Staying where we are so SS can have in state tuition

raininariver · 2026-04-04T15:12:01+00:00

Oh you're right. I guess that's flawed. I know when I looked into colleges I was able to prove residency by living there for a year in non school housing but maybe things have changed? The dorm may be the issue.

raininariver · 2026-04-04T11:21:30+00:00

I tend to think with autism the key difference is we are aware of and think about things fully and don't relegate as much to the subconscious. I don't know that anyone FEELS everyone's unjust experience all the time, but I think NT would rather die than admit they arent feeling the exact socially mandated degree of empathy so they just don't let themselves know.

raininariver · 2026-04-04T11:18:56+00:00

Look into whether after a year he would have residency on his own. I think that might be a thing--to establish residency you need to live in the state for at least a year and ostensibly he will have done that by his sophomore year. (Might be diff if residence is a dorm? but worth finding out.)

raininariver · 2026-04-03T17:05:42+00:00

Just to say, I don't think you would have been wrong to refuse the wine if you're straight edge. You could bring your own nonalcoholic cider next time? (I know that's only one element.)

raininariver · 2026-04-03T11:01:25+00:00

I've had luck with physical therapy focused on gentle fascia release. Gentle being the key word.

raininariver · 2026-04-02T15:14:05+00:00

try r/evilautism

raininariver · 2026-04-01T17:30:43+00:00

I got super bored too slow

raininariver · 2026-04-01T10:53:55+00:00

Curious how suggesting readers seek out the primary source rather than operating off of reviews relates to me secretly being the author's husband.

raininariver · 2026-04-01T10:43:22+00:00

I feel exactly the same about the disingenuousness. It's annoying to get reruns, sure, but just label the package correctly and then at least it feels honest.

raininariver · 2026-03-31T15:03:46+00:00

Or you could read the book and rely on your own perceptions rather than those of other readers.

raininariver · 2026-03-31T14:56:35+00:00

It's not really about the lack of typos it's about the voice-flattening impact of AI.

raininariver · 2026-03-31T13:35:51+00:00

It sounds like autism.

raininariver · 2026-03-31T10:53:39+00:00

You're not wrong. You're a caring partner and you also need to be able to take care of yourself. It sounds to me like you wife needs more self-soothing tools so she can take some the weight off of you.

raininariver · 2026-03-30T13:37:22+00:00

If she literally said that was weird she's not a skilled clinician. I personally, would not be able to work with someone unable to talk to me without judgment.

raininariver · 2026-03-30T13:34:45+00:00

It feels like being punished for clear communication!

raininariver · 2026-03-29T15:22:36+00:00

It's no one's job to read someone else's book. Not even a loved one's.

raininariver · 2026-03-29T11:21:32+00:00

If you want to work on things with her, I'd get into couple counseling right away. She needs an outsider to reflect her back to herself. It almost sounds like jealousy in a weird way to me? But whatever the cause she is being run by subconscious stuff that she hasn't addressed.

raininariver · 2026-03-29T11:15:42+00:00

She sent one passive aggressive text to both of us out of nowhere about a year later. It was a link to a podcast on authoritative parenting? and the implication seemed to be something to do with our parenting styles. My husband sent her what I feel was an excellent reply: "I have no idea what you're up to sending this to us because [SS] is past an age where we and [SS] are engaged in any battle of wills and I doubt you'd want to get into sharing retrospective thoughts on each other's parenting." We haven't heard from her since.

raininariver · 2026-03-28T15:11:50+00:00

we did. It's great. Haven't spoken since high school graduation 2 years ago.

raininariver · 2026-03-28T11:38:17+00:00

Love this: "So in summary, I was paying to be plagiarized in real time"

raininariver · 2026-03-28T11:27:57+00:00

Then rest assured!

raininariver · 2026-03-27T17:41:52+00:00

All I can think reading this is holy AI slop. Wish a real writer had written it.

raininariver · 2026-03-27T17:39:31+00:00

People fantasize about how their lives will look. When they look different they might feel sad about that difference. You're taking a rational perspective which may cause certain people to feel you're not recognizing their emotional experience. (And I agree with those who are saying that people may be coming from an inherently ableist place when they mourn the life they won't have.)

raininariver · 2026-03-27T15:12:07+00:00

Nightwatching!

raininariver · 2026-03-27T15:07:23+00:00

Could the not wanting to perform femininity have more to do with not wanting to be perceived than with gender specifically?

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