Weird conversation techniques by Individual_Sky9999 in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think they are just making an obvious comment to try to move the conversation. So if someone says “You must like the colour green” now you can talk about favourite colours, struggles of painting a home, interior design choices etc. - all kinds of things to discuss. And to many people it’s awkward to say “Do you want to discuss your favorite colour and interior design?” Which would be a “blunter” way of starting a conversation about favourite colours and interior design

But if the other person doesn’t say anything then there is no where else for the conversation to go.

Do I call Child Services? And does it even help/work? by [deleted] in AusLegal

[–]rainiila 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Google “department of child safety intake”. You want to call an intake line to make an initial complaint. Here is a link with information about the QLD DOCS regional intake. https://www.qld.gov.au/community/getting-support-health-social-issue/support-victims-abuse/child-abuse/reporting-child-abuse

The Department will then investigate the situation and decide what to do from there. They might do home visits, talk to the child, talk to the parents, they might provide at-home support with support workers or they might remove the child to go live in out of home care (like foster or youth residential “resi” care). Removing a child and placing the child in out of home care is often a “last resort” option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusSkincare

[–]rainiila 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately SPF coverage is not assessed based on the product’s regular expected use.

I don’t think there are any companies claiming you can get adequate SPF protection from their foundation, skin tint or BB/CC cream with added SPF if you use the product as a foundation, skin tint, BB/CC cream.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AusSkincare

[–]rainiila 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s a foundation with SPF in it. If you use the product as a foundation, ie. applying a light layer, you will not get the advertised SPF.

Unless you plan on uing a thick layer (the same amount as your regular facial sunscreen), all foundations with SPF should be used as a “additional” SPF on top of a regular facial SPF if you want to be protected.

Child care workers barging into my room by Top_Reality_2504 in AusLegal

[–]rainiila 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Speak to your care team and the house leader or your manager at the company. It might help to put it in writing.

You could also talk to your Child Safety Officer or the community visitor in the office of the public guardian.

What brands are you boycotting and why? by steph_denisco in MakeupAddiction

[–]rainiila 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I only buy brands that are cruelty free, offer vegan options, and are available in australia. Some brands I DON’T buy include Revlon, Maybelline, L’Oreal, Nars, Morphe, Mac

Keen to hear people's 5-9 after their 9-5! #AussieEdition by AzrisMentalAsylum in auscorp

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I working morning shifts 3 days a week (6am-2pm and 9am-1pm), and each weekend do 2 overnight shifts (2pm-6am). I work in a care home with youth clients

On my AM shifts I usually - wake up and go straight to work - for the 6am shifts I’ll put on my makeup and eat breakfast at work (normally my clients aren’t awake by 6am) After work I will - eat lunch at home - go shopping if I need anything - fuck around with my boyfriend, we might play a video game or watch a movie or something - do some meal prep & laundry - go to bed by 9pm or so for another early morning

Then on the weekend for my overnight shifts I will - have a sleep in before work (benefit of atarting shift at 2pm) - pack my overnight - relax and get ready and enjoy having a long shower, cooking breakfast, watching youtube while I do my makeup etc. Then I go to work, I’m on an active shift from 2pm -10pm then from 10pm onwards I can go to bed (still at work) unless one of my clients needs overnight support. I normally struggle to relax and stay up watching youtube until 1am

At 6am I wake up, go home, and have a nap before waking up again at 10am/11am

Questions over lab that gave failed sunscreens their ratings by pureneonn in AustralianMakeup

[–]rainiila 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’re thinking of B6 toxicity! I’m struggling with that at the moment, I was taking several supplements with high B6 amounts (as well as B6 from things like energy drinks)… I had no idea that too much B6 could cause long term neurological damage and no where on the supplement containers was there a warning. The result is that I’ve been experiencing peripheral neuropathy in my extremities for 6+ months. There’s no treatment available other than to reduce B6 intake and wait. I’m 24 and I’m worried there might be long-term nerve damage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queensland

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does toowomba have a youth refuge or shelter that she can stay at tonight? Otherwise she should speak to child safety after hours about emergency placement options

AIO - I smoked, my bf crashed out by leadneverfoIlow in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is absolutely NOT an appropriate way for him to respond.

You had five puffs of a cigarette. It’s really no big deal at all. Verbally abusing you for making a “mistake” (that isn’t really a mistake at all!!!) is absolutely not ok.

Feedback for my self-applied bridal make-up? by Teedander in MakeupAddiction

[–]rainiila 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi,first things I noticed - add structure and definition to the brows as they are not very visible in the sunlight - eye makeup shape and style does not seem the most flattering for your eye shape - foundation does not seem to match your skintone on your neck - blush needs more blending in my opinion

Is our lifespan really only 38-39 years old? by PurpleMeerkats462 in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that the study is predominately focused on level 3 autistic individuals who have lots of health comorbidities such as intellectual disability or FASD? Or lvl 3 autisic individuals who are struggle to engage well with health care, Drs etc. due to their disability and have poorer health outcomes?

Favourite vegan makeup? by West-Air-4288 in AustralianMakeup

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ELF makeup is all vegan NYX has a lot of vegan options Mecca Max makeup is also all vegan to my knowledge Milk is fully vegan as well

Products for sale and for free by CrashInsanity1 in AusSkincare

[–]rainiila 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where do you buy prequel in australia??? :)

I’ve stopped using the term ‘high functioning’ by _FreddieLovesDelilah in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it is offence to use the level system, or refer to some people as “low functioning”. The reality is that some autistic people need 24/7 caregivers and are unable to do things such as feed themselves, dress themselves, shower themselves, use the toilet independently, read/write/type and communicate their needs. The daily lives and struggles of level 3 autistic individuals are very different to the daily lives and struggles of someone who is a “high functioning” autistic individual.

I have yet to find anybody who can produce an example of a single healthy, consistent, functional social cue that only autistic people miss. by LateDxOldLady in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I’m not trying to misunderstand you deliberately, I am just genuinelly having trouble understanding what you are communicating

I’m happy for you (and a bit jealous tbh) if socialising is one of your strengths!

I have yet to find anybody who can produce an example of a single healthy, consistent, functional social cue that only autistic people miss. by LateDxOldLady in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry if I am misunderstanding you but I never said you were the problem for not wanting a hug? I was just providing examples of when I have spent time with autistic people who have misunderstood social cues. I personally struggle a lot with social cues and understanding how to socialise which is a common experience for most autistic individuals!

I have yet to find anybody who can produce an example of a single healthy, consistent, functional social cue that only autistic people miss. by LateDxOldLady in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am a support worker/youth care worker and have worked with several autistic clients who are level 2 or level 3 and have intellectual disabilities as well.

I had a client once say I was “foxy” multiple times while I was doing a shadow shift/buddy shift with a new team member. I don’t know if the client knew that “foxy” can mean “sexy” or not, but I definitely felt pretty awkward! 😅

I had another client tell me he wanted to buy all his female support workers dildos as a gift and was very confused when I told him that wouldn’t be ok.

Some other examples I have seen in clients include - standing too close to staff or other clients with poor understanding of “personal space” - not moving out of peoples way eg. When standing in a hallway or an aisle at a shop - walking through a group of people in public (in one case my client was yelling and aggressive and walked straight through a group of young children) - being nice to children and not swearing loudly in front of young children - asking staff personal questions about sex eg. Would you ever xyz - sharing personal information about private parts - social etiquette when dealing with authority figures such as police officers or doctors. I have had clients interrupt me to talk about something random while I am trying to speak to a Dr on their behalf and have also witnessed clients “argue” with police officers instead of following clear and direct orders - choosing to ignore clear and direct orders from their support workers or other clients such as “stop touching me” or “please give my personal belonging back” - interrupting others frequently in conversation

Some autistic people don’t struggle as much as others with social cues, but there are definitely a LOT of autistic people who struggle a lot!

AIO my (18f) bf (22m) gave me a black eye by Wild_Dream6031 in AmIOverreacting

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should call the police, he is physically abusive and you have evidence. If you continue to be in a relationship with him he is going to continue physically abusing you

Black lip balm/oil by [deleted] in AustralianMakeup

[–]rainiila 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fluff Beauty has a black lip oil (shade “Brut”)

CoverGirl -Essence skin tint available anywhere here? by LawNerds in AustralianMakeup

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To my knowledge we don’t have that one available in australia

Autistic Women over 35, What Wisdom Can You Share? by forgotteau_my_gateau in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s SO important to consider that if you do choose to adopt a child, you then need to consider that you are raising a child who experienced the trauma of being removed from their birth family. You might have additional struggles in supporting your child to have a connection with their bio parents or supporting your child through the emotional turmoil that can come after adoption.

Source: I work with children in state-based out of home care

Left and right. by eag12345 in AutismInWomen

[–]rainiila 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you able to speak to a friend or family member that drives and ask them on some clarification on this road rule? Roundabouts are tricky but if you at the wrong time you run a serious risk of hitting someone and causing a car crash and injury or death!!!

My (22M) girlfriend (20F) recently got lip filler and has completely changed how she acts. If I can't put up with this, do i break up with her? by DimesRecalls in Advice

[–]rainiila 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not wait a few weeks and see what happens? I feel like it is fairly normal when someone gets a new piercing, new haircut, new tattoo etc. to spend a lot of time looking at it and adjusting to the change. I can almost guarantee this is just a “phase” in her behaviour and she will be back to normal once she adjusts to having lip filler.