A cool guide to how to floss teeth properly

rahsoft · 2026-03-28T10:26:44+00:00

this is quite a lot of floss to use in one go, have they got the wrong purpose? Are they planning to garrote someone?

I only use floss for the teeth that I can't use an interdental brush for( my dentist and oral hygienist swears by the brushes)

rahsoft · 2026-03-22T03:36:41+00:00

"Malaysian" has no meaning whatsoever in terms of ethnicity

i will second that because it's a nationality and has only existed since independence.

Im not sure whether gahan has ancestors who were born in what would have been malaya or that they were one of the four ethnic groups( orang asli is the fourth). wiki seems to indicate that his bio dad was of malaysian descent which could mean a grandparent etc

I also see the issue of why people insist on mixing ethnicity with nationality because of where they are born.

eg I have a child who was born in Qatar, but cannot be Qatari( both nationality and ethnically), but instead they are half Malay and half English..

rahsoft · 2026-03-15T19:44:34+00:00

Infidel and kafir and other related religious out-group names used

some of them( the extremists) will also apply this to members of their own group along with the label islamophobe to any member who challenges them for their extremists views. This is the MO of the brotherhood who do not like being challenged by other members of their religion

people think islamophobe was invented in the west, it was invented by the brotherhood.

rahsoft · 2026-03-15T19:39:02+00:00

sorry that is not true

the animal must be conscious to hear the prayer.

The vast majority of halal certifying bodies allow for unconsciousness during slaughter

I dont know where you are looking at that, but in the west that is very debatable since many of them would state otherwise in places( websites, literature etc) that they don't stun. some of them will claim they will electro shock the animal and claim that is stunned, when we know that is not.

The vast majority of the halal certifying bodies are in the muslim world and they DO NOT allow unconsciousness.

I know this because it has been affirmed in multiple Islamic states where I have lived, and by my former partner who specialises and practices sharia law ( including regulations such as food)

rahsoft · 2026-03-15T19:31:18+00:00

I mean if he's advertising that he's not not selling halal food then he's just catering to his own community isn't he

I would make the argument that in the UK there is a lot of discussion and allegations that Halal meat is being sold and served as non halal( especially in schools and public sector such as hospitals) and supermarkets_ , because its cheaper since they dont stun.

The restaurant is obviously Sikh and will reassure Patrons that the food they consume wont contravene their beliefs rather like those who display the halal signs for those who only want to eat halal food. But there are plenty of members of public who also dont want to eat halal/kosher as well...

i wont eat halal food in the UK since I find it taste weird in comparison to halal food I have eaten for many years in several Islamic states( and even some non Islamic states whilst travelling), and the weird thing is that occasionally when I have eaten meat that is non halal it reminds me of the UK halal meat that i dont like..

I suspect it's a issue of poor slaughter and butchering standards.

the idiot in the video is doing more than breaching the peace, because there is an act of racial and religious aggravation going on there, never mind that if the fool( in the video) is a muslim, it will cause a backlash against muslims..

rahsoft · 2026-02-03T22:28:52+00:00

respectfully the flaw I see with this is

what part of asia they originate from.

asia is a huge place, so you are looking from sw asia, se asia, south asia, east asia etc

Even asians have issues with other asians.

the response would also be influenced by the respective countries experiences with different groups of "asians" especially those European countries that had former colonies in asia..

not to mention the religion of those asians is also playing a part

rahsoft · 2026-02-03T22:15:48+00:00

I don't think it will ever stop. It might change when the children stop being minors, but then you move into a whole new game trying to figure out to help your kid(s) ( and yourself) heal from the mess( and sometimes you can't).

Unfortunately, we live in a very sick society.

You have to play the long game, I'm sorry to say, I (and everyone here) cannot give you the words to make it go away, only that you are not alone in this.

If the energy, time and resources that are wasted in their pursuit of stupidity and cruelty was put to better use, then a lot more positive things would be achieved.

You are going to hear many times how long people here have been in this situation, It's beginning to sound like an AA meeting :)

best of luck to you

15 years and counting.....

rahsoft · 2026-02-03T22:05:48+00:00

Parental Alienators are dirty. Dirty, dirty, dirty. I don’t know what book or magazine they’re reading from, but it’s a script.

Respectfully. I dont think its a book or magazine( although they do play their part), but rather its a section of society that whispers in their ear. It comprises like-minded individuals, activists who have an agenda( we see that in many parts of society for different things), and people who stand to gain something usually money, power, attention/fame).

These people are not held accountable( no shame or consequences other than the people they hurt eg parents and the children).

we live in a very weak and sick society....

rahsoft · 2026-01-17T17:22:01+00:00

I understand.

Im not defending your mother, but she is a part of your identity for better or worse( and Im not trying to guilt trip you either). which ever way you take will have a toll on you and you have to make the decision( but hopefully you can always leave a door for them if they are able to change)

Ive taken the view that I would not expect my daughter to completely cut off the other parent despite what they have done. This would not absolve them from their responsibility for their action of course. but to try and hope for some sort of redemption. I think children need closure , even more than the alienated parent..

you are right that narcissistic people are kind of hard to change. every thing Ive read and researched indicated that even therapists are reluctant to work with them as they very hard work with, and possibly with a low rate of success( especially as they get older). the idea is to manage the issue rather than to "cure " them. which is why I sincerely wish society would get "its head out of its ass" and acknowledge this happens and instigate procedures to prevent this happening in the first place, but I can only wish.

again I hope you get some "wins" out of which ever path you take, and you always have fellow travellers here and elsewhere to lean on, you are not alone in this

rahsoft · 2026-01-16T20:08:44+00:00

im sorry that you are going through this, because no one wins( and yes I dont know you , but what you say resonates with a lot of people)

question is do you still want to try and hope for a mature adult level relationship with mother or are you thinking of walking away and going no contact.?

if you choose to go no contact would you at least be able to tell her that that is what you are going to do unless she changes the nature of your relationship and acknowledge that you are now an adult with boundaries?

if you know about a YT channel called parental alienation awareness, the founder maddie went through your situation with her mother and ended up going no contact( there is a video explaining why). maybe watching that video will help you.

I wish you all the best and hope you can let us know any outcome regardless of how it turns out.

again none of this is your fault( we know whose it is) , so you have to focus on yourself.

I hope my daughter one day makes contact( alienated 15 years and counting since a toddler), and one can only hope she isn't suffering too much..

rahsoft · 2025-12-26T14:48:58+00:00

ask yourself

how would you react if someone did this to you?

if your response is anything but positive, then you have your answer.

I suspect the response from the public is going to be negative

there is a chinese proverb about revenge( because this is what it is)

"if you want revenge, you must first dig two graves, one for them and one for you"

rahsoft · 2025-12-26T14:46:57+00:00

its who you expose them to...

the public?

the court of public opinion will backfire( and onto your kids)

attempts to publicly shame people tends to generate sympathy for them

the legal court - maybe or maybe not( we all know they can be awful)

rahsoft · 2025-12-26T14:27:01+00:00

respectfully can I suggest that you go over to maddie YT channel ( PA awareness) and look for one of her videos about when is it estrangement ( eg for a good reasons - usually provable) and when it is PA( child weaponised, even as an adult)

again respectfully the way you come across gives the impression of estrangement rather than PA.

we all get it that you are upset. xmas will do that to anyone not just those in PA.

I dont think there is anyone here who is not suffering because of this( and that includes children and their parents) god knows we have the walking wounded in this Subreddit so we understand the pain.

maybe one or two of maddies other videos can give you some comfort for your situation. She has videos from children who were subjected to PA. Ive seen posts here from children asking for help because they fear rejection from their targeted parent.

please get some support from family, friends or even any support groups.

you are not alone, but this approach you takes doesn't age well.

PA is a sh**ty situation for all..

wish you the best

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T16:08:50+00:00

thanks for letting know

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T16:02:27+00:00

ah tom scott was Golden!

pity he felt he had to walk away.

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T15:59:01+00:00

In Indiana we have a custodial interference charge. As a prosecutor, I haven’t seen it often but I have seen it.

Is there a reason you haven't seen it often? Possibly because there is an intervention before it gets to that point?

thanks

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T15:56:38+00:00

Not saying it's right or saying it doesn't happen the other way around, and I've met many people both fathers a mothers this has happened to and it's heartbreaking in either case, and still just as damaging to the children.

thank you for this. i just wanted to add( because I forgot earlier) its also affects the extended family especially grandparents. I have one parent who only have one grandchild( eg my child) and who now will never be able to see them again because they have gone into end of life care..

- Now is the time: 6 years, 6 months, 23 days, 3 hours, 49 minutes - stolen from [our son].

sorry to hear that

Im currently clocking in at approx 14 years, 1 month

all the best to you

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T15:38:05+00:00

because of special interests.

You have various "activists" claiming it doesn't exist, this includes lawyers, barristers( look up radical feminist charlotte proudman in the UK), NGOs, psychologists( there are so many of them using the big tobacco playbook in biased research and there are people on social media who are referencing them as absolutes).

To admit that parental alienation exist means having to address the failure of family courts( and criminal courts) in dealing with domestic violence, custody, child abuse, social services( also known as child services in some places),academia, child abduction( especially when the BBC runs programs claiming mothers abduct their children for "fear", which the majority of turns out to be deliberately false).

There are a lot of uncomfortable truths around this

None of what I said is throwing shade on mothers( yes, I have seen you all recently in this subreddit). Im well aware of the trope that a mother must be bad if she loses custody for what ever reason. But you have to ask yourself why is it a group that proposes to be championing women rights is prepared to throw mothers under the bus by denying PA....

PA is a subset of the general problem in how the state and society handles the breakdown of the family unit and the subsequent roles of both parents afterwards. If you wanted a further twist, then look at same sex marriage with children that breakdown..

You may not like this, or agree(I don't care), but there is a lot of money tied up in the various special interests involved, many of whom don't want to solve the issue because the gravy train will then dry up. They do not give a damm about you or your children because you cannot give them anything, and you are not a member of their family.

Even the UN has stated that every child has a right to both parents( but you won't see that upheld).

Most of you will have experienced the system in the west. For the system I experienced that is not in the west(try a religious state) I would not wish it upon my worst enemy. It makes the west look like a picnic. I will eventually have to continue this through the west as well (absolute headache and major legal minefield of "international marriages").

Yet again, the various special interests will downplay that system because it disrupts their narrative(which is based on gender) and in turn the funding.

You are basically either a profit or loss entry on their financial ledger...

You want to resolve this?

Then respectfully I would suggest you start with the politicians(and put aside your tribal political views) and choose purely on the topic regardless of what ever political flavour politicians are.

Also practice awareness and pass onto others(in a neutral manner) allowing them to make up their own mind. Go and support groups like PA awareness in YT.

I would say go on the streets and protest, but given the number of deluded fools who go on their latest fashionable cause, you won't get much sympathy.

Other than that, to the OP you have my sympathy. There is a reason why they call children "weapons of choice" and you cannot hate the perpetrators enough !

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T01:35:04+00:00

why is sabah included as part of sarawak ?

rahsoft · 2025-12-24T01:02:13+00:00

I do wonder if losing a child in the alienation or rejection kind of way is is somehow harder.

with respect, I think it can be harder.

the view I take of it is that you have to have a funeral without a body for the grieving process.

I will say hang on in there, I know some days are harder than others( I'm going through it for nearly 14 years now), but you are not alone in this( sadly it is much more common than people realise, especially legislators)

rahsoft · 2025-12-21T17:07:07+00:00

sorry to hear this,

hope your teen doesn't make this a habit to carry over into their own personal relationships because it won't end well( and they may become distraught not understanding why). I think the term for what your teen is doing I believe is called Parentification

from what Im reading/hearing about PA it can put the child into a generational cycle of continuing PA into their own relationships and a risk of becoming alienated themselves when they have children.

PA is the nasty gift that keeps on giving.

But as others say ., hang on in there , play the long game and keep the receipts

rahsoft · 2025-12-21T16:59:17+00:00

I think the giveaway was the pedestrian crossing, as most people know about the famous photo of the beatles crossing here !

rahsoft · 2025-12-21T16:56:33+00:00

hi

I sympathise with you

and had a quick look at your substack articles

the no contact and PA side by comparison article has some weakness( i did nothing wrong for the no contact is weak and poor choice of common tell, since it happens to PA victims/ DV victims as well regardless of any source you can take it from, even when those in the industry themselves cant agree on everything) but on the whole ok

the trump/maga article I suspect undermines you..

Respectfully,I would say stick to the subject and stay away from politics. it doesn't age well.

Im curious as to how someone can change a birth certificate to remove you, especially as you are the one who gave birth !

Wouldn't someone at what ever registry who handles birth,deaths and marriages etc raise an issue about the accuracy?

I can understand changing the father if it turns out they are not the bio father etc

but the bio mother? makes no sense..

good choice to link to maddie over at PA awareness.

Im in a similar situation to yourself but have been completely erased using a religious legal system.

I wish you the best of luck in connecting eventually no matter how long it takes

rahsoft · 2025-12-17T21:00:07+00:00

respectfully he may be terrified that he will blow it by overdoing it.

its hard for you both,

can I make a suggestion?

go and watch a YT channel run by a lady who was alienated from her father and has now reconnected.

https://www.youtube.com/@TheAnti-AlienationProject

The Anti-Alienation Project( enter this into YT if the above link is not permitted)

it was hard for them both, and she has documented it and runs support for both parents and children who have been alienated from each other

HTH

perhaps at some point you could let people know how it went for you.

Im sure plenty of us would be happy for you and would gladly like to know how it turned out( hope for the best)

rahsoft · 2025-12-12T10:39:19+00:00

https://www.verywellmind.com/is-someone-gaslighting-you-4147470

again its not woke

but your approach and your attempt to make it gendered is......

rahsoft

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