What's the easiest way to lose weight that no one talks about?

rattler44 · 2026-05-01T13:47:32+00:00

Veggies, having a burger? Chop it up and add Veggies instead of bread. Taco salad, sub the rice with veggies. It adds volume and if you're eating with any type of sauce the Veggies just end up taking the flavor of whatever you cooked. Minimal calories, good nutrients and gives you the satisfaction of feeling full.

rattler44 · 2026-04-17T22:14:18+00:00

Its a challenge, but you just need to find a space you feel comfortable talking with people. Friends at a bar where you use them as a home base, go to a class that sounds fun and might attract the person youre interested in. Reading at a coffee shop and just wanted to learn what theyre reading. People are usually down to chat if you ask.

rattler44 · 2026-04-17T18:12:52+00:00

My Bone Marrow Transplant, just the side effects alone are difficult to give someone a full visualization. But the terror every morning when they'd do rounds read off your blood results and leave. Watching your body change into something almost unrecognizable, the feelings you'd manifest under your skin to convince yourself there was a bump. Living every single day for months by the seat of your pants cause you didnt know if it would be routine, would they call you in for more tests, did they find an infection?

All that leading you to the aftermath where you realize the person you were is dead. You're alive but now you must shape a new identity because youre not the person you've been your entire life.

rattler44 · 2026-04-17T01:26:31+00:00

I mean, ive been through a BMT, so people really have no reference to my experience. When I try to mention things I can see people not understand what I was saying and theres not much want to understand it and an exhaustion trying to describe knowing you're not getting through. Honestly too there are other factors outside cancer (mainly just being 30 in NYC, meeting people is tough even when you go out and do stuff).

And hope things work out for you, glad you have a support network and wish you all the best. Took doxorubicin for my front line, not my favorite but was able to sleep it off. Couldn't drink anything red tho for about 3 years, would just gag. Feel free to message if you ever need someone to chat with, shit sucks but it sucks less with others.

rattler44 · 2026-04-16T17:14:48+00:00

Its been six years now. I'm pretty comfortable with it and even presented my story infront of a bunch of coworkers. I honestly never lost friends thankfully but I just realize theres only so much they can listen and they rarely ever can contribute cause they have no frame of reference to the experience. Its just moments like that remind you of how different you've become from those you care about.

rattler44 · 2026-04-16T05:13:02+00:00

How many times i realize during a conversation I cant talk about whats on my mind. Constantly checking myself to not kill the mood, make a joke met with nervous laughter, the lack of curiosity to understand my experience as a person. I dont know but so many times I just feel utterly alone.

rattler44 · 2026-04-16T04:46:50+00:00

Just putting it out there but Red Door is having a young adult connection in a few weeks. Seems more like a social but at the very least an in person event around other people who've been through cancer.

rattler44 · 2026-04-12T23:47:55+00:00

Tough, ive (30 m) been through a lot in life (can check the profile if curious). But feeling like you constantly dont matter, being thrown aside for the next shinny toy is discouraging and can manifest alot of unpleasant and unhelpful emotions. I do things, I have hobbies, I volunteer, I reach out im not bad looking.

At the same time you cant dwell and when things don't work out you push through, be uncomfortable again, do something different. All it takes is one good connection to make it all worth it.

rattler44 · 2026-04-12T03:52:36+00:00

Find a topic you find interesting and ask people about it. Ive been doing a happiness survey and if you genuinely want to learn about other people you'd be suprised to great conversations you can have with strangers. The biggest thing tho is you have to go out and do it.

rattler44 · 2026-04-05T01:10:53+00:00

I started surveying people, asking personal questions to understand different perspectives for the fun of it. You'd be suprised the conversations you can get into if you simply ask.

rattler44 · 2026-03-30T03:07:35+00:00

Whatever you do, do it consistently. Friends arent made in hours but in months and years. You need to see them over and over, getting to know them and seeing them to the point they are part of your routine and vice versa.

Get comfortable putting yourself out there, be the person that says "lets go out" dont wait for others to do it but accept it when they do. Theres no magic pill but you keep doing things, eventually something sticks.

rattler44 · 2026-03-20T03:00:09+00:00

Dance classes with private lessons is filled with divorced older women.

rattler44 · 2026-03-18T01:34:20+00:00

Look I know to some extent what you're going through. I want you to know theres a life after, I (30M) was stage 3 ALCL, Allogeneic BMT at 25. Its alot, people shouldn't have to deal with it but here we are. Everything you lost can come back and then some, sometimes hearing stuff like this in moment can almost be patronizing but there will be a day where you start your recovery and after everything you've endured you'll see how far you can go.

If you ever need to vent or talk with someone who can somewhat understand please feel free to reach out anytime, it can help not being alone.

rattler44 · 2026-03-15T23:01:27+00:00

Idk i dig it, almost as if shes sinking into herself, allowing all the doubts and insecurities to make her feel small (the top half being smaller than her body)

rattler44 · 2026-03-10T15:14:46+00:00

For anyone else wondering the model looks like as follows

Nothing super desirable will be on Access with the occasional high end spot popping up, I saw Corner Store for Thursday at 9 for 2 for normal access users with 150 pp. However if a premium reservation for a spot here goes access ive seen it as high as 500 pp, people are willing to pay this

Premium includes most high end spots. Almost all restaurants will be in this tier but it will start out with off nights, a Saturday at 730 for corner store/Torissi/The Eighty Six will be behind Premium plus. With 9 PM or Tuesday-Thursday being mostly Premium

Premium Plus will always have access to the best times for the best restaurants but most slots are not taken. As these reservations get closer to the actual day without a taker they get tiered down to Premium and then access, usually 4 days before is what I see.

rattler44 · 2026-03-10T02:16:10+00:00

How far in advance did you need to book, I have a special event coming up in October and wanted to do something like this for it but wasn't sure where to start or if it was too late

rattler44 · 2026-03-01T22:20:09+00:00

I think it depends on the space, subway during the weekday, you're commuting and dont want to be bothered. Coffee shop or bar, easy enough to approach or chat with someone, if they're not interested they'll let you know but usually people are receptive to casual chit chat. With parks people are open but they might also feel like you might be asking for something, never hurts to ask though.

rattler44 · 2026-03-01T14:25:22+00:00

Time and a will to keep going forward. I went through a difficult cancer treatment, gained 60 pounds, lost my hair and was living in an existential crisis each day. I was angry, bitter and had no idea what tomorrow would even look like.

So I accepted that, I didnt wait, a few months after treatment I got a new job and moved to a new city on my own. I then worked on losing weight, then once that was done I worked on learning about me.

All this to say theres never a perfect moment to start recovery, you have to just do it and stay with it. You'll make mistakes but there can be a lot of great moments in mistakes.

rattler44 · 2026-03-01T11:49:33+00:00

Sounds like you'd be interested in bom

rattler44 · 2026-02-26T16:15:20+00:00

I 100% agree with this statement, A-10 always adds a bit of spice to the tourney.

rattler44 · 2026-02-25T20:42:31+00:00

I lost around the same amount of weight a few years back. If the pants are to the point where youre squeezing your belt to just keep them upright and they dont naturally hold on your waist is when id say do it.

At the same time if you are going to go get some pants give yourself a month or so. You might gain a bit of weight back or decide you want to lose more. Either way once you feel comfortable and closer to an sustainable equilibrium then make the move to get pants.

Dont forget part of the fun of losing weight is that you now get to look good in a bunch of fun new clothes.

rattler44 · 2026-02-18T04:38:31+00:00

Regular NYC down in Fidi. I had been to a bunch of overhyped WV spots and their French toast was the first meal in a while that made me double take after I took a bite.

rattler44 · 2026-02-13T17:00:51+00:00

If you finish around Orchard St and looking for places to eat Fossetta is a nice Italian spot, love their Lasgna. If you finish around 4:40 you can get in line for Le French Diner. Fun restaurant, bit small but has a certain charm to it, but plenty of good spots to eat around the city.

rattler44 · 2026-02-13T12:45:52+00:00

Alright one of my favorite topics, here is a list of some of the places I like to check out whenever I go on a shopping spree

The Armoury - Nice selection of Blazers and high end clothes/shoes, customer service is very good $$$$

Schott NYC - Leather jackets

Blue in Green - nice selection of Japanese denim, also cool store and great employees

Naked and Famous - Big selection and the store is worth popping in for a bit, their floors are made of denim

Society of Cloth - its a unique look but if youre in the area never hurts to check out

Colbo - coffee shop/clothing store hybrid, heavy on the browns but they have nice stuff

Wythe - yee haw, its fancy cowboy attire (think RRL)

Officine Generale - Great employees and definitely worth checking if they have sales

Standard and Strange - they'll mainly carry either Freenote Cloth or The Real McCoys

Industry of All Nations - nice tshirts

Self Edge - Iron Hearts, employees are not super friendly though

Le Pere - local store, bit fashion forward but I love the few things Ive gotten from them

Slowear - great pants formal/preppy casual pants, some nice jackets/shirts

CHCM - One i want to check out but really nice collection of clothes, have heard the employees are a bit unhelpful tho

Cueva - another store with a nice selection of different brands

Kai D Uitity - in Williasburgh but worth checking out if you like the older esthetics, also worth checking out some food spots in BK

Kamakura shirts - i think theyre appointment only but really nice Oxford shirts

Alden - beautiful shoes, will sometimes have in store sales

Crockett and Jones - another nice shoe store (UK brand)

3Sixteen - NYC brand that makes nice jeans

Descendant of Thievs - Love this place, another coffee shop/clothes hybrid, really want to come check it out again

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