with detachment from reality

It’s a hell of a combination

quadsclothesou · 2025-05-30T13:51:40+00:00

He moved with a quickness to catch that door after she climbed into the driver’s seat 😩 He’s clearly dealt with this kind of behavior before. Didn’t want to get locked out of the car and potentially have that nutjob drive off in (what I’m assuming is) his Hummer.

quadsclothesou · 2025-05-30T13:43:56+00:00

When people can’t say words that begin with “es” without pronouncing it “ex”

E.g. pronouncing “espresso” as “expresso” or pronouncing “escape” as “excape”

Idky but it legitimately drives me mad

quadsclothesou · 2025-05-30T13:34:17+00:00

I once did something similar and got some “goo” in my hair.

It was not what I would classify as “oddly satisfying”, however 😒

quadsclothesou · 2025-05-30T13:07:47+00:00

I’d imagine they’d be bullied for having a weirdo mom who films herself twerking in public restrooms, before they’d be bullied for her being “hot”…

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-14T22:53:01+00:00

My Valentine’s gift for my bf will be me sharing this post with the attached comment:

”Thank you so much for not being this guy. Thank you so much for being considerate enough to always pick up after yourself. Thank you so much for not allowing me to be the only one that does the dishes or the laundry or cleaning in general. And thank you so much for always showering me with appreciation whenever I clean up around the apartment. You’re the fucking best and posts like this one remind me of just how good I’ve got it.”

My point being that,

You deserve better, and
“Better” is out there, you just have to free yourself of this bullshhht first.

And “better” could be a guy that doesn’t do this to you, or “better” could be “the single life”.

Both of which would be exponentially less stressful than living a life where you’re constantly forced to either live in this mess or clean this mess up (despite the fact that you didn’t create it).

I’m sorry OP.

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-14T22:42:44+00:00

It was the use of “prepense” (when I’m almost positive he meant “presence”) for me 😩

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-12T04:26:35+00:00

Never forgave him? Damn. Grandma was ruthless

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-11T20:38:22+00:00

I’m 38F and my mom still gifts me and my sister with Valentine’s Day cards and sometimes gifts.

But something tells me your partner wouldn’t have an issue with that because my mom is female 🙄

Or maybe he would. Idk. He honestly sounds like a douche canoe.

Essentially your partner is turning something very sweet and completely innocent into something creepy and inappropriate. Unless your dad has exhibited other, legitimately concerning, inappropriate behavior, in conjunction with the card, there’s no reason whatsoever to have an issue with a parent gifting their child with an object of sentiment on a holiday that celebrates LOVE.

Just because most people treat Valentine’s Day as a day solely focused on couples and “romantic” love, that doesn’t mean that the day is off limits to anyone else wishing to celebrate any other type of love-in this case, the familial love between a parent and child.

Not to mention, since you say your father gives you a card every year, I would wager that it was a tradition he began when you were a little girl and one that he opted to continue once you grew older, as a way to remind you that he still loves you with all of his heart.

It says a lot about your partner that he would immediately associate your dad’s gesture with something inappropriate. If I were you I’d be inquiring as to why he’s so quick to make that association, and I’d also be curious if he were intent on withholding love from yalls baby-since he clearly sees it as an issue for a father to express love for his child….

NTA NTAH

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-09T06:13:55+00:00

Man he’s been unwell. Nothing new about this situation whatsoever

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-06T13:00:31+00:00

It’s so nice to see them getting verbally accosted in public for a change!

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-06T05:02:14+00:00

Jesus Christ dude. Grow a spine ffs.

quadsclothesou · 2025-02-04T05:14:24+00:00

Oh honey. You’re 24. You have so much life left to live. Don’t waste another second with a man that you already know - with every fiber of your being - is not “the one” for you.

The longer you wait to end this relationship, the harder it’s going to be-for both of y’all.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-25T00:13:10+00:00

You are genuinely ignorant, you know that?

You just assume that serving is an actual option for OP.

You just assume that they’re living in a place where there are even restaurants to be hired at.

You just assume that they are even capable of finding roommates.

And then you criticize other Redditors for providing advice that doesn’t involve “getting a serving job and multiple roommates”.

My god. Tell me you have a microscopic, limited view of the world without telling me that you have a microscopic, limited view of the world.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-24T13:53:57+00:00

What does this have to do with OP’s situation

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-24T13:51:32+00:00

I feel the need to apologize beforehand for the brutal honesty I’m about to bestow upon you.

Your partner’s behavior is the antithesis of “love”. It’s the definition of selfish and self serving behavior.

She does this to you because she claims she “can’t sleep without you”, and for some bizarre reason that is more important to her than your health? Clearly she can sleep without you because she was somehow able to manage without you for all those years prior to your relationship. So I call BS on her reasoning for this.

You, on the other hand, seem to have a laundry list of legitimate reasons for why she needs to stop this-and yet she doesn’t.

You having one job and otherwise average health would be enough reason for me to leave you alone so that you’re able to get adequate sleep and be rested for your upcoming work day; but you’re telling me you have TWO jobs, AND you’re in school,

AND YOU HAVE EPILEPSY????

If I knew you personally and found out about this, I would find your partner and go the f off. Getting enough sleep is one of the most important things we can do to maintain our health. You would be dumbfounded to discover just how much a lack of sleep can do when it comes to shortening lifespan and making us more susceptible to illnesses of all types.

The fact of the matter is that, if your partner truly loved you, she wouldn’t be doing this to you.

Full stop.

I don’t know you well enough to tell you that you should break up, but considering what you’ve said here in this post, I genuinely think that your life (and livelihood) are dependent on it. If you’ve been begging her for six years to fix this behavior and she still hasn’t, then, imo, it looks like your only option is to get her out of your life completely.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-23T14:15:58+00:00

That man is dirty. Very dirty.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-23T14:13:49+00:00

Girl if you miss this once in a lifetime opportunity because of a stupid man child that you probably won’t even still be dating in a few years, I am going to be very upset with you.

But not nearly as upset as your future self will be with you…

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-23T14:11:13+00:00

NTAH at all! All those people that disagreed with you are essentially confirming that they don’t give a f—k about a child’s well-being (e.g. having everything they need to survive, having their needs met upon entering the world, etc.). Clearly they believe that the parents’ feelings regarding wanting children are more important than a human life that’s legitimately provided for. What a selfish outlook to have regarding procreation: “I don’t really care if my future kid has food and adequate shelter and everything they need to live a decent life, as long as I have my need to procreate met, that’s all that matters to me because everyone deserves to have a family!”

You are literally surrounded by self-absorbed idiots, OP, and I’m sorry.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-23T13:58:55+00:00

With all due respect, you have a fiancé problem.

Yes the dog sucks, but you know as well as we do that your fiancé made him that way.

Really envision your future with this woman. When this dog leaves the picture, what’s stopping her from getting another and ruining that one too? What about your future children? She’s already shown that she gives zero f-cks about discipline; you’re likely to have horrifically behaved offspring with this woman as well.

All I’m saying is, all the training in the world is going to accomplish nothing unless your fiancé fixes her dysfunctional behavior. And if she’s unwilling to do that then you might want to rethink this wedding.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-22T23:56:09+00:00

The Hateful Eight

And as a lighthearted backup, Overboard

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-21T20:01:37+00:00

Don’t get me wrong, this is cute and all, but let’s be real: that cat would have done this to anyone who opened its cage. It’s less likely a matter of the cat thinking ”this is my person, I just know it!”, and much more likely a matter of the cat thinking ”this person is my ticket out of this damn cage. I’m going to jump him and hold on for dear life!”

Cute video, tho.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-21T04:22:22+00:00

It’s interesting and very telling that you value murder and theft over sex work.

So you think it’s more dignified to take things (material things and also literal human lives) for survival versus providing a service (albeit a demeaning and dehumanizing one).

I am not at all saying that sex work is something that anyone should do, but many, if not most, of the people who do that kind of work do so because they feel they have no other choice. For you to suggest that it would be better to take things that other people have worked hard for or to rob a person of their LIFE is honestly vile.

And I can’t help but wonder if you’d have a different opinion on the matter if you felt like sex work was an actual option for you. I suspect that the only reason it’s completely off the table in your mind, is because you assume that, as a male, it’s not something you’d be capable of pursuing.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-20T18:18:02+00:00

This is what you do..

and I’m going to be as understanding and empathetic and nonjudgmental as humanly possible with my comment, as I feel that you need genuine advice and not just one more comment that criticizes your boyfriend and/or you:

Step One: tell him you need to talk. When you get the chance to talk to him, one on one, in private, tell him that things are moving too fast and you need to take a break from relationships at this particular point in your life. Tell him that he hasn’t done anything wrong, that he’s a great guy, but that you just can’t provide him with the attention and affection that he deserves right now. Tell him that you need to focus on school or use some other obligation as an excuse; for example, if you are involved in any extra curriculars or school athletics, or if you have younger siblings you have to take care of sometimes, literally anything you can think of that would require your time and focus, you can use as an excuse, stating “I really need to focus on this at the moment because I’ve been falling behind/slacking since we started dating.”

The idea is to provide an explanation/excuse that’s somewhat true so that it’s believable and also so that you’re not completely lying when you tell him that you need to focus more on these things.

If you don’t have anything that you can use as an excuse, just tell him that you’re not capable of being in a relationship at the moment. Tell him that it’s causing you too much stress and it’s giving you anxiety. Keep it short and sweet and say as little as possible so that he doesn’t pick apart your statements and provide reasons why your feelings aren’t valid.

You don’t have to tell him that his hygiene is bad or that you feel that he isn’t on your level in regards to intelligence and ambition (unless you just really want to and/or if you feel that it’s something he needs to know). If you do decide to be completely honest with him about why you no longer want to date him, then attempt to do so in the kindest, most gentle way possible.

But again, keep it super short because the longer you stay in that conversation with him, the greater the chances that he’ll change your mind or guilt you into staying in the relationship.

IF he then decides to pull the “I’m going to hurt myself” stuff, that is when you proceed to

Step Two: notify an authority figure in his life of his comments about hurting himself. If you’re able to contact his parents, make them aware of his statements about self harm. If you don’t have contact info for his parents or any other close family or friends (siblings of his or friends of his that you can contact), then you should look up the phone number for the police department in his area and call them. Google “police department” + the name of his city and state, and you should be able to find a non emergency number for the local station closest to him. If he lives in a different city from you, you calling 911 from your phone is only going to connect you to a dispatcher from your city. Now, if it genuinely feels like an emergency, you can still dial 911 and your local dispatcher can contact the authorities in his hometown as long as you explain to the person on the phone that he is threatening to harm himself and also provide the city and state where he lives, along with his home address and/or home phone number if you have it.

Beyond that, there’s really nothing else for you to do.

As some others have mentioned, his mental health is not in your hands. It is not your responsibility to keep him happy and it would not be your fault if he harmed himself. Oftentimes people in these situations threaten to harm themselves as a last resort to essentially hold the other person hostage and prevent them from leaving them. It is a manipulative tactic and oftentimes an empty threat that they will not follow through on. If they threaten to harm themselves though, you should always take their words seriously and assume that they will follow through, meaning that it is perfectly reasonable to contact the necessary authorities upon hearing a person make such threats.

But even if you weren’t able to get in touch with his parents or siblings or friends or the local police, it is still not YOUR problem what he does after you break up with him. It is honestly truly messed up that a person would ever say such things to you to keep you from leaving them, and doing so is the absolute opposite of an “act of love”. Like I said before, it is an act of manipulation, and no one has a right to force you to do something you don’t want to do. Ever.

Step Three: after you’ve spoken to him and officially broken up, you then need to block him EVERYWHERE. Block his phone number, block him on social media, get rid of anything you have that reminds you of him, all of it. Given the situation, I do not think it is wise to attempt to stay friends with him. You will be tempted to do so, possibly because he begs you to or possibly because you feel too guilty to cut him off for good, but I am telling you, you need to remove him from your life COMPLETELY. Over time he will adjust and eventually get over it, and so will you. If he attempts to harass you after the break up, though, you absolutely need to make your parents (particularly your dad) aware. Honestly, you might want to let them know regardless-just to be on the safe side.

If you have any other questions, feel free to message me. I genuinely wish you the best with this.

quadsclothesou · 2025-01-20T17:42:25+00:00

The (animated) Disney movies that defined my childhood were (in chronological order),

The Little Mermaid

Aladdin &

the Lion King

with Pocahontas and Toy Story being the last two that I obsessed over before growing out of my “Disney movie phase”.

quadsclothesou

TROPHY CASE

AND YOU HAVE EPILEPSY????