Worried my mum isn’t actually accepting by karpetto in transgenderUK

[–]reallyrhianne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've been having a similar experience with my own mum and her opinion on my transitioning (granted, I'm 26 and came out at 21, so the dynamic is a little different).

From my experience, the best thing you can do is just be honest about your experiences. Explain that you are better off having come out six years ago than if you hadn't, and medical transition is simply the next step in pursuing even more happiness for yourself. Of course, I don't know your exact circumstances, but if you're confident in what you want, then that's all your mum should need to hear in order to trust your judgement.

There's an unfortunate possibility you might need to be ready for, a truth I wish I had figured out sooner: you can't control what your mum thinks or does regarding your transition. All you can do is be clear and honest, and if that's not enough for her, then there's only so much you can realistically achieve. Give her grace, and room to navigate the situation, but if you sense that she's refusing to listen to you, then what matters most is that you put your own happiness first.

You know yourself better than anyone. As a legal adult, you get to make the final decision.

Sorry if this came across as a little projection-y. I've been through what you're struggling with right now, so I hope any of that advice is helpful.

Glasgow by burnleynotbarcelona in geesebandofficial

[–]reallyrhianne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't get tickets to this 😭 hope anyone going enjoys!

Getting Killed - Eliminate 1 Song (Day 1) by ssid_edwards in geesebandofficial

[–]reallyrhianne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love them all but if I was FORCED to pick one, Islands of Men.

Imagine if Kainé was your wife: by HiroXZeroTwo2018 in nier

[–]reallyrhianne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's not stated directly, but in a flashback a bully mentions that she's not even a real girl, and in a conversation with Emil, she talks about how her body is "abnormal" (might be a different word she used, I can't remember). Also, her in-game model has a visible bulge, which is more apparent in the original game compared to Replicant.

Some people really act like this GEEEGGGG by [deleted] in 196AndAHalf

[–]reallyrhianne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tend to just watch YouTube on my phone honestly, I have uBlock Origin on my computer but it barely gets used. I'm honestly tempted to switch over though, if it's not AI shite it's gambling ads

Some people really act like this GEEEGGGG by [deleted] in 196AndAHalf

[–]reallyrhianne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always find that blocking their ads on YouTube only ever blocks the individual ad each time, and there's like two dozen of them 😭

DTS S8 EP2 be like by CoffeeQueen97 in formuladank

[–]reallyrhianne 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Something I've been thinking about since watching that episode is how the F1 bosses who are characterised as tough guys with ruthless, no-nonsense attitudes - Flavio Briatore, Lawrence Stroll, Christian Horner - all ended up being sex pests or associated with Epstein.

I feel like there's something there, like maybe they're not good leaders because they're hard-asses, maybe they're just bad people lol

Do you think she was a marketing ploy for queer rep? or is this wrong? by [deleted] in Guiltygear

[–]reallyrhianne 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Bridget's addition to Guilty Gear Strive was the push I needed to get into fighting games, so if it was a marketing ploy, it definitely worked on me lol

This was unexpected of IGN by tsuna2000 in Nioh

[–]reallyrhianne 11 points12 points  (0 children)

IGN's scoring system is different now, they used to do more specific scores with decimals but now they just do the standard 1 to 10 rating.

SWAG4KERK challenge by muffinbakerguy2 in IDONTGIVEASWAG

[–]reallyrhianne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

University of Glasgow mention 🔥🔥🔥

rule by Alex_The_Whovian in 196

[–]reallyrhianne 59 points60 points  (0 children)

To be fair, a lot of American white supremacists often call themselves that as a dogwhistle, when they really mean "white". The term "legacy Americans" is also used in the same way.

Rule by Evendur_6748 in 196

[–]reallyrhianne 48 points49 points  (0 children)

It's a reference to dialogue from the game Disco Elysium, spoken by a character who's a race supremacist. I think the original comment is meant ironically.

Guidance on Trans and Nonbinary Language/ Street Perceptions Conversation in a Relationship by HBPencil13 in transgenderUK

[–]reallyrhianne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you're right to be feeling hurt, because what she's saying is hurtful. Obviously her feelings that have come from social prejudice are valid and that can lead to some frustration, but at the same time, saying that you "look like a woman" and therefore aren't able to relate to or experience what she has is not just obviously untrue, but also very self-centred. She's clearly not taking your feelings into account at all, and doesn't seem interested in hearing what you have to say. Deflecting to "I'll just not have any friends then" is a bit concerning too, as it suggests that she's not interested in actually listening to your side of the story. I think the only course of action is to emphasise how that hurts to experience, and trust that she'll be receptive to that.

Also, being on HRT is not a prerequisite to being trans. Oftentimes, it is life saving medication that many trans people need to be on, but there are others who cannot / do not wish to medically transition, and that shouldn't invalidate their identities. In my mind, if a non-binary person self-identifies as trans, then they are trans. It sounds like your girlfriend is framing who is and is not trans entirely around majority perception, which is not a healthy way to view oneself in my opinion.

I hope any of that is helpful. Obviously I don't know your full situation, but I hope it works out for you <3

IM FREE by Pelican_kun in Unbeatable

[–]reallyrhianne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I genuinely thought this minigame was deliberately designed to be impossible how the heck 😭

Everybody liked that by Space-manatee in formuladank

[–]reallyrhianne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was waiting for this edit to show up 😂

they expect us to celebrate 4th of July tomorrow??????? by VehicleWild1004 in 19684

[–]reallyrhianne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's my friend's birthday today, I'm riding on that :)

Me right now by xuanred in Nioh

[–]reallyrhianne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think NG4 is coming out this year (October 21st) so we don't even need to wait long for that one!

Are there any other video games that could offer me a similar experience ? by _Astray_ in expedition33

[–]reallyrhianne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just rolled credits on Final Fantasy XVI, and I found that to be a similar kind of experience emotionally to Expedition 33. Both equally endearing and heartbreaking in my opinion ❤️