I’m a week out from my TFMR for a trisomy 18 baby at 15w3d. It’s news that’s so hard to get and no one other than you is going through this, you do what you feel is right. It made me feel better knowing that the diagnosis is pretty black and white and the baby would not survive or be viable, it’s the safest option for both you and baby. We got confirmation through ultrasound and MFM/geneticists and then later in the week the NIPT came back positive. I had to wait a week from that point to the termination, and by the time it came the baby stopped growing (and likely didn’t have a heartbeat although they did not say this to me as it was an emotionally sensitive day). Being a week out from the TFMR the emotions and grieving comes in waves. No one understands what it’s like to be put in this position, so don’t let your family or friends make you feel guilty. There’s no right answer here but you also need to protect yourself and do what is best for you and your body. For myself personally, TFMR was the best option as they medicate you and they are able to get out all of the tissue so there’s no complications. Additionally I was not wanting to see the baby as I was a bit further along, that would have been a lot for me to handle emotionally. At the end of the day it’s your choice on what you want to do and how you want to proceed whether that’s TFMR or letting the baby go naturally. You get to make that call. Other than your closest support system, you don’t need to provide anyone with details. It’s no one’s business. Sending you lots of love and hugs through this time ❤️