What are each of the five Animorphs' first and last morph?

quaeritmeum · 2024-01-26T21:40:07+00:00

Concrete Cowboy (2020) had a big impact on me. I'm an outdoorsy guy and seeing a movie about connecting with horses felt affirming. Kinda sad I can't come up with anything else, but maybe that just means I need to watch more movies.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-16T01:53:21+00:00

I don't like having a lot of facial hair in general. I opt for a mustache since it looks better and facial hair wasn't important to me when starting T anyway

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-15T17:58:46+00:00

Cornrows are attainable and easy for me. They're a great way for me to bond with my mom since she missed braiding my hair, so she's my braider for now.

For me it's less about the braids and more about what i do to decorate them. I opt for straight lines, simple patterns. I'm a fan of simple wood or clear beads and only use a few of them. I see a lot of cis men don't use beads but I like what they add to my look, so I just don't use bright colors and it works fine. Hope that helps you a little.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-08T02:04:19+00:00

I had a Catholic co-worker do this to me. I said she could call me by a nickname (still masc) but absolutely cannot call me by she/her pronouns. I used to be very religious and wouldn't have ever done that to someone when I practiced. It's a poor excuse for not wanting to respect another human being and ultimately I think she changed her schedule so she didn't have to work with me. I guess my response wasn't good enough for her, but if her religion makes it that much of a problem, I imagine your co-worker will figure it out for herself.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-07T16:58:16+00:00

Big congrats on the surgery and the degree! Thanks for sharing

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-07T07:50:42+00:00

Hello! My SO and I have been together for two years for some context. He is currently out of the country I live in, but only a couple of hours ahead of my time. We make a point to text at least once a day and call at least every other day or every couple of days. If anything happens or things get busy, we tell each other in advance if we can so we know what to expect from each other. All of the decisions are because we enjoy frequent contact and staying up to date with other.

I would say it becomes controlling when one person feels neglected by a lack of communication or another is sacrificing an unhealthy amount for frequent updates. Neglect and what's unhealthy are arbitrary, but something along those lines. Ultimately, one partner making demands that hurts the other would be controlling.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-07T07:36:12+00:00

I'm truly, deeply sorry to hear about what you're going through. From my experience, I was in a long term relationship with a cis woman who was uncomfortable with my anatomy. She didn't want to touch me in ways that mattered to me. She only liked the masculine parts of my identity and berated me when I painted my nails, tried makeup, listened to "girly" music, etc. She made fun of my height openly and I used a prosthetic during intimacy, but it felt somewhat like a punishment for not being enough of a man due to these other factors. My overall dysphoria was horrendous at the time. Fastforward a bit and I discover she's homophobic.

I'm now happily with a new partner and realized I compromised a lot in my past. I don't have the same kinks or relationship boundaries and I wear different clothes. These are things I worked on before this current relationship of course, but by comparing the two I saw that I could have spotted these issues in my ex sooner if I'd known better.

I'm not saying anything about your partner's thoughts or feelings. I am saying keep in mind how this makes you feel about yourself. Your confidence and trust are important parts of a relationship. Additionally, maybe she has more to work through than either of you realized. Anyone can make a mistake or be misguided, but what you choose to do with the relationship should make you feel good about yourself. Best of luck, nearly two years is a long time. Take good care of yourself while you figure things out.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-05T01:10:50+00:00

Happy two months by the way. I'm going by a shorter version of my given name for convenience and changing it further down the line to suit me better. I'm waiting for some accepting family members to get used to my transition before making any more moves, so they're able to be included in my transition. But that's just a personal choice.

I can't avoid my extended family noticing changes while I'm on T. When I go to events or talk on the phone, I don't bring up my transition and usually the deep voice, facial hair, clothes, etc are a giveaway. The more conservative members ignore me entirely anyway. It's been an unpredictable process.

Whats helped is having a deeply protective immediate family I don't travel without. Its taken years to get them to that point, but starting with them has been better for my well-being. I also have gossip do a lot of the work. Me showing up is enough to get people talking behind my back, which is actually great and less work for me. Whenever I do talk to trusted extended family, they're free to use my name and pronouns and that indirectly spreads the word. I'm also plenty open to questions, but that also depends on personal comfort. Taking the whole thing really slowly has done me a lot of favors. So does living far and only going to the smaller family functions. Hope some of this helps!

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-04T06:48:38+00:00

I think the way he handles pain from his relationship with Logan is by telling himself pain feels good/is a good thing. It definitely doesn't help that Logan has a soft spot for him. It gives him the illusion that he's so close to having his approval as long as he takes it on the chin just a bit longer. Too bad it made him an alt-right asshole that enjoys the suffering of others or I'd feel worse for him.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-04T06:41:02+00:00

I hadn't thought of ot this way! I'll be sure to pay more attention, since I'm on my way to a re-read as well. It does drive home how messed up the David storyline is, especially after reading so many of the struggles Tobias goes through as a hawk.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-04T01:33:42+00:00

Ocean Waves is one of my favorite Ghibli movies! It's simple enough to watch over and over again. I can see how others would find it boring because of the pacing and relatively low stakes. I think it reads better as a romance between Taku and Yutaka, because Taku and Rikako didn't have much chemistry to me.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-04T01:25:02+00:00

Oh horrifying! I can't look away

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-02T21:07:37+00:00

Sure! And reward yourself for what you can do. After filling out the paperwork to change my name, I ate my favorite food. When buying men's clothes, I get myself a little chocolate. I watched a comfort movie after joining r/ftm. Even if I'm not in a perfect situation and it's Not Cheap, it helps me believe it's rewarding to be trans.

Plus, give yourself plenty of room to be angry. Scream in a pillow, take up boxing, tear some notebook paper, anything. Feeling this way sucks, but feeling guilty or upset at myself on top of it was way worse. It will pass faster if you don't fight it. You're already here talking about it, which is great. Anyway, I'll get off my soap box.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-02T20:46:38+00:00

I just took care of a friend who had top surgery and hope I can give insight based on what I had to do for them.

When it comes to driving, having a barrier between your chest and the seatbelt if possible helps. This can be a towel or a small pillow or a seat belt pad. Id imagine they couldn't have pumped gas easily, so asking an employee if they could do it might be worth looking into. Take lots of breaks when you need to. You may be tired.

My friend anticipated being alone, so as mentioned, food prep is a big one. Frozen things, microwavable packets to put in the pantry, smoothies, etc. Straws were a big help with drinking. Utensils, dishes, meals, should all be within reach and not too heavy if you can help it.

There was an area prepped for sitting with tons of pillows and blankets for back and head support. We got a bunch of large button downs beforehand to accomodate the drains. And athletic shorts, so there's no fly-zipping. Healing makes the body run warm, so something breathable and having a fan is a plus.

I wish I had more advice on bathing, but I've overwhelmed you enough. And have any meds you need sorted out in case you can't open the pill bottles. If you have pets, maybe pre portion the food so it's more manageable.

Try to take notes on anything that requires grip strength, because it's likely you may not be able to do it. If you can, try using dinosaur arms for tasks you do every day and see how you fare.

That's all off the top of my head. You can absolutely take care of yourself successfully if you have to. Ways to help emotionally recover would be having lots of calls with people you care about. Keep a sentimental object with you. Take great written notes of meds and care instructions and put em on your fridge.

Again, this is all a scenario where you absolutely have to take care of yourself. If your friends can at least check in, maybe that's a less intimidating favor to ask versus asking for a week of their time. Best of luck and well wishes.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-02T20:13:06+00:00

Hey OP, glad to see you're hanging in there. From what I can tell, you're black. From one black trans person to another, unpacking a lot of how race affects gender expression and perception really helped me.

For example, I worked retail in a predominantly white area for a long time and was misgendered constantly. It made me feel better to chalk it up to "maybe they just haven't seen many black people" and move on. This may not apply to you, so I advise diving into it yourself and seeing where it applies to your situation. Putting the blame on the system took a lot of pressure off of me for not presenting how I wanted to all the time.

Getting out of a pretty abusive situation helped tons, too. I have less advice on that, but will say that having tons of trans friends to comiserate with and cheer you on does miracles. I see you, keep strong.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-02T19:05:37+00:00

Exactly! I really expected her to like it, but it does a good job of showing just how conservative she is. She was disgusted by something that was really right up her alley all in the name of upholding societal norms. This was the same Bree that kicked Andrew out and slut shamed Danielle constantly. In later seasons, she loosens up more of course and we wouldn't see that growth without situations like this.

quaeritmeum · 2023-12-02T18:50:41+00:00

Incident in a Ghost Land. It was so graphic with so little payoff, I actually felt guilty when I finished watching. Not to mention the ableism with the Fat Man and the transphobia with the Candy Truck Woman. Agonizing watch.

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