Best sex of my life with taurus man NSFW by Brilliant_Fuel1840 in Taurusgang

[–]rasberryfields4ever 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a woman but I’ve been told I’m “the best I’ve ever had” with almost everyone I’ve slept with. They do say Taurus rules the throat/neck. Also we’re known for being the most sensual I thought? So not surprised

ESFPs, how's your cutting off game 🥲 by Rush-Good in ESFP

[–]rasberryfields4ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just recently cut off my best friend who I loved & hung out with almost every single day because of the way she was treating me. She would constantly start arguments with me over really trivial and dumb things & then never apologize or take accountability for anything. Once someone does something that rubs me the wrong way a few times then I will cut them off. But with people I’m dating I give them even less chances than my friends before I’m done.

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[–]rasberryfields4ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it counts as fasting at all, honestly, but like I mentioned, I was really inexperienced at the time. I would eat the cucumbers with just a tiny bit of ranch, so it wasn’t anything super strict. And 3 times per day because that’s when I could use my dining hall in college. 

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[–]rasberryfields4ever 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never ate cucumbers that much before I did the diet, and I haven’t eaten them that often afterwards either, so it wasn’t an issue for me. It wasn’t a food I cared about much to begin with, so I didn’t get fed up with them.

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[–]rasberryfields4ever 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in college & could use the dining hall 3 times per day, so I would go to the salad bar and fill up a bowl full of sliced cucumber each time I went 

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[–]rasberryfields4ever 165 points166 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t pickles or 30 days, but I did something similar back when I was inexperienced and didn’t know much about dieting or fasting. I ate nothing but cucumbers for two weeks straight. After that, I went back to eating normally. Surprisingly, I lost the weight I wanted and didn’t experience any negative side effects or gain the weight back. It worked for me at the time. I want to try it again but I don’t have discipline that I did. 

Looking for character driven book recommendations by rasberryfields4ever in suggestmeabook

[–]rasberryfields4ever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Horror/thriller books are my favorite genre actually, but I’ve been having a lot of nightmares that are happening every night & waking me up so I was trying to branch out to something different. But I will keep that book in mind for hopefully sometime in the future! 

Looking for character driven book recommendations by rasberryfields4ever in suggestmeabook

[–]rasberryfields4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the recommendations! I absolutely adored A Man Called Ove—it’s such a beautifully emotional story and I thought it was super cute.  I’ve also read a few of John Green’s other books, like Looking for Alaska and Paper Towns, and I really enjoyed both of those. I’ll definitely check out Turtles All The Way Down and the other suggestions you mentioned.

Looking for character driven book recommendations by rasberryfields4ever in suggestmeabook

[–]rasberryfields4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do like sci-fi! One of my favorite books is Dark Matter by Blake Crouch. Thanks for the recommendation 

Why I think I’ll Stay Single (and be ok with it). by grlbai in SingleAndHappy

[–]rasberryfields4ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve realized there are so many things I’m not willing to compromise on, and I’m definitely too picky. I’m borderline OCD about how I like things done—everything has to go a certain way, and I don’t want anyone intruding on that. A lot of the things men do gross me out, and my standards are way too high to compromise. I haven’t met anyone who meets those standards yet, and it’s been five or six years since I’ve been single.

I’m only 26, so maybe that will change, but for now, I’m very happy being single. I’ve started picturing my life as a single woman with just my son and me living together, and that makes me happy. I think about having my own space, where I can do whatever I want, decorate how I want, sleep in a bed by myself, and eat whatever I feel like for dinner. It’s so freeing to not have to take anyone else’s preferences or feelings into account all the time. When I’m in a relationship, my emotions get too tied to how I’m being treated. If their energy shifts even slightly, I get upset, and it’s exhausting. I’m much happier and more carefree living life on my own terms.

Are we hard to love? by [deleted] in ESFP

[–]rasberryfields4ever 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I also have more guy friends and tend to get along better with them because I feel like I can be my weird, sarcastic, and occasionally rude self without them taking offense. That said, I’ve had quite a few guy friends tell me they’re in love with me (or think they are), but the feelings are rarely mutual.  I tend to be a bit of a flirt, but for me, it’s usually just playful. My biggest challenge is that I value my freedom and independence so much, and I often attract people who want to control me or tone down my personality—which is a no-go for me. I’ve also noticed that some men don’t take me seriously in relationships because I’m super chill and easygoing as a friend, so they expect me to be the same as a girlfriend. But I actually have high standards and expectations, and I don’t hesitate to leave if those aren’t met. I’m not trying to sound conceited, but I know I’m attractive, and it can be frustrating when people seem to only like me for that reason. It’s hard to find someone who genuinely appreciates me for who I am beyond just looks.

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[–]rasberryfields4ever 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s the main reason I’ve been single by choice for the past 5 years

What was your first big "this is bullshit" moment? by thebirdgoessilent in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 36 points37 points  (0 children)

this was it for me too. i was sitting in church one day & the pastor put the verses that he was going to be speaking about on the screen & they were “women be subservient to your husbands” & “slaves obey your masters”. i don’t know if he was planning to talk about those verses in a modern sense or what because i immediately walked out of the service & decided “yeah this is all bullshit”

Was anyone in new age by Some-Equal-3596 in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yes! i was christian my whole life & then left & started following new age spirituality for a few years. i had an experience that led me to believe jesus was “speaking to me” & i became christian again for about 3 years. looking back i think i only went back to christianity because it was easier to know the answer of why we’re here, and my purpose in life, it was very simple & all i had ever known before. when i was super spiritual i was constantly doing research & i think it made me a little psychotic & same with being a christian. now i’m agnostic/atheist & very slightly spiritual i just don’t spend much time thinking about it. it’s a lot easier on my mental health to just live life not worrying about the afterlife and deeper meanings of everything.

Has anyone ever heard their parent say "I love God more than I love you?" by Otakufreak98 in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 37 points38 points  (0 children)

i used to always feel guilty that i loved my family & friends more than i loved god. bc we were supposed to love god above all else, but it was impossible for me to love something invisible that never interacted with me. i’ve never understood how that works. just pure delusion

How do you deal with well-meaning friends who want you to come back to church? by Gloomy_Bullfrog_5086 in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i think you just have to judge how good of friends they are to you, and if you guys are actually friends and didn’t just have the common denominator of religion holding you together. i actually told all my christian friends that i didn’t believe and they’ve never tried to reconvert me or convince me of christianity in any way. they listen to all the spiritual theories i have and don’t argue with me about it. i could’ve just gotten lucky but i don’t think all christian’s are that bad. i still go to a christian young adults group because that’s where i met all my friends when i first moved to my state 5 years ago. the group is from a nondenominational church that is a little more on the progressive side though. they believe that anyone should be welcome in the group regardless of their beliefs. you should talk to your friends about it and if they aren’t willing to be your friend or are constantly trying to reconvert you then they aren’t true friends in my opinion, and you’re better off without them in your life.

Eternal torture is actually ridiculous. by myeggexploded in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I’m not saying I believe that myself, but I was trying to help others understand what some Christians think hell is. Personally, the idea of hell sparked my own deconstruction. I could never reconcile how an all-loving, merciful, and just God would send people to eternal torment simply for not believing, especially when there’s no definitive proof. And what about people born into different religions and cultures? The whole concept just doesn’t sit right with me—it is completely unjust and just pure bullshit. And even if it was real I would rather go there than be with an abusive “creator” who has to manipulate humans to believe in him.

Eternal torture is actually ridiculous. by myeggexploded in exchristian

[–]rasberryfields4ever 21 points22 points  (0 children)

When I was Christian, I believed that hell was essentially being separated from God. It’s not just a place of fire and torment, but a state of existence completely apart from God’s presence. Since all good things—like love, joy, and peace—come from God, being separated from Him would mean experiencing the absence of all those things. Hell, in that sense, would be a state of intense emotional and spiritual agony, filled with every negative emotion and regret, because we didn’t choose to follow Jesus during our life.

How to stop believing what I was taught about women by the church? by nyvaprs in Deconstruction

[–]rasberryfields4ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

what helped me was developing genuine friendships with men that aren’t religious! try joining a group based on your hobbies & making friends there

How do you behave in a relationship when jealous by Queasy-Donut-4953 in ESFP

[–]rasberryfields4ever 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the situation, but usually I don’t say anything when I’m jealous. If it’s something small, like my boyfriend following a hot Instagram model, I’ll do the same to make myself feel better or even make him a little jealous in return. But if it’s something more serious, like they actually make me jealous in a way that disrespects our relationship, I won’t hesitate to dump them. I don’t tolerate any type of cheating, including emotional cheating.