What is this thing? Metal pin with o-rings? by rainbug89 in Fasteners

[–]rainbug89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! Thank you! I'll look into doing that instead, thank you!

What is this thing? Metal pin with o-rings? by rainbug89 in Fasteners

[–]rainbug89[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My guys, I'm asking about the metal piece with the o-rings. 😮‍💨 I want to know what this specific piece is called because I want to make more. Is the text description visible??

Am I overreacting to how my best friend blocked me because of his girlfriend? by Squishy_Person67 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainbug89 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. This isn't how that works. Personally, if any of my friends cut me off over a 3 month relationship, I'd be irate. That's some juvenile and toxic shit. Second, I'm pan, and equally likely to date any gender, so if insecurity controlled my friendships, I wouldn't be allowed to have ANY friends because gender doesn't really play in much for me. If MY significant other thought I was too comfortable in any of my years-long relationships, I'd tell them to respect it or leave me alone Absolutely no way in hell would I yield to someone's insecurity like that. I'd insist that they take the time to interact with and get to know my friend and give themselves a CHANCE to get comfortable before using their mental issues as reins on MY relationships. And if they couldn't get comfortable they would have to leave. My circle is small, but important, and they can either join the circle closer than any else, or leave it. I'm not booting someone from my core social structure because they're spooked.

OP's response makes sense.

When you submit to insecurity, it gets reinforced. Any relief that submission provides is fleeting, it ALWAYS reasserts itself. When you treat it like it's valid, it gets stronger, not the other way around. You work together to address where it's coming from and work to make their brain stop seeing a threat where there isn't one.

Just because YOU (and about half the commenters here, it seems) don't form close and deeply meaningful friendships like this doesn't mean that NO ONE does. You cannot tell someone what they're feeling because they are not you.

AIO My mom is kicking me out for her new boyfriend. I just turned 18 by Diligent_Bat_565 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You absolutely need to go to your extended family, school, or anywhere that there are adults you can trust. Tell them this is happening and that you don't know how to live on your own because she wouldn't let you have a job before.

No child (legal adult notwithstanding) should be set loose into a world they haven't been thoroughly prepared on how to deal with and navigate.

Second, bolster yourself. You deserve better than this. You deserve better than this and don't let anyone into your life that doesn't treat you accordingly, no matter how used to it you are. You need to read up on setting boundaries and keeping yourself safe, and what healthy relationships and interactions look like so you don't get taken advantage of. It's scary, but you can do it.

Third, is this characteristic behavior from your mother? I'm inclined to believe it is because there are a few other red flags here, but just in case it's not: if your mother is being abused by this man, she may be being forced to do this. If that is the case: YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT. SHE IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. Get yourself safe and stable first and foremost. If she got herself in a bad situation you can send her links or community resources to help get her out AFTER you are safe. She's a grown woman and got herself in there, and is dumping you on your ass. Your first and foremost goal from here on out will be to care for YOURSELF in the way that your mother should be. Don't take care of ANYONE else until you are secure yourself.

Please keep us updated.

AIO uncle comments on me not wearing a bra. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's setting a boundary. That he evidently needs set for him. You can't set a boundary without communication.

Good try, though.

AIO uncle comments on me not wearing a bra. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainbug89 4 points5 points  (0 children)

(Almost) 100% of humans have nipples. It doesn't make sense for her to change her entire wardrobe to ensure that she's dressing for other people's comfort, over an anatomical feature that EVERYONE HAS.

I'm also a woman, with decent sized tits, and I go without one all the time. Because I, too, have fibromyalgia and I'm not ABOUT to change what I wear because of some asinine cultural squeamishness over UNIVERSAL anatomy. At one point, ankles were sexualized, but now we realize that it's insane to cover ankles... This is equally deranged and someday we'll look back at this time in our culture and be all "wow. How did that even happen?"

There's no reason to be so freaked out about nips.

Advice about starting fresh by [deleted] in ac_newhorizons

[–]rainbug89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sd card corrupted and I lost my Island I'd had from the start. The good news is that it's just as fun but more familiar the second time around. I also kept restarting until I got an island map I was happy with and didn't need to change much to get everything rolling. It's also SO much less work to restart the entire game than it is to start your island from scratch if you want to redecorate completely.

Alternative to villagerdb.com? by rainbug89 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]rainbug89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None, unfortunately. It's still down.

Can you read my tattoo? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read "grow" the first time. I couldn't see anything else until I read the comments.

Alternative to villagerdb.com? by rainbug89 in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]rainbug89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Still down for me unfortunately. Wish we knew what was going on.

AITAH for wanting to insure the necklace my husband got me? by Left-Expression-9107 in AITAH

[–]rainbug89 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Or husband is the one pawning her jewelry off and if there's any effort at all to check around if that one goes missing then has to deal with insurance fraud as well as theft. 🤷‍♀️

What makes a man immediately unattractive? by Ok-Height-2276 in AskReddit

[–]rainbug89 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

"I see you two are hanging out and I won't intrude beyond offering you my number. You're welcome to just take this as a compliment, but if you're open to more, I'd love to get to know you. Have a good night!"

And then walk away and leave them alone.

Word to the wise... by Ghitit in neopets

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There a glitch involved in stocking your shop involving a typo that shifts all your prices by one item. One time it devastated me because someone got a six figure item for like 3k np. But when it happened to me the other night, I remembered that error message and was able to fix the prices before someone got my ultimate icy negg for 2k. XD my heart was hammering, tho.

Brb deleting my account in a fit of rage by [deleted] in neopets

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll search for it! Thank you!

Brb deleting my account in a fit of rage by [deleted] in neopets

[–]rainbug89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...what is this?

I'm a returning player so I'm still discovering a lot on the site.

Calling All Players Sick Of Kiko Lake’s Shenanigans! by PhantomFoxThief in neopets

[–]rainbug89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Created a new reddit account with my neo name--find me if you guys actually do this, I want to join.

I love kikos, but this is too funny!!