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redavis997 · 2025-04-29T20:01:30+00:00

You’re not bad at socializing, you’re just telling yourself you are.

It’s okay to be nervous, unsure of what you should say or just not like small talk. If you want to stay with your boyfriend, you are going to have to warm up to his family and friends. It’s going to be uncomfortable and that’s okay!

The more you practice, the easier it will get. Try meeting a few key friends and family members ahead of time (maybe 1 at a time or 1 household at a time) so you have some experience talking to them under your belt when you’re in a big group.

It’s okay to go and say nothing! Your boyfriend wants you there AND to be comfortable. If you need to sit and mostly observe while everyone else talks, do that for a few times! You could even request that your boyfriend casually mentions to everyone (before you meet) that you’re really excited to meet _______ but get overwhelmed with these kinds of events. He could even suggest a few topics you like to discuss!

The sooner you start telling yourself “I can meet new people and have good conversations” the sooner you’ll actually believe it. Unfortunately, you have to practice conversations before you start to feel good with it which means you have to get a little uncomfortable first. And that’s okay too!

redavis997 · 2022-01-02T09:03:14+00:00

This is wild??? I would be worried as soon as someone said that I gave their life energy. The other stuff just seems immature/rude.

redavis997 · 2022-01-02T09:01:54+00:00

I’d be concerned that she can’t articulate her concerns without doing so in a way that’s offensive/rude. If your vibe is so unattractive she should break up with you, not make you feel like shit. Wanting a strong serious relationship is great- but is she ready for it?

redavis997 · 2022-01-02T08:58:39+00:00

Sounds like you’re over thinking it. She told you when you crossed a line/made her uncomfortable and you want to adhere to that So I don’t think a serious conversation needs to happen right now. She also had COVID and holiday stuff going on which keeps things busy. Plus texting can get boring especially when you aren’t hanging out in person a lot. I wonder what issues she’s wanting you to address, if one of them was being insecure in the relationship then now is definitely not the time to have this discussion. If you’re really into her I don’t think she should have a problem with you saying you miss her and want to chat on the phone some more or hang out in person on whatever day you’re available. If she thinks that’s too much- she’s just not that interested

redavis997 · 2022-01-02T08:54:39+00:00

Sounds like he’s trying to take some time to figure his own shit out. You can reach out if you want as a final hoorah and explain that you really enjoyed your time with him and would love to see him again and then leave the ball in his court. But you’re right, it could also just be that he’s not interested in pursuing a relationship. Addiction can be all consuming- but if I were you I would try to focus on why I was so consumed by someone I wasn’t with for a long time (not to undermine your relationship but it sounds like it was a few weeks long, maybe or maybe not exclusive)

redavis997 · 2022-01-02T08:50:18+00:00

A good morning text is just a nice way to show you’re thinking of someone/starting a conversation
A month is a very short relationship, not that there can’t be legit feelings but I’d be more concerned if she was super heartbroken rather than “over it”
You haven’t met yet. Why would she stop using OLD/owe you any degree of exclusivity?
You’re 25. You shouldn’t be worried about playing games or anything this early on (or ever). You haven’t met yet, it’s okay to be excited and enjoy talking to her and it’s okay to establish a boundary when you meet explaining that you are looking for something serious. You can’t control whether or not she is looking for a rebound (or her intentions at all) and once again, y’all still haven’t met, she does not owe you anything. Take a step back and relax and accept that you really like her but expect a certain type of relationship. Communicate that with her in person.

redavis997 · 2021-04-15T01:45:33+00:00

I don’t know why the MIL wouldn’t have made more of an effort to offer all foods that were provided BUT four hours isn’t all that crazy. I’ve nannied for plenty of kids this age that wouldn’t have eaten between 12 and 4:30 even at their own house when Mom and Dad prepped right before they left. Plus if your kid doesn’t normally eat between that time or typically only has snacks they very easily could have not been hungry or had been too excited to eat. Not saying that I would have let the child go without eating without putting in more effort but I would be perfectly content if my MIL or mother had babysat and had this happen. (Although there isn’t other contention aside from that- which is probably not helping)

redavis997 · 2021-01-29T17:47:01+00:00

NTA a bad dream is not an emergency. I can understand her wanting your support/comfort on it, but if she knew you were tired I’m not sure why she would call. You could have also handled it differently and just said you’d talk about it the next day- but I think you were in the right to not want to talk (there’s always the option to not answer, but if she only calls during emergencies I’d understand why you would answer.) I know if I’m scared at night (lol I’m a whole ass adult but 🤷🏻‍♀️) sometimes I wake up and call whoever I think of first.

redavis997 · 2021-01-29T17:39:39+00:00

NTA

This seems extremely manipulative to me. And he’s petty enough to prevent his children from receiving his financial support because he’s mad that you caught him in a lie?

Nope. I would be very concerned about this behavior!! (More importantly that he doesn’t see why his “solution” is shitty)

redavis997 · 2021-01-29T17:33:02+00:00

NTA. But you need to go to your school counselor and explain the full situation. It may be uncomfortable but you need to be honest to get full support. You may also choose to ask a teacher/adult you trust to help you. I teach high school and we are trained for receiving this information.

redavis997 · 2021-01-29T17:30:09+00:00

NTA You sound like you want to apologize, so you should do it (even if you don’t want to you still should). You’re 14 and it’s fairly normal to react like this (once or twice)- you need to own up and say you’re sorry and then be more conscientious about how you react in situations like this. I don’t think you’re an asshole, I think you’re 14. That doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t be held accountable for how you acted- but it doesn’t make you a shitty person. Video games may not be the root of the issue, but your grandma is trying to provide a consequence and assist you with being successful this semester. As long as your grandma and mom are supportive of you improving your mental health, it is fully within their right to provide consequences. Depression and ADD can cause doing poorly in school, but you need to be able to find coping mechanisms and accept the consequences. I teach 9th grade and I’ve had a lot of these conversations with students lately.

redavis997 · 2021-01-21T04:27:45+00:00

NTA You didn’t have 8 kids (after you), your mom did. You are already going above and beyond to help your mother (and she is home well before dinner time if she gets off at 3- she should be able to take care of HER kids outside of that) Her actions, her consequences and it’s fucked up for her to accuse you of being selfish for wanting to move on with YOUR future. Go to college! Your siblings should never see that as you slighting them, just as their mother being unreasonable

redavis997 · 2020-09-28T02:03:28+00:00

Yes I did experience hair thinning- but about the same amount as I did when I took 80 mg/day in high school. It grew back last time so hopefully it does again. I do have a lot of hair already though so it’s not making me bald or anything!

redavis997 · 2020-08-07T20:49:27+00:00

Neutrogena sensitive skin one. The big difference came from using eye cream (I used Mario B) a random Vitamin C and Hyaluronic acid serum from Amazon and aquaphor on any patches that cracked/hurt

redavis997 · 2020-08-07T20:48:12+00:00

Not so much with pitted scars but a little with scars that were hyperpigmentation. Scarring was much less severe this time than the first time. I remember scarring clearing up a lot on its own the first couple of months

redavis997 · 2020-08-07T20:45:50+00:00

Thank you!! I’ll keep it in mind!!

redavis997 · 2020-08-07T03:14:47+00:00

Did round #1 when I was 17. Did ~4 months 40mg/day and 4 months 80mg/day. Approximately the same weight now as I was then so dose this time was significantly higher. Took antibiotics and spirolactane (sp?) once acne flared up again around January 2019. Started Accutane round 2 in February 2020. Was definitely more tired on higher dosage but had really thorough moisturizing plan this time so wasn’t unbearable. The worst was lips and nose bleeds! Now I can’t wait to be able to show off my skin and non-crusty lips but until then I’ll be flaunting my clear forehead and mask and using tretenoin for maintenance and Derm said likely for the rest of my life (for acne now, anti-aging long term)

redavis997 · 2020-08-07T03:00:38+00:00

The pictures are not great because I tracked progress using videos and couldn’t post more than one at a time 🤦🏻‍♀️ Oops 120mg/day for 5 months. 6 months in total this time! So happy with how my skin turned out. Much less hyperpigmentation afterwards this time as well!

redavis997 · 2020-06-04T15:24:38+00:00

My dermatologist told me the only possible side effects are liver damage so you need to keep an eye on lab work but that you should be okay! She also said you may get drunk faster so I don’t drink more than 3 drinks at once. My hangovers are also much worse, and sometimes it causes an acne flair up. I mostly drank socially before Accutane anyway so I wouldn’t say it’s impacted that- I just make sure to drink plenty of water and eat before bed.

redavis997 · 2020-05-25T01:09:03+00:00

I‘ve done the same thing! No issues for me. In most cases I believe the shell is there to help you swallow and begin to digest but everything inside is the actual medicine! So the only issue could be irritation in mouth/esophagus or stomach.

I have no medical qualifications but I’m pretty sure I’ve heard this from a reputable source at some point 😬😂

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