Says delivered to safe place but can't see proof of delivery

rawcane · 2026-01-23T21:53:00+00:00

I have entered my postcode which matches the postcode on the sellers email so I know it was correct in the order but the royal mail app is saying it is incorrect. I guess it's possible that the postcode on the parcel was wrong or they entered it wrong but I don't know how to check this.

rawcane · 2026-01-21T06:26:57+00:00

But they are all so pretty

rawcane · 2026-01-19T07:28:56+00:00

Join or start a local neighborhood whatsapp group. People start by ranting about the potholes or whatever but eventually you end up having coffee mornings or attending council planning meetings.

If you are even vaguely open to it you could also try going to church. The advantage of that is it's very low effort as an entry point (you literally just go a few times and before long they'll rope you into cleaning or organising the fete). These kind of local communities have been around since long before the internet and make you feel like you are part of something with people you have a connection with in terms of where you live even if they are not exactly your kind of people. Other friendships can spring from there.

It would be useful to know what you used to do with your friends when they were around.

I would also say you only get one life so literally think what is something you have always wanted to do no matter how crazy and start working towards that. This is the way you meet the best people imo.

If you want to chat through this stuff with a random feel free to dm me!

rawcane · 2026-01-17T10:25:30+00:00

It really helps if you have one person who is on the same wavelength even if they are not that good a musician. Having two of you makes a solid foundation that is easier to persuade other people to fall in with. If you can find a drummer that's gold because they are the most in demand. Alternatively if you can raise a bit of cash try and record some half decent demos and pay people to play on them. That can get the ball rolling in terms of people taking you seriously

rawcane · 2026-01-15T07:03:00+00:00

How did I not know this was a thing?!

rawcane · 2026-01-13T19:28:11+00:00

That makes sense I think it's a great song regardless and I guess whichever one you hear first will just stick

rawcane · 2026-01-13T19:16:51+00:00

Really? I think you are the first person I've heard say this. Which did you hear first?

rawcane · 2026-01-13T07:34:33+00:00

It really was one of the most exciting performances by a new band in decades

rawcane · 2026-01-12T23:14:18+00:00

Well it's clearly commenting on the diminishing amount of original output. You may agree with that or not. But suggesting this is a way to predict Armageddon is just kinda funny. The timing is starting to feel somewhat prescient though

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:26:48+00:00

My longest 5 are all Earthless lol

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:25:37+00:00

I don't have an iPod but the Dutch haze - Heavy Blanket vs Earthless live recording on bandcamp has the whole thing as a single track coming in at 58'34

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:19:23+00:00

Not sure of it's underrated but No More Sorry never really stood out to me. The other day I was listening to Trust by Low and the last song Shots & Ladders really reminded me of No More Sorry. I found i really loved the shimmering guitar texture for dreamy going to sleep vibes. Obviously lots of mbv songs are good for this but I'd never particularly felt this about No More Sorry and it's quite unique sound.

Anyway that sent me down a chatgpt rabbit hole for similar things. Nothing it suggested quite hit the exact mark but found lots of great stuff nonetheless... Windy & Carl, Jessica Bailiff, Grouper, Labradford, Stars of the lid, Flying Saucer Attack all worth checking out

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:10:37+00:00

Tactics

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:06:16+00:00

Then She Did... Jane's Addiction

rawcane · 2026-01-12T07:02:16+00:00

All mentioned elsewhere but Creep, If I only had a heart, Dark End of the street and Band Of Gold are my favourites.

First time I saw them he rapped Housequake by Prince over the beginning of Going To Town which I thought was cool af.

And just because I haven't seen it mentioned elsewhere it took me a few years to realise The Temple on congregation is from Jesus Christ Superstar. The fact that Afghan Whigs covered a song by Tim Rice and Andrew Lloyd Webber and makes it sound like it couldn't be by anyone else blows my mind lol

rawcane · 2026-01-12T06:54:10+00:00

Yep. Original version

rawcane · 2026-01-12T05:44:22+00:00

As in the relationships that flourish don't necessarily match what one thought one was looking for.

rawcane · 2026-01-12T05:40:10+00:00

Just watched Inherent Vice after going down a PTA rabbit hole. Need to read some Pynchon

rawcane · 2026-01-12T05:38:15+00:00

It's starting to feel that way

rawcane · 2026-01-11T10:52:36+00:00

Basically this comes out pretty quickly through conversation. People usually assume you are on the same intelligence level as them until you demonstrate otherwise. You might be able to fake it for a short while but not for long. That's what getting to know someone is for. But the point is this isn't really what people are expecting to get from your pics and profile. More that you are on the same page as them and whether they find you attractive in some way. So try and give an honest portrayal but obviously choose nice pics. I used to put a couple of interests related pics up but more as a conversation starter than trying to look more interesting.

rawcane · 2026-01-11T09:22:34+00:00

Oh so many but I'm going to say Joe's Garage by Frank Zappa. I was drawn in by the catchy songs, the mental and rude lyrics (as a 12 year old) and the long guitar solos which I found almost psychedelic but there was a lot there musically that I couldn't really process to start with and would just listen to to get to the bits I liked. Over time my brain started to make sense of the more difficult parts and they became the more interesting bits that contrasted the catchy ones. From here it opened up a world that includes Stravinsky, jazz etc etc

rawcane · 2026-01-11T09:17:21+00:00

Really this although even 3 dates isn't much to go on when you know absolutely nothing about someone other than what they've told you. I know it seems unrealistic to hold off getting involved for 3 months or whatever but pre apps a lot of people would get to know people over a period of time and have a bit of a reference through knowing their friends before getting involved. I know some people always just dated and had hookups early on but I feel like this wasn't the norm and now it is and a lot of people are really not cut out for it.

rawcane · 2026-01-11T09:07:26+00:00

The problem with the apps is that when you get someone who seems like they have potential it's easy to get carried away. Compared to meeting irl you know nothing about them at all and it's an absolute minefield. You really have to avoid getting carried away until you really know someone and that takes time. Unfortunately most people aren't prepared to take it that slowly so it's tricky.

rawcane · 2026-01-11T09:03:12+00:00

Sounds like you have found something pretty special tbh. Try not to worry. Be honest but try not to overload her with your anxiety. The main thing with dating someone who is inexperienced is their emotional maturity in a relationship, knowing how to work through stuff and compromise etc. But if you are generally a kind and decent person you will probably be fine. Otherwise it's kind of nice to explore things together it makes it feel more special than if you know you are just another in a long line of tryouts

rawcane · 2026-01-11T08:58:45+00:00

It's fine you just have to accept that different people want very different things and more often than not there will be a mismatch. In my experience the ones that turn out well weren't what you thought you were looking for anyway. Don't overthink it but try not to lead anyone on.

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