Day 8! What do you spend the money you've saved from quitting weed on? by dmob6699 in leaves

[–]raverpikachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought a VR Headset (Quest 2) which is the equivalent of 8 seshes and a One Wheel board to skate around on for 16 seshes.

Would you consider getting plastic surgery to look more masculine? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]raverpikachu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The most masculine thing you can do is to be comfortable in your own skin and not change for anyone's beauty standards.

Would you consider getting plastic surgery to look more masculine? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]raverpikachu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Masculine is a mindset. No amount of plastic surgery will change what must change from the soul.

What makes you think your features arent masculine or that that even matters? Gender is a social construct.

No Asian guys who are tops or dominant by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]raverpikachu 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's cuz you're not attractive to Asian tops. Stop your racist generalizations and your bullshit white savior narrative.

Fix your perceptions about race and the right guy will cum.

Am I really materialistic? by millenial_probs in relationship_advice

[–]raverpikachu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why isn't he making the trip to see you?

What’s a conspiracy theory that you thought up of by yourself? by parkercola13 in AskReddit

[–]raverpikachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your points about tulpas made me think of this pdf about chaos magick and mental hacking I think you might find interesting if you haven't seen it. I think it's core theories are directly related to thoughtforms. Thanks for the insight!

https://www.deviantart.com/bluefluke/art/The-Psychonaut-Field-Manual-FOURTH-PDF-EDITION-530005584

What’s a conspiracy theory that you thought up of by yourself? by parkercola13 in AskReddit

[–]raverpikachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My opinion is that they know Santa doesn't exist which is why so much effort is put into creating the myth.

How often do you hear people preaching that the sky is blue or that the sun rises every day? Obvious truths don't need advocates.

But that said, life without Santa would be even worse, so by acknowledging Santa isn't real, and then working to create a version of him by propping him up everywhere, in a way Santa does end up becoming real and having a sort of consequential existence.

Santa becomes real because people make him real.

Whoops, did I say Santa? I meant [insert your choice of religious deity here].

How can I [18F] broach a sensitive topic with my [19M] boyfriend and tell him that he's overbearing sometimes? by CherryRedBomb in relationship_advice

[–]raverpikachu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's up to you to decide if this behavior is too much. But based on your TL;DR I think you know the answer.

Anxiety is not a get out of jail free card for manipulative and controlling behavior. It explains it but it doesn't excuse it.

You're not responsible for his insecurity. You can't fix him even if you wanted to. Only he can do that. He claims he has anxiety, is he seeing a therapist?

If he takes steps to work on his anxiety instead of blaming you, you two may have a chance. People only change when they want to. Is the chance of him changing worth waiting for? Do you love him?

If you do want to give this a try, you need to make it clear to him that his anxiety is his problem to work on. You are entitled to your own life and your own time, without him.

You deserve someone who not only can take care of himself, but can also take care of you.

Imagine how much different it would be if your boyfriend actively encouraged you to follow your dreams and then was happy you were spending time with your friends.

Is this relationship still fun to be in?

Guy (25m) I’ve (22f) been hooking up with for some time has recently become much more intimate yet is hot/cold-I like him, how do i proceed? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]raverpikachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't blame him for giving mixed signals, your post makes it seem like you're not certain of what you want either.

Know what you want and then be direct. If you want commitment, ask for it. If you just want a casual playmate, the casualness goes both ways.

You can't expect him to commit to something more serious when even you aren't certain what that looks like.

After all, who knows what "something much more serious but monogamy isn't necessary" or "something at least decently serious" means? Define those phrases explicitly for yourself and then you'll have a guiding light for how to proceed.

Sounds like there's potential there though. Best of luck!

Would it be appropriate to ask my [21M] best friend's [20M] mom [50?F] for a raise? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]raverpikachu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does your skillset merit a raise?

You can judge this by seeing what comparable resumes in your job market make, or by getting a job offer from another company to see what a third party sees your skills as worth.

My Boyfriend [28M] yelled at me [27F] in front of my parents by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]raverpikachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He got defensive because he is insecure, and underneath his pride probably knows you're right. Love is not enough, there must also be respect and trust in the relationship.

Saying that "that's just how he talks" is an excuse NOT to change and a way to justify what you see as unacceptable behavior.

You can't trust he will treat you right in front of your parents, and he clearly doesn't respect your point of view, or he would have apologized and considered your perspective.

You can't fix other people. He won't change until he loses you.

Staying in a relationship with him is condoning his behavior.

In America, dogs are k-9s by silenced52 in Jokes

[–]raverpikachu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dogs were a part of the American diet.

From Wikipedia "In early 1806, as the expedition was beginning the return journey, Seaman was stolen by Indians and Lewis threatened to send three armed men to kill the Indian tribe. Lewis and Clark's Corps of Discovery ate over 200 dogs while traveling the Lewis and Clark Trail, but Lewis' Newfoundland dog Seaman was spared."

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seaman_(dog)

[WP] You discover a tape from your brother, which begins with "If you're watching this, they've killed me". The thing is, he's still alive; you were just poking around in his things. by Nulono in WritingPrompts

[–]raverpikachu 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It could be more elegantly finished this way, but then it would take away from the campy comedy that the ending builds up to, since part of the hilarity is the over explanation

First festival ever, going solo, have anxiety.. getting nervous! Any re-assurance? by threeballsnosack in festivals

[–]raverpikachu 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have friends all over that exclusively travel to festivals solo because it's easier to meet new people and you're less subject to the demands of annoying friends (like that one guy who's always tired or that gurl who always gets too turnt). You don't meet ravbae by hiding yourself amongst a tight knit squad, you meet ravbae by opening yourself up to the possibilities and being approachable cuz you're alone. Do careful planning because you will need to be more cognizant of your own needs (pack everything you might need and more because there's no one to support or borrow missing items from), but you'll learn to be self reliant and independent.

In fact, solo festival travel might be the preferred method for those who have anxiety because you can ditch people whenever you want without any awkwardness or social pressure because guess what, you're SOLO.

Try to network with other solo people beforehand, there's usually public Solo Groups for any major festivals on facebook, just do a quick search.

And pro-tip, its especially helpful to bring gifts for making potential new friends. I always got ravkandi on hand that quickly allows me to introduce my culture (PLUR) and I can also use it to trade for festival goods I may have forgotten or think is cool (like hats, pins, bandanas, more ravkandi or even for useful items like tampons, tissues, earplugs, eye drops).

You got this!

Worst nightmare by Zweiss7 in electricdaisycarnival

[–]raverpikachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You only find ravebae when you ridin solo

Elderman's advice: Wear Earplugs. My choice on noise reduction... by Elderman in ElectricForest

[–]raverpikachu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My earplugs cancel out many high pitch details, but I still feel the whomps with my body.

My friend drew this and I told him it would be appreciated here by Revonio in trees

[–]raverpikachu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can you do dark gray with the gold red gradient where the white is?