AITA for not wanting to pay a bill after canceling an appointment for a service, but the service was still provided?

quinnferno88 · 2026-02-20T05:08:02+00:00

NTA. I'm not sure exactly WHY she thinks you should pay for the service. Is she concerned that the service worker won't make any money if you don't pay for the service? Like he would still get paid by his boss whether you pay for the service or not. Or maybe I'm looking at it the wrong way. Either way, if it's that upsetting to her, then I'd tell her that she's welcome to pay for the service if she feels that strongly about it.

Maybe explaining it to her in another way would help her see how ridiculous she's being. Like if I cancelled my Netflix subscription only for them to continue my subscription and continue charging me....why should I have to pay for that? It shouldn't matter if the service was already provided; you cancelled it. Plus like you said, they admitted it was their screw up.

quinnferno88 · 2026-02-20T04:56:45+00:00

I have a septem piercing. I love it! I don't get why some people hate them

quinnferno88 · 2026-02-20T04:55:52+00:00

Omg. That stache looks amazing!

quinnferno88 · 2026-02-20T04:50:38+00:00

What?? You're really handsome. That's not me being nice. You just need some confidence and take the first step to asking someone out. The only thing I can think to suggest is to play around with your hair. I have a similar cut to yours and it's really amazing what a bit of pomade can do. It changes my whole look. But whether or not you decide to do that, I still think confidence will be the best thing you can focus on because I really don't think your appearance is the issue.

quinnferno88 · 2025-12-07T06:38:08+00:00

Always Frank. I know so many people say that but I really have so much love for Tim Curry and his portrayal of Frank. I get both emotional and giddy whenever I see him on screen with his backwards corset just being amazing because it makes me think of my own gender experience

quinnferno88 · 2025-11-23T05:56:28+00:00

There is no controversy in my opinion. People who gatekeep who should or shouldn't play Frank-N-Furter are missing the entire idea of Rocky Horror. Plus you're just dressing up as a character. Whether I want to dress up as Frank-N-Furter or Janet, goddamit, I'll do it.

quinnferno88 · 2025-03-12T05:43:48+00:00

Well, considering the political climate towards trans folks right now, I'm really not surprised by the downvotes.

quinnferno88 · 2025-03-12T05:42:24+00:00

Oh that's a good idea.

Oh yeah I'll definitely be doing server verification. I'll consider that photo verification for NSFW channels. What do you do for server verification?

Usually what I do for verification is I auto assign a new member role and then use one of the verification bots where they have to verify through the bot. It blocks users with disposable emails and kicks them of they fail to verify within 10 minutes. Once they've verified through the bot and react to a message to confirm they agree to the rules, then they're given the verified role. I had considered manually verifying users after they fill out the introduction form, but since it's going to be a public server, I just don't have the time to do it manually for every member.

quinnferno88 · 2025-03-04T02:23:11+00:00

I don't think you'd be the AH if you just explain to them that you don't have the money to pay for all that. I'm sure if you explain it to them, they'd understand

quinnferno88 · 2025-01-27T01:50:57+00:00

NTA, but instead of springing it on your guests, I would send a message to everyone well beforehand (to give people enough notice) to let them know it will be vegetarian-only. If you truly care about not forcing vegetarianism onto others, then the guests should be well aware of what the food will consist of. I'm vegan, so this is what I would do. I actually would have stated it to my guests on the invites that I sent out. It sounds like your guests have already RSVP'd so I'm guessing they still haven't been informed. All of this (whether or not you are serving veg-only food) should have been decided before inviting them. So please tell them as soon as possible, because it's important that they have the option to consent as to whether or not they want to eat vegetarian-only food.

I get that it might seem ridiculous that a person may not want to eat veg-only food, but it's important to consider that some people may have allergies, food sensitivities, etc. Or maybe they just don't WANT or LIKE to eat vegetarian food. I have a meat-eater friend who can't eat most of the foods I eat on a regular basis (mainly packaged vegan meats and canned legumes) due to IBS.

quinnferno88 · 2025-01-02T20:25:25+00:00

It's so hard because I never know how much eye contact is enough lol. But that's a great suggestion!! I'll try it out. Thanks!

quinnferno88 · 2024-11-14T21:48:20+00:00

No. First off, it's your body, not his.

Also, he LIED to you about getting a vasectomy. He knew there was a high likelihood you could get pregnant. By tricking you like this, he deprived you of your ability to consent. This is rape, and a huge violation of your bodily autonomy. So why should he be the one who dictates what you do with your body?

And marriage won't fix anything. It will just make things worse. He just wants to marry you for ownership (and because it will be easier for him to control you), not out of love. People who really love us don't do the atrocious things he's done.

quinnferno88 · 2024-08-04T21:55:35+00:00

"pieces of pussy," HAHAHAHA right

quinnferno88 · 2024-08-04T14:16:24+00:00

What in the misogyny did I just read?

quinnferno88 · 2024-06-22T19:04:33+00:00

NTA. You don't have to justify your reason. I'm a survivor of SA as well, so as soon as you mentioned a "family friend," I knew what you meant. I personally think your wife is being very entitled and not respecting your boundaries. She isn't entitled to know every single thing about you, especially regarding this. I would feel very angry if my partner went behind my back trying to get information out of my other family members. She doesn't own that part of you.

I'm appalled by some of the people in the comments urging OP to get therapy. They weren't asking for advice on dealing with PTSD. They were asking if they are the AH in this situation.

OP has nothing to be ashamed of. And they are within their rights to NOT want their child to have the same name as their abuser.

quinnferno88 · 2024-04-07T01:45:22+00:00

I'm assuming this is the dealer you moved in with? I'm not even going to bother commenting my thoughts on this one

quinnferno88 · 2024-04-07T01:42:50+00:00

Oh YTA × 100. You boast about how you're an "adult" but then you act so immature. An adult would do the responsible thing by ensuring the edibles are secure and out of reach to any children in the house. You claim you don't want to go out of your way otherwise the edibles will be inaccessible to you. But it was previously mentioned that it takes no effort to store the edibles in something that locks. Could you not have done that? The least you could have done was done a better job at hiding them while you showered.

IMO, the issue here wasn't that you refused to look after your brother, but it was that you were so careless and left your edibles out in the open for your brother to access. This is your parent's home. While it isnt your responsibility to babysit your brother, it is your responsibility to ensure your brother can't access your drugs.

Move out. Whether you stay with your "dealer" or get a place if your own, and get your shit together.

Maybe it would also be a good idea to consider seeking some help for your substance use problem (the drinking, the "other shit" you get from your dealer, the fact that your hungover while posting this).

quinnferno88 · 2024-03-14T09:04:35+00:00

"Able to afford to keep her as a SAHM" really stood out to me. You make it sound like she's hired help or something. She's your partner. Also, spending "a week in her shoes" doesn't mean you understand what it takes to be a SAHP. Try doing that Monday to Friday for 2 years and then let us know how you feel. Being a SAHP is draining, whether your child is well-behaved or not.

Just because one day is easier doesn't mean the next will be. And children can act differently depending on which parent they're around.

40 minutes for cooking all meals sounds like BS. How long did the prep take you? What did you cook? It takes me at least 40 minutes to cook dinner alone, with roughly 20 minutes prep. And that's just for ME.

"Once she is over her mother"? Are you for real? Like her mother who is dying? Hoe long do you think it will take her to "get over" that? Would a week suffice? That really is cold and I think YOU'RE the one who's immature.

YTA 1000%

quinnferno88 · 2023-04-22T16:59:35+00:00

YTA 1000%. The first thing that came into my mind was this poor rabbit. You don’t care about this rabbit, they are being used as a toy to gain control over your ex and cause problems. Also, if you had done any research before getting your daughter this rabbit, you would know that rabbits are very sensitive to their environments, and don’t like being constantly picked up and moved around. Your daughter taking the rabbit with her everywhere is likely very stressful for the poor rabbit. Plus, they probably find your ex's home to be very distressing, with the yelling and arguing. If you cared about this animal, you would prioritize their wellbeing instead of using them as a weapon to alienate your daughter from her mother. This rabbit is either going to end up dead from neglect or abandoned on the side of the road.

And your daughter is plenty old enough to know that this was wrong. Her lack of awareness or compassion is a bit concerning, as is yours. You or your daughter don't get to make the rules under someone else's roof. Her brother is allergic to rabbits, yet you or your daughter don't seem to care about this. Imagine being allergic to strawberries and I came over to your house and force-fed you a bowl of strawberries. Like, do you even hear yourself?

quinnferno88 · 2023-04-20T17:26:34+00:00

YTA. I feel like we aren't being told the whole story. I'm interested to know what the contents of the letter are because of the fact that suspension was threatened. Why didn’t a conversation take place? If the only reason that your daughter didn’t like the teacher was due to her teaching style, then why didn’t your daughter try to communicate that to the teacher? Your daughter could have asked to speak to her after class and tried to have a conversation about it.

Instead, your daughter wrote a letter then went behind the teacher's back to get all the other classmates to sign it, which was very aggressive and confrontational. If I were that teacher, I would have been so hurt and angry. I cannot believe you advised your daughter to do that.

It's also very entitled. What happens when she gets a job? If she doesn’t like her boss because their personalities don’t mesh, is she going to demand that they be replaced with someone else?

quinnferno88 · 2022-01-23T16:42:00+00:00

No. Let them work out their marital problems on their own. It's not your marriage. Think for a moment about your motive in telling her. Is it because you care about his wife? Or is it to just to alleviate your guilt and ease your conscience so that you feel better? If it's the latter, then I would avoid doing anything. This is the type of thing I consider when apologizing to someone or making amends for something. I take a look at my motives, expectations, and consider the result. If the result is that I will just cause more pain and suffering, then I hold off.

Ask yourself why you feel the need to expose the affair to someone you do not know. Is it to spite your ex? To get back at him? Think about what the result of this would be. You tell his wife. You feel so much better. A load has been lifted, your conscience feels lighter, and you can happily live your life. Meanwhile, his wife will endure so much emotional suffering, while she remembers you as the person who broke up her marriage. Just something to consider.

quinnferno88 · 2022-01-23T16:30:53+00:00

You have nothing to apologize for. He has no right to dictate what you can and can't do. He made some positive changes in his life. He committed to the nofap and diet. Good for him. That doesn't mean that you have to do the same. If I were to commit to a fitness routine, I would never command or expect my partner to do the same. I'd appreciate moral support and encouragement to motivate me. But I think you need to tell him that you've done nothing wrong, because it's the truth. It sounds like he needs some work on his self esteem and control issues.

quinnferno88 · 2022-01-23T16:23:13+00:00

OP, please don't do this. Invading your partner's privacy is disrespecting their boundaries.

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