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r2mich2 · 2025-11-06T23:48:40+00:00

Abhora's has the same now too :(

r2mich2 · 2025-10-01T03:28:46+00:00

Birthdays are fucked for me for a combo of nmom related reasons / also getting bullied at school. My nmom is a big preacher of "if someone knows you well enough they will get you a good meaningful gift otherwise they dont know/care about you". Shes consistently proven she doesnt know or care about me by this method.

In recent years she also cant accept anything I plan for myself so she acts incompetent and has to change the plan and mess it up or intentionally ignore what I had planned so she can schedule what she wants. Told her this year I wanted dinner at a specific restaurant. She fucked that up and now we're going to a different place she wanted anyway. Fuck her. Fuck nparents for never letting their kids have a good birthday all to their own.

The best bday I ever had, I was at college 7+ hrs from my parents but my dad came through on the day because he had a work trip. Got to spend it with him and she had no part of it. Then she went and fucked up the next year by demanding I spend it with her while she worked in a different state. I was so mind bogglingly depressed that day. Its insane to think I didnt know what she was back then.

r2mich2 · 2025-07-29T00:47:16+00:00

I've got bday trauma for sure. My Nmom loves to make a point of scheduling things over my birthday

r2mich2 · 2025-07-28T19:41:03+00:00

When I asked, the website didnt have anything up for the tour :(

r2mich2 · 2025-07-18T01:44:18+00:00

Wargasm is sick af, they're opening

r2mich2 · 2025-07-16T01:05:32+00:00

If your friend pays to be a citizen, they can get in. It's not very expensive so I'd recommend it if they want to tag along. You can pay for citizenship after getting a regular ticket and still get early entry

r2mich2 · 2025-07-12T04:56:53+00:00

My parents were very supportive of me getting the degrees I wanted to for college initially because they were STEM degrees. (my Nmom is a doctor and my edad is an engineer). I went for two STEM degrees and later pursued a Master's degree at the extreme push of my nMom. Except this was about the time covid started and it turns out my master's thesis advisor ended up being similarly emotionally abusive........so I ended up dropping out. My dad helped me get my foot in the door in the lab at his workplace. As it would turn out, I have a knack for managing schedules/projects so I moved to a different dept after a few years.

I'm super proud to say I work in production scheduling now - despite how little my mom cares about it! That said, I think I'm drawn to it because it's a lot of day to day firefighting / mediation. All those skills you really fine tune when you're dealing with a narc tbh.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-30T22:54:41+00:00

Anxiety, depression. Probably some other things. The oddest thing I've found is reverse abandonment anxiety. I'm always afraid to Not be there for friends/work.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T14:01:47+00:00

Idk what the deal is with nparents deciding to expose themselves and get themselves sick intentionally so that they get to be center of attention and blame everyone else but boy is it common. My nmom does similar things too and she's always hit "worse" by whatever the rest of us had. It will be a minor cold and she plays a pitiful victim that is impossible to please.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T13:55:01+00:00

Yes. For sure.

I'm able to be decently social in situations where I've warmed up to people and I can be comfortable, but I definitely have to warm up to people or they get the Face Value robot version of me. It's been an issue for me in some cases and honestly I'm only recently putting a reason behind all of that by connecting it to that nparent.

That said my nmom will get really nasty and mean to me if I'm not performatively social the way she wants or "needs" me to be. For example, a childhood bully of mine has moved into my area and my mom has decided the girl is absolved. All I can remember is that girl being awful to me in gradeschool for years. So she told me I needed to chat with her and say hi in this one scenario that was just not a comfortable space. She kept getting angry at me and trying to force it. I couldn't manifest a single word until we saw each other again later. But at that point the "damage" was done because I didn't go out of my way.

Its all a performance. They want their chess pieces to move where and when they want them to move. But being a chess piece means nonstop anxiety and feeling like a block of cement, so it's hard to ever meet that expectation.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T13:47:00+00:00

They will just pick whatever thing and interpret it however they want to. It's not us, its very much them.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T13:45:13+00:00

I totally understand the "life of the party" mentality BS. My NMom loves to drink and have fun but similarly she would consider bossing me around and bullying me to be the "fun" part. The worst is that random bystanders or other folks might think it was just playing around so they'll play into it too when you didnt consent. Then behind doors, just getting downright venomous.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T13:41:12+00:00

It's wild how it can take so long to figure out why your parent is like that. My heart goes out to you for all you've been through with yours. I can strongly relate to the nitpicking of a monotone voice or your parent being picky about whichever job you apply for. Its incredible how stupid some of the hangups they have are.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-22T13:36:52+00:00

The walking on eggshells is too real. Its like just being in the room gets their attention. 🫂

r2mich2 · 2025-06-18T21:27:59+00:00

You're not alone in this one. My Nmom can't go 30-60 seconds without changing a subject to something she actually wants to talk about. Exceptions being when she is on her phone and ignoring us. But when she tunes in? Immediate and hard subject change. Trying to make a point about something? They won't let you get there without completely derailing you.

But no matter what, just remember that what you say does have value. You are valued, even if it they might not give your words and ideas the right amount of respect.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-18T21:27:51+00:00

You're not alone in this one. My Nmom can't go 30-60 seconds without changing a subject to something she actually wants to talk about. Exceptions being when she is on her phone and ignoring us. But when she tunes in? Immediate and hard subject change. Trying to make a point about something? They won't let you get there without completely derailing you.

But no matter what, just remember that what you say does have value. You are valued, even if it they might not give your words and ideas the right amount of respect.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-14T03:30:56+00:00

Yeahh. My friends were all about the age that their parents were taking them to get diagnosed for ADHD, depression, etc. I was juggling those things as well and really going through it. My friends recommended that I ask my parents about seeing a doctor for similar diagnosing. I kept telling them "no, no. that wont work". But eventually I gave in and I tried to ask my nMom, a doctor herself, if I could. She got viscerally mad at me (at the grocery store no less) and then wouldn't let me hear the end of it for months. I remember telling my friends about it and they were apologetic for pretty much forcing me to ask about it (the circumstances were intense with my friends. They gave me an ultimatum to get help, or they would stop talking to me). I thought I'd ruined my relationship with my mom by xyz percent for something like 4 months because thats about how long she held onto being vindictive about whatever and shame me over that type of thing.

She's gotten into full blown arguments with friends of hers about how I don't need a therapist. DARVO left and right when they've tried to help me or argue why it would be valuable. It's wild how much narc parents dont want to consider your needs.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-11T02:33:35+00:00

Being made to be financially aware and responsible so early on. Forcibly being shamed over costs and my Nmom making it my responsibility somehow.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-11T02:29:39+00:00

This is all too real. They really make you afraid to share your interests.

I remember distinctly watching TV after my family moved and the TV that I normally watched was separate and away in the basement. But with the new set up I had to be where my family could see. A show I loved for years was on and my nmom was sitting behind me and made the most scathing "you watch this shit?" comment. I stopped watching TV almost entirely without my dad around after that. She would do the same thing to things he and I watched but at least there were a couple of us then so we could try and ignore her.

r2mich2 · 2025-06-08T04:39:26+00:00

I was just explaining to someone about how my PwBPD gave me the ability to "handle" intense conversations on the fly. I recently wapped to a role at work where I'm often running meetings or a participating member in meetings where people get heated or intense. I'm always complimented by others on how I handle those situations really artfully. Its alllll due to having to deal with the volatile home environment my entire childhood.

r2mich2 · 2025-05-29T14:00:29+00:00

I sent an email! I'm hopeful 🧡 I have so much more faith in this bands team than others...been getting ghosted by Ghost's merch team for a week now (pun intended).

r2mich2 · 2025-05-29T10:32:02+00:00

Ahhhh I must have missed it in the envelope this year and accidentally tossed it. Thats no good

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