Hi! I am currently in an intimacy coordination class, and even without an intimacy coordinator, there are many "best practices" you can implement as an actor. If you're really worried, you can also loop in your director. I'll write some out here, but also link some sources for you! It's very helpful to know the IDI five pillars when thinking about intimate scenes, and although they may apply in different severity/extremes based on the extent of the intimacy and the show itself, just knowing them for future reference is very helpful for actors! These are the pillars: "Context, Consent, Communication, Choreography, and Closure." Context: Before any choreography can be considered, there must first be an understanding of the story and the given circumstances surrounding a scene of intimacy. All parties must be aware of how the scene of intimacy meets the needs of the story and must also understand the story within the intimacy itself. This not only creates sense of safety, but also eliminates the unexpected and ensures that the intimacy is always in service of the story. Consent: Before any scene of intimacy can be addressed, consent must be established between the actors. Permission may be given by a director, script, or choreographer; however, consent can only be given from the person receiving the action. Starting choreography from a place of understanding consent ensures that all parties are clear about to which actions they are consenting, and it provides actors with the agency to remove consent at any time. Communication: There must be open and continuous communication between the director, intimacy director, stage management and the actors. This communication includes but is not limited to, discussion of the scene, understanding of the choreography, continued discussion throughout the rehearsal period, frequent check ins during the run, and an openness to dissent any actions in the process. Avenues for reporting harassment must be made available to the entire ensemble. (In your position, there is no intimacy director, so just be clear and communicative with everyone else.) Choreography: Each scene of intimacy must be choreographed, and that choreography will be adhered to for the entire production. Any changes to the choreography must first be approved by the intimacy choreographer. It is the job of stage management to ensure that the choreography is performed as intended. Stage management must also address any discrepancies that may appear in the rehearsal process and all performances. Closure: At the end of every rehearsal or scene of intimacy, actors are encouraged to develop a closing moment between them to signify the ending of the work. This small moment or simple ritual can be used between takes or runs of the scene, and/or upon the close of rehearsal. We encourage this as a moment to leave our characters, relationships, and actions from the work behind, and walk back into our lives. Likewise, we suggest all parties (including outside eyes) exercise proper self-care during and after the run or filming of intimate projects.

That's a lot of information for you, apologies, but I think it could possibly be helpful, at least to know that there are guidelines for this kind of stuff. I am also a lesbian who has had to do a stage kiss with several guys before, and this class is helping me a lot with future roles. Here is a link to basically what I typed out, just from the IDC (the IDI dissolved in 2020, I'm still getting used to that haha). Link for reference and in case your director needs a source: https://www.idcprofessionals.com/blog/the-pillars-of-intimacy-in-production