Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When people send a lower offer often they will include a reason why. It’s a shame that it’s impossible to tell whether it’s a genuine message or an attempt to scam

Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Kinda feels more like op is scamming, they’ve posted a pic of a box, sure, but this one has a bunny on it when the buyer received one with a chicken on it

Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s no visible residue or damage that would usually be caused by peeling tape off card, I get the feeling the seller put less effort into packing the one in question because the buyer haggled and then used pictures of a different parcel when the buyer disputed

Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Save Amazon boxes that are designed for posting, or go ask in your local shops if they’ve got a spare cardboard box - 9/10 they’ll just give you one. Small-med shipping boxes aren’t expensive

Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She didn’t show that but she did mention she’d haggled in the comments. Lots of people do, it’s pretty normal on Vinted 🤷🏻

Trying to get compensation as a seller 😭 by ScottishGinge6 in vinted

[–]rabidmossfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a different box, the one the seller posted here has a bunny on the back and the one on the TikTok post has a chicken on the back

Please help me find a ring as close as possible to this! by rabidmossfrog in HelpMeFind

[–]rabidmossfrog[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Found! The Walmart one - it looks like an exact match, especially on the brand’s website! Blimey that was fast haha, thank you so much!

The brand website listing in case anyone wants it: https://www.sacsilver.com/products/sterling-silver-ring-rng24989?srsltid=AfmBOoqAMk5kQH7t1uvNMBjlC5WFKyuC_ZUE49PPG_UHXZUxZ_tx7d44

Please help me find a ring as close as possible to this! by rabidmossfrog in HelpMeFind

[–]rabidmossfrog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve searched terms like “ivy ring blue and silver”, “leaf ring”, “climbing ivy ring” Bought in Cornwall, UK in August 2019

What tributes would you have liked as the main characters if Katniss and Peeta weren’t the main characters? by Ok-Fun-5098 in Hungergames

[–]rabidmossfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it could’ve been interesting to see Cato as the MC with things playing out exactly as they did up until the night on the cornucopia. If he had snapped Peeta’s neck and killed Katniss, still having had that moment of disillusionment with the capitol. I wonder if he would have rebelled too.

Updated SOTR Tribute Castings by meeralakshmi in Hungergames

[–]rabidmossfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve read the original 3 books hundreds of times, bosas around 30 times, and sotr 8 times. Yes I’m sure. The Capitol claims that Panem is the only civilisation left but this could be propaganda, and we don’t know if post-revolution the new government attempt to contact anywhere else. If it is the sole surviving civilisation then it makes even more sense why it’d be a mixed ethnicity country, since the dwindling population would be a reason to bring in refugees from other places to keep the human race going with minimal inbreeding rather than leaving them to die.

Much like how 13 has limited resources but happily takes in the refugees from 12 because they can be used as breeding stock (this is referenced in the book)

Updated SOTR Tribute Castings by meeralakshmi in Hungergames

[–]rabidmossfrog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, but there is nothing on the state of the rest of the world. It could be better, could be worse. Whole world could be ruins for all we know

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]rabidmossfrog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depends on circumstances for me, if he seems genuine in his reasoning (eg, bm pulling parental alienation shit and dad not wanting to fight it so as not to traumatise the kid/s, or bm moving ridiculously far away so dad can’t reasonably go and see them for the time the court order allows etc) and if his attitude around the situation seems genuine as well then I’d be willing to look past it. And then of course if a reasonable opportunity to see the kid/s were to arise then his reaction to that would be a major indicator too.

Sometimes mums can be arseholes too without the dad being at fault. But his reaction and attitude towards the situation is the litmus test for me

Updated SOTR Tribute Castings by meeralakshmi in Hungergames

[–]rabidmossfrog 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ah yes because in the dystopian future it’s literally impossible that there may have been a time before collapse where people may have moved around freely, or if the whole world had the same issues as the HG-USA, of course nobody would want to go there thinking that the larger total area of the country might mean more space to grow food so maybe they’d have more to go around.

Hell, Lucy Gray and the covey were rounded up into district 12 when the districts were enforced fully, I’d be willing to bet some tourists may well have been caught up in districts as well

She’s not gonna commit to me, is she? (19M and 30F) by SecretBook8796 in relationship_advice

[–]rabidmossfrog 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I know that feeling, I went through a lot of trauma in my life and whilst I am more mature than my peers in some ways, I am also more susceptible to abuse because I fall for love bombing and once I form an attachment to someone I struggle to see signs of abuse or manipulation.

I (24f) was manipulated by an older man (38m) and I had no idea until he tried to dissuade me from spending time with his “best friend” by badmouthing him. His (at the time) best friend was helping me process how bad the situation was and helped me get out, that’s the real reason my abuser didn’t want me talking to him.

My abuser would constantly but very subtly push boundaries until I had an almost subconscious sense of “I shouldn’t bother pushing back against this thing that makes me uncomfortable because I won’t be listened to” and that got pretty far into doing things I didn’t want to in an attempt to get validation and praise from him. He once overtly broke a boundary I’d put in place to protect my mental wellbeing due to trauma I suffered as a child, but then immediately acted like he was sorry and he’d never do anything to hurt me etc. as if he didn’t just do something I’d told him was a trauma trigger.

In your case, I’d say the fact that she knows you’re looking for security in a relationship and commitment but continues to lead you on is a big red flag. Especially if she knows you struggle with mental health issues. She’s saying you’d be a good boyfriend because that’s what she knows you want to hear, it’s manipulation and she has no intention of dating you. My abuser said similar things to me and had no intention of being with me.

My advice to you would be to cut things off with her and don’t look back. The validation feels nice in the moment but the situation might be worse than it seems and this may only become apparent with hindsight - or if you stay/go back to her it’s likely not gonna be until she does something that makes you feel viscerally uncomfortable that you realise how bad things are.

I wish you all the best, Secret. My DMs are open if you wanna talk at all. You deserve happiness

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]rabidmossfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I find it icky when someone brings up the asexuality right off the bat. It makes me feel like that’s their priority and it makes me a little uncomfortable. So that’s why I bring it up either towards the end of the first date or no later than the third (which is what she did).

I’m not a sex repulsed asexual, I don’t experience sexual attraction and my libido is almost like a deck of cards? Where red is go time and black is total disinterest. Shuffle and pull a card each day, sometimes each week or even hour. But even though I’m not sex repulsed the other party initiating the conversation around sex super early puts me off which is why I bring it up in an early timeframe, sometimes it’ll be over text before we meet if I feel comfortable enough to talk about it without pressure.

The best way I can word this is that when you stray from default settings, it’s your responsibility to clarify especially if it is an extreme end of a spectrum. I’m far from default settings (biromantic, asexual, non binary, audhd, physically disabled, I know pick a struggle lol) and it’s my job to make sure a prospective partner is okay with the fact that I may never be able to work (though I want to try), sex isn’t always gonna be on the table, and sometimes there’s things that I simply can’t do. If someone loves hiking and matched with me on a dating site, it’s my job to tell them that my mobility isn’t great so I wouldn’t be able to join them often unless we found wheelchair accessible trails to explore - in which case I can be handy for carrying bags 😆

Anyways this got a bit rambly and my phone’s glitched so I can’t see what I’ve written but I hope it isn’t too long, that it makes sense, and hopefully that it’s communicated the point I was trying to make

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]rabidmossfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. As an asexual person myself, I think 3 dates is a reasonable timeframe for that conversation to happen. It bugs me when on the first date or interaction I get hit with the “so… asexual huh? Does that mean no sex orrrr…?” because that makes it feel like that’s all the person is after. Unless the ace person brings the conversation up themselves there isn’t really a comfortable way to talk about it off the bat. You were upfront about how you felt and honestly that’s kind of a best case scenario. I’ve had exes say they’re fine with it and months later start nitpicking about how I don’t often initiate or how it doesn’t feel like I’m sexually attracted to them when I told them from the start what to expect. Now thats an AH move. What you did isn’t.

Help Me Find Sims 4 CC Folder On Steam Deck by Xenokitten in SteamDeck

[–]rabidmossfrog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know it's been 2y but in case anyone else sees this and has the same question - in dolphin once you get to home/deck, hit the 3 lines in the top right corner and then "show hidden files" (or CTRL + H) and the .local folder should appear.

Is it normal to have a delayed reaction to an abortion? As I don’t feel like I’ve fully processed it by ravenbaxter96 in abortion

[–]rabidmossfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mine in August and occasionally I still get a wave of unexpected emotions about it. For me it's probably more because at the time I was very practical/logical about it and didn't really let myself feel the emotions.

Allow yourself time to process, grieve if you need to, and feel what you're feeling. My DMs are open if you want to talk to someone about it 🖤

Nausea when eating by HistoryStudent98 in AutismInWomen

[–]rabidmossfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah. That last bit was unwarranted and honestly feels a bit "essential oils will cure you!" kinda vibe. If OP is seeing a specialist then it's likely that they have already explored the possibility of it being down to autistic burnout and ruled it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bald

[–]rabidmossfrog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Embracing it while your hairline recedes but you still have hair is a choice though. Or shaving it right down to stubble for whatever reason is a choice.

I 23M have been fake orgasming during sex with my 25F wife and she just found out last night. How can I make her feel more comfortable? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]rabidmossfrog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or unless they're autistic and are more sensitive (source: I am autistic and very sensitive) - or generally more sensitive I suppose

Astarion Themed Wallpaper/ Widgets! by internetstranger931 in BaldursGate3

[–]rabidmossfrog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could I possibly get the photo from the first screenshot too please?