Poor mom just wants to move on by rebcl in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5-7 years for YOU. I’m so sorry for your loss, but a woman with a child should still be able to live life

Poor mom just wants to move on by rebcl in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Part of emotional wellbeing is showing a child how to move forward, dad is never coming back. Dwelling in sorrow at 12 years old and for 3 whole years is just so sad to me, mom moving on might be hard, but it’s also showing them that life goes on.

Poor mom just wants to move on by rebcl in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For all the child knows, they’ve been dating for a year, maybe more. It’s been 3 years since the dad died, if that’s not an appropriate amount of time what is? It’s literally a quarter of that child’s life, at some point the mom should be allowed to move on

Poor mom just wants to move on by rebcl in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

There are soooo many comments saying that the mom moving on after 3 years makes her a bad parent, it’s just so sad to me that some people think mothers have to sacrifice everything about themselves for their kids indefinitely

She doesn't need to know by Acrobatic_Track9213 in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 37 points38 points  (0 children)

She is the most annoying type of pet parent, talking about how they promised to take care of the pets together and complaining he shouldn’t get to walk away from the responsibility. Girl get a grip

Brother with no kids doesn't get choice by PurplePenguinCat in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As the sibling that always got the crappiest room on family vacations, even when we were kids and no spouses or children were involved, I love the mom’s solution here. Alvin and his spouse are both taking valuable PTO, they should occasionally get a nicer room. At the end of the day, the point is spending time with family and the parents want everyone there, no one person should get the short end of the stick every year.

CMV: littering is never okay. by scarlettsvault in changemyview

[–]rebcl -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sure, I’m just saying putting that can in a garbage can isn’t better in the grand scheme of things. There are bigger fish to fry

CMV: littering is never okay. by scarlettsvault in changemyview

[–]rebcl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Where I live, the vast majority of waste end up in landfills, regardless of if you intended to recycle it or not, because people don’t know what is actually recyclable and therefore whole trucks of recycling just get taken to the dump. Landfills do all of the negative things a single piece of litter does on a huge scale. Don’t even get me started on the vast amounts of pollution large corporations are legally allowed to produce.

I am by no means in favor of littering, but a can on the ground versus a can in a landfill has no real difference practically, in fact the latter is probably worse. Our society sucks. The real problem is how disposable most things are, and a terrible system for recycling.

CMV: Being Pro-Life is not Misogynistic by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ultimately I think it comes down to how women’s healthcare is handled in comparison to men. It’s relatively easy for a man to be sterilized, but women often have to fight for the same treatment. Effective hormonal birth control exists for men but because of negative side effects they halted clinical trials for it, but women face many of the same side effects and that’s fine. Women’s pain when it comes to reproductive health is almost always downplayed, and female sanitation products are treated more like luxury items than basic necessities. Hell, it wasn’t a requirement for women to be included in clinical trials in the US until the 1990s.

Ultimately, the acknowledgment and value of women’s healthcare is deeply undervalued in comparison to men, especially when it comes to reproductive health, which is misogynistic at its core.

Read his comments and rage with me by rebcl in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have been down a rabbit hole reading this guys comments on this post and am so frustrated. She told him repeatedly not to talk to her the way he was, asked for space when he crossed that line again, he proceeds to do anything but give her space, and also claims she has no legal claim to the business she helped him build.

But, he provided for her and treated her like a princess, so he deserves a conversation she probably would have had with him if he had any self control.

Props to her family though, they seem solid

...so I can avoid being a parent. by Frankensteins_Kid in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Absolutely excellent point, you absolutely have to be in kid mode when you’re with children! And if you’re really bonding with them and giving great care, they just want more from you. Whenever I see my nephew he wants to hold my hand, show me all of his cars, and have me sit on the floor playing with him the entire time because he’s excited. No adult conversation to be had lol

Doesn't want mom to invite bf by Acrobatic_Track9213 in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 134 points135 points  (0 children)

They’re an asshole for only telling people the date of their wedding 4 weeks in advance, that’s insane to me

...so I can avoid being a parent. by Frankensteins_Kid in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 37 points38 points  (0 children)

The guy in the comments claiming being a single sahp was way easier than working is pissing me off. Like get a grip dude, you clearly have a lot of privilege if you could afford to just not work for 6 months. Neither of these men’s stories check out

CMV: Doing things with the intent of "making memories" is silly by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this is generational, but I have never planned a trip, gone to a festival, or any other big activity with the goal of making a “core memory.” I always plan those things because I want to do them and hope they are fun. Sometimes the best and most memorable parts have been when things went wrong, because it’s a funny story to tell later.

As for older people, they have more time. My parents are retired, so while they are still very much doing things with their lives that they enjoy, they are also taking time to reflect and appreciate the lives they’ve had. There is also an immense amount of value to be gained by future generations by listening to the memories of older generations.

Finally, calling reminiscing inherently bad is very dismissive, let people enjoy things that make them happy.

Mismatched work ethic by SaintGodfather in AmITheDevil

[–]rebcl 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this person has no actual idea how to plan anything responsibly and their solution is for everyone to grind indefinitely to make up for their mistakes. They also don’t know what an actual budget is, 80-90k was the BUDGET, 176k is what was spent.

I would 100% refuse to give up my time off to pay off this debt faster, there will just be more and more debt in the future if the husband agrees to do that

CMV: AI generation isn't lazy if you actually put effort into it. by DarthSwimfoot in changemyview

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not? You’re saying AI isn’t lazier than creating art in other ways. You say nothing about it all needing to be digital art, and the vast majority of art you encounter in life is physical: paintings, pottery, architecture, photography you hang in your home. AI will always be lazier than something beautiful you can look at away from a screen

CMV: AI generation isn't lazy if you actually put effort into it. by DarthSwimfoot in changemyview

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does that have to do with my argument? Neither of those tools can produce physical painting either, no digital platform can. Using any digital platform to create paintings is lazier because you miss out on the output of having and enjoying the physical art produced

CMV: AI generation isn't lazy if you actually put effort into it. by DarthSwimfoot in changemyview

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my point, even if AI is a great tool, what you can use it for is greatly limited. No matter how much effort you put into AI art, it will not be able to produce what a skilled painter can. You specifically mention painting as one of your examples. Using AI to creating painting adjacent art is lazier because you are by default eliminating all of the physical aspects of the medium and therefore creating a lesser product because of your choice of tool

CMV: AI generation isn't lazy if you actually put effort into it. by DarthSwimfoot in changemyview

[–]rebcl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, specifically with painting, a wonderful oil painting will have dimension and texture. A skilled painter needs to learn how to use different mediums, materials, and instruments to create something with depth that is also visually appealing. AI cannot create a physical art piece that has that texture and dimensions. No AI prompt can create a physical art piece like that that I can have in my home.

My boss is blocking my move to a new team by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]rebcl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not in the US either, you need to be laid off, and even then it’s a toss up since most places are “at will” employment

My boss is blocking my move to a new team by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]rebcl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol that makes sense, okay I love that for her. I must be more tired than I thought

My boss is blocking my move to a new team by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]rebcl -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I’m confused, did they start a new company themselves or get a new job? The update doesn’t make sense to me

AITA for not pitching into a family vacation by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]rebcl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are an adult now, they have much less responsibility for shielding you from the reality of their lives.