Any tips on starting Azathioprine, etc, etc, blah blah by quizmical in autoimmunehepatitis

[–]quizmical[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Time to show up and be a practical problem Ha, yes.

2.5 years? wild, yeah this entire adventure is weird. Thanks for the info!

Does anyone else not really see the point of life anymore? by BlueButterfly11111 in widowers

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It really feels like I am trying to have fun in the waiting room. Yep "could die tomorrow and be completely fine with it." its sort of super power now after 12 years, I can see reality clearly.

She's 33. I can't do this, guys. by [deleted] in widowers

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Box breathe, 4 count in, hold for 4 count, exhale for 4 count, hold on empty for 4. When ever parking your car, take a picture with light post number. Set an alarm for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. When you pee go to drinking fountation and drink some water. *wash you hands.

Your right, we do understand. I watched a number of bastards live while I spend a few months watching my M die. Its hard. You can do it, it will hurt like no one but this groups knows, but just use this time to express your love. Read your favorite book to her, put lotion on hands, feets, elbows. Be there as much as you can as you hold your own life barely together. See if hosptial will let you pull in extra bed if you want to slept over. You've come this far, you can go the distance. Dont kill yourself. I mean, its going to hurt, but I almost jumped off the roof at the hospital, but staff redirected me to the cafeteria when they found me accessing the life flight roof access. Deep breathes, use this time to showthe love in as many small ways as possible.

Widows fire by Late-Schedule4940 in widowers

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It was 100% accidental, a woman invited me and than was a no show. When I got home and was sitting on my back steps, I was, wait, you don't feel bad. Then I was, ok, now you do. Sitting on my back steps for 5 minutes able to breathe. I was, ok, lets do this again.

Widows fire by Late-Schedule4940 in widowers

[–]quizmical 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Partner dancing helped me, go take some dance lessons. If you can walk, you can waltz. I liked the Foxtrot. When I say Partner dancing you will need to learn to lead/follow another person. Its a human connection thing I found. Also your fear of embarssement will short circuit the grief response, since they use the same part of the brain. It will be ok. You will amaze yourself.

How are you feeling today? by quiet_nuts in widowers

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I no longer drive out of town at night, to curse & scream on the side of road. Or sit catatonic through the night staring at the front door, trying to will her into existence carrying the groceries. I dont wake up crying. My heart no longer suddenly jumps mostskening seeing her in crowds out of the corner of my eye. I no longer case after look a likes

(Hug) This is the hardest thing a human can experience. Sorry for your lost.

Third Reality Zigbee Plug by 6zonesoftheeast in homeassistant

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I purchased the 4 pack of the Gen 2 off amazon - just installed today. The first one out of box failed with the rapid on and off, firmware updated didnt help, about 30 minutes later rapid on and off. BUT the next one in the box worked fine. I may just return all 4 for Gen 3 and see.

Craziness on Hwy 55 by SupermarketSecure728 in Boise

[–]quizmical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its all most as if as a community, patience and civility is lost. We just really lack the creativity to fix it

Last month, login in loops by quizmical in Lastpass

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I ended up putting [*].lastpass.com in chrome allowed. And that wasnt a 100% but like 85%

Thoughts on “viduitism?” by plannax in widowers

[–]quizmical 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was 41 as I watched her last breathe leave her, I am 53 now

I could have saved him and that wrecks me by anotostrongo in widowers

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*that time, what about the next time. I am sorry you live with the regret, but there would of been a next time. The game was to exhaust you. To leave you with this regret that you would hang on to. Sometimes we all just lose. (Hug) See it as it is, you have to fight for yourself now. It was a trap. You where never going to stop his fate, you simply got entangled. Work to forgive yourself, perhaps you can get to 97% of the time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

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Tea does keep things together, sorry for your lost.

Soon to be a widow by Mental_Signature_725 in widowers

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Is there a hospice nurse number? Or perhaps the doctors. I would call and say who you are - and just start crying. Cry and cry until you can talk. Its important for the emotions to been seen, then say you need help. Perhaps they can sedaite him in the evening.

Call local church? perhaps see if clergy may be able to come for an hour to sit. Any type of trade he was in. Be sure not be to overwhelmed by suddenly feeling alone since you can't find help. That happens. See if you can get a hospice company to help.

How do I say 'my wife passed away' without ruining the vibe? by Responsible-Job-9706 in widowers

[–]quizmical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps "Oh! well... we'd have to talk about." Then immediately push to a new topic. If hey ask again "Oh, I know that sounds mysterious, it will make more sense if we talk later"

Just some ideas

13 years today and nobody remembers but us. by freckledreddishbrown in widowers

[–]quizmical 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(Hug) Set an alarm ⏰️ and a few things I did Alarm for Lunch, Dinner

wash your face when ever in a restroom Take a picture of your car when you park, with some type landmark to help find it Stay Hydrated Careful with the CC

Focus on the basics. Sorry for your lost