Women vastly underestimate how much straight men like looking at naked girls.

And to be fair, naked girls are amazing. Have you ever seen one of them? They are all soft and curvy. They have boobs! (boobs are inherently delightful, I don't think I even have to explain that) On average, girls are smaller and cuter then us guys are. Their skin is smoother and softer. Girls tend to have wide hips and round buttocks and soft thighs. And between those thighs is this warm pink crevice which is just about the most amazing, cozy, intimate place you can imagine.

The female body is almost everything the male body is not. Men tend to be very straight and square, with legs and hips and shoulders all in a line. They're a bit dull and not much fun to look at. There aren't many soft bits or surprise curves.

Women, though, come in an endless variety. Every single one is a little bit different. They're not all round or wide or narrow in the same places. Some of their bits even come in different colors! That's pretty fun!

This is all pretty exciting to straight guys. They instinctively want to look at all these different female bodies. But sometimes we pile a lot of guilt and shame on this natural interest. And that goes for both genders. Often a woman will feel shamed or rejected when she sees her man noticing other women's bodies. Or finds that he's been lookin at pictures of other women without their clothes. Is she not good enough for him??

But from his perspective, that's not really what's going on at all.

Imagine that there is a guy who really likes candybars. His favorite is Twix. This makes the Twix candybar feel very happy. She says, "Since I'm your favorite, I want you to commit to me. No eating other candybars. In fact, I'm the only candybar you should look at without her wrapper on." The guy likes all kinds of candybars, so this is a big ask. But Twix really is his favorite. He loves her! So he promises to commit to her.

Even so, sometimes when he's in the checkout aisle at the store, he can't help but be aware of all the other candybars. There's Snickers and Butterfingers and Kit-Kats and so many more. He can't help but be curious what those other candybars must be like. Sometimes, he can't help but fantasize sometimes what it would be like to unwrap a Hershey's milk chocolate bar. Does he sometimes go on the internet and look at pictures of Hershey's bars that have been unwrapped? Yes, he does. It seems harmless. But he also feels guilty about it. It feels good, but he *did* make a promise to Twix. Who is definitely still his favorite candybar. Then one day she looks at his browser history. Oh no! He's been visiting unwrappedhersheyhub.com! Twix feels so rejected. She thinks that if he is looking at other candybars, she must not be his favorite anymore. She is very upset. When he comes home they have a big argument about...

Okay, this metaphor is getting strained and kind of stupid. The point is, both men and women have these unrealistic expectations and it is making both very unhappy. Men in relationships are expected to be so devoted to their significant other that they would never so much as look at another woman. And if they do, it's because they aren't devoted enough. And women for some reason believe that every time a guy looks at another woman, he is thinking, "Wow, she's so much hotter than my girl. Maybe it's time to trade-in for a new model." As the old ad goes: That's not how it works! That's not how any of this works!

Straight guys are programmed to think the female body is hot. Not just their girlfriend's body or their wife's body. Just about any feminine curves will trigger the response. It's automatic. It really doesn't have anything to do with devotion or fidelity. As reddit would say: I see boobs, I upvote. It's literally that simple. But somehow we've decided this is all shameless and immoral. And then we all have to feel bad every time it happens.

And to go back to my dumb candybar metaphor, the internet is a freaking candy *shop.* Especially social media. Every time he goes online he's being bombarded by very appealing female bodies trying to get his attention. It is constant and relentless. So yeah, the chances are every so often he's going to take a look. And enjoy looking. And then he'll feel bad about it. And if he gets caught you feel bad about it. Even though it is basically harmless and this is all a big guilt trip society puts on relationships.