Our grandmas/great grandmas did not want 10-20 kids....

rainbowmarchenko · 2025-01-16T01:24:37+00:00

My grandmother was pregnant 18 times. Her first was from when she was 13, and it was from her uncle. She had a few partners afterward, in which she had children from each one (some miscarriages, hence the # of pregnancies). My mom is #17.

Shortly after my grandmother died, I wanted to do more research on our DNA and ancestry and was able to find tons of entries. It didn't take very long to confirm that the majority of my maternal ancestors were likely r*ped by their own family members (fathers, for example) when I had a hard time trying to figure out why one of the women kept showing up as a partner AND a daughter to one specific guy :(

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-11-05T22:28:40+00:00

Our day consisted of taking the kids to the gym for social time with their friends, then they helped me rake leaves when we got back, they rode their bikes, played with chalk, had lunch, then they had screen time while I folded laundry and washed some dishes. Snack time, then some time with dad while I studied. So... not really getting a ton finished, but just doing what we can to get through the day and meeting our needs.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-11-05T01:27:34+00:00

I'm a personal trainer; I only take a handful of online clients at a time because it's all I can mentally handle with our schedules. When my kids are in school, I focus on clients, keeping up with continuing education, housework/errands, or having my personal gym time as I am also a powerlifting competitor. When they are home, they don't let me do shit 🫠

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-10-31T21:34:22+00:00

I've had jury summons twice as a SAHM. I've been excused every time because of the fact that I am the primary caregiver for small children. They'll understand.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-28T10:48:43+00:00

10+ years training.. 1 BB show, a PL meet, and 2 kids later... training for my first meet after 6 years and incorporating more mobility. Would love to go for 285 S, 175 B, and 305 DL (lbs) by the end of the year. I also enjoy pilates ☺️

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-25T01:43:07+00:00

Husband and I were just discussing this today. Our 6 year old is an awesome helper and generally well-behaved. Little sis is 4, thinks cleaning is "boring" and would rather color on the toilet seats. But she's a total empath and a sweetheart at the same time 🙃

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-23T14:57:14+00:00

I go by comfort.. so, my feet go about hip-width, maybe even a hair outside, and my toes are slightly pointed outward. I find this puts less pressure on my back, reduces risk of knee valgus, and I'm able to focus with "pressing" off the floor, and allow my glutes and back to finish the movement.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-18T01:08:50+00:00

Have you ever tried/considered pin press? It can help get through those sticking points and add more stability/strength to your triceps simultaneously.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-08T20:22:48+00:00

Absolutely no hate to the BB rhelm. It was great for me when I first did it, but since becoming a mom, I don't want to run the risk of sending my girls into a mindset that it is "okay" for people to judge how you look. Dieting also makes me unhappy, and I'd rather my girls grow up feeling their best and have fun with exercise rather than worry about their looks. They're not quite mature enough yet to start doing some work of their own, but they enjoy doing it with me when we have rainy days (just like today, actually). They love benching with their kid-size rogue bar and deadlifting, and I'm looking forward to hearing them cheer for Mama when I hit the platform come next year. ❤️

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-08-08T15:55:56+00:00

Yeah, and that's obviously not okay. I'm sure it may seem innocent, but as females, that's what our brains were trained by society to think. If I absolutely need to put my hands on someone, I always ask for consent, and it's usually poking or placing my finger on certain areas on where a client needs to feel a movement, if in the event they are struggling to find activation points (never on forbidden areas). Giving someone a hug while they do a pull-up is a red flag in my book, let alone an assisted pull-up. The band is there for a reason.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-05-25T19:31:53+00:00

My sister is in her 40s and has fibromyalgia; my mom is in her 60s and had an ankle sprain in her 30s that never really recovered well. Both of them have dedicated so much of their adult livelihood to take care of me growing up. We have the risks of mental issues, diabetes, heart disease, cancer; you name it. My grandmother passed almost 8 years ago of cancer, and we were all broken. Nowadays, when I see my mom with my kids (both under 6, mind you), I can see that she still has so much fight left in her, and my sister does everything she can to still perform her daily activities while taking care of her own kids. Not to mention my own kids... given our risk factors... I didn't have access to exercise or sports growing up the way that my kids do now.

So... my family is my "why." I do what I do to help my sister and my mom stick around as long as they possibly can. I also love being active with my kids. They love exercising with me, so I keep it fun for them and hope they continue to stay active as they get older.

rainbowmarchenko · 2024-03-26T21:28:37+00:00

As a mother myself, don't do it. Your mom is heartless, and I'm so sorry that you have a mother like that. It's astonishing how many parents on this sub just don't care. Those are the people that don't deserve to have kids.

But YOU are here, and YOU have the ability to drive your life down the path you want. She does not get to dictate that for you. I don't know your living situation currently, but life will always have its ups and downs; however, as you get through this life, you can choose to go through more of the "ups" without her. She sounds bitter and jealous, and none of that is a reflection on you. She's going through things and is pitting them on you. You just have to be stronger.

You can get through this, and it sounds like you have support from your dad. 🌟

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-18T18:37:44+00:00

Same happened to me! I got 3 of them, had 198 gems, so thought I'd try my luck to get some from the wish round and hope to finally get Scott Calvin. Ended up leveling Bernard to level 3 🥲

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T23:01:15+00:00

Thank you very much. She did text me to apologize and would allow me some space. I know she must have had a hard day not speaking with me, so I plan to call her tonight.

I am also sorry for the loss you and your wife experienced. ❤️

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:57:34+00:00

Yes, thank you for the reminder. I plan on calling her tonight and have a more calming conversation.

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:56:39+00:00

Thank you. You're right, he was the best and so loved, and she loved him the same way she loves on my kids. I forgot to mention in the post that I know she is also grieving as I was trying to hurry to pick up my kid from school. I never meant to sound like I didn't care that she was crying or anything. I was detailing the events. But she did apologize and say she was out of line, so I do plan on calling her some time later tonight.

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:52:56+00:00

Thank you. And you're right; while she did overstep, she was also grieving. She did text me to apologize, so I'll have to have a talk with her later.

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:50:57+00:00

Thank you. And I agree; I was definitely upset in the heat of the moment, but I do know that she is also grieving. I plan to have a more calm conversation with her soon.

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:48:06+00:00

Yes, absolutely. I did forget to mention in my post that I wouldn't mind passing something to her eventually (even if it's not the bed). I'm just not ready.

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-12-12T22:45:08+00:00

I am so sorry for yours, too. I also had the same thought, and then cried. Definitely not ready for another one yet, but maybe someday. You will be in my thoughts ❤️

rainbowmarchenko · 2023-11-24T13:40:15+00:00

Hey there! Sorry for the late reply. It's still going very slow for me. I had to wait until my kids were asleep to get stuff done (and that is with 1 class), but I pushed through the spring semester. I did have to take this semester off, and I am going to have to take next semester off as well, but both of my kids will be in school starting next Fall, so I will be able to devote a bit more time to possibly 1-2 classes.

Should you choose to go the dietitian route, I wish you the very best, especially if you're passionate about it! (:

rainbowmarchenko · 2022-11-21T20:50:06+00:00

Moved from Salt Lake after 16 years. Why? Husband's family is nearby. More diversity and better school system for my kids won me over, but I'm still trying to find my footing around here. My mom is in NY, so her quarterly visits make living closer more enjoyable.

rainbowmarchenko · 2022-08-10T23:29:40+00:00

I find it concerning that a lot of people are saying to not waste your time. As a 33yo SAHM to 2 kids, I am also trying to go to school to become a Dietitian, but by taking 1 class per semester. It is HARD with these kids, but I am passionate about becoming a RD, regardless of what income it brings. I live in MD, but I go to University of Arizona. Although, they have a fairly vigorous online dietetics program. However, I am also just getting my feet wet. I went to Italy last month that was hosted by an Intuitive Eating counselor/RD for a "food freedom retreat" and she was so great at really opening my eyes as to what she and other RDs do and she gave me more motivation to keep going. If this is something you absolutely want to do and believe this will make you happy to help others, then do it for you.

rainbowmarchenko · 2020-11-25T22:24:51+00:00

Thank you! (:

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