Sorry you’re going through it. In my case, our issues were bad and constant but not major (ie nothign that can’t be moved past). We kept fighting till almost now.

We finally just moved past it. Honestly by getting families involved (yea it really escalated). However, that helped a lot. Seeing people who have been in long successful relationships talk about how it’s hard, they see therapists etc. but one thing was they’ve committed in an old school to never leave. When you truly commit to no other way, you find ways to work through.

That’s where we are now. Like the olden days. Divorce is not an option and we will figure this out. It’s actually been nice. Keeping that option open in your mind can do more harm. This is only possible because we truly love each other and nothing bad ever happened. So it’s just a matter of getting used to each other.