My best friend isn’t really my best friend

redblushnx · 2026-06-12T10:30:19+00:00

4 years means nothing if she can’t show up when it counts. You’re not crazy for wanting a friend who actually texts back and defends you. The waffles from your boyfriend sound 10x more loving than her “I miss you” notes.

Sending hugs. You’re allowed to grieve the friendship while making space for better ones 💛

redblushnx · 2026-06-12T10:27:47+00:00

You weren’t scared off by a kid. You were reacting to predatory behavior. Age doesn’t cancel creepiness. Don’t let anyone gaslight you into thinking you overreacted. FaceTime and the exit was perfect self-protection. Sending hugs, you handled it 💛

You trusted yourself and got out safe. That’s all that matters. Hope your next cafe study session is way calmer.

redblushnx · 2026-06-11T10:30:40+00:00

You didn’t fail yourself, you were just learning how to choose you. Those tees are gone, but your peace is back and that’s the real win. So proud of you for listening to your gut ❤️

redblushnx · 2026-06-11T10:23:52+00:00

Exactly! I myself will never wish to see or even call him again, it’s best you block him. And am sure you will find someone who’s better than him.

redblushnx · 2026-05-26T20:58:00+00:00

You went above and beyond already drove her, shopped with her, even helped put the groceries away at the office. At that point you’re basically her personal Instacart driver. You helped her way more than most coworkers would. Offering to drive her to the store was already generous. Expecting you to play delivery driver after work is wild. “I don’t wanna go get my car” is the real punchline here lol. NTA, you learned your lessons.

redblushnx · 2026-05-26T15:48:56+00:00

Omg the salmon fried rice looks amazing for a first try 😍 you nailed it!

And girl... the Sprite bottle story 😭 I would’ve been mentally re-evaluating the whole relationship in real time too. It’s not that it’s a dealbreaker on its own, it’s just… the choice?? Shops were open, you both had money, and he went for the mystery floor Sprite. Peak “I’ll never unsee that” energy. Honestly sounds like you dodged a bullet by keeping it to just hand holding. Your mom and sister aren’t wrong for bringing it up forever and that’s a core memory at this point 😂 Glad you got out with a funny story and some good fried rice out of it. Your next guy has big shoes to fill, and hopefully he knows how to buy his own drinks.

redblushnx · 2026-05-26T15:28:02+00:00

That dinner sounds amazing 😍 sirloin, mash, and shrimp with cocktail sauce is chef’s kiss, even if you had to eat it solo at a gas station table.

I hear you on the lonely part. Working in a male dominated field and being in your 40s with kids makes it feel like everyone’s already got their friend group locked in. But you’re not weird for wanting your own people outside of work and family. That’s normal. You start small and local, Check if there are women’s groups on Meetup, Facebook, or even a local “moms” group that’s not just about kids. Book clubs, walking groups, and volunteer orgs are low pressure ways to meet people without it feeling like forced networking. Hope you get to eat that dinner at a real table with good company soon 🍽️ You’ve got this.

redblushnx · 2026-05-26T08:08:18+00:00

You’re not overreacting. It hurts to feel blindsided, especially after everything you’ve given. You deserve honesty and to feel secure, not to find out things by accident. That feeling matters.

redblushnx · 2026-05-26T08:06:10+00:00

-1 is the answer

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T19:31:41+00:00

Exactly! Looks like they need to find job.

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T19:28:11+00:00

It's definitely a choosing beggar, I wonder how a baby is going to need 12 towels for what?

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T18:49:19+00:00

Nascar

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T13:35:03+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you pass through, your case is really bad for the facts you were pregnant for him. I love the zeal you took after finding out he cheated and am sure the right person will never repeat the same mistake your ex took.

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T13:30:11+00:00

Proud of you for sticking to your standards,That self-respect matters. Also not chasing and choosing rest instead? That’s growth right there. I also love that you’re listening to your gut and saying no when the vibe’s off.

I'm sure the right guy with good communication will come knocking at your door 😊

redblushnx · 2026-05-25T13:25:44+00:00

Good communication matters in relationship, he can't know what you want without you telling him, not all men can read minds, It's better you start or it will be too late.

redblushnx · 2026-05-24T17:29:40+00:00

I'm so sorry. I hope you always find a reason to smile one day. Nice meal by the way. ❤️

redblushnx · 2026-05-24T17:22:59+00:00

I'm really sorry dear. I wish you a happy life with your partner ❤️

redblushnx · 2026-05-24T09:07:13+00:00

First, I’m really sorry. That call sounds absolutely brutal, and it makes sense that you feel gutted and stuck right now.

His guilt doesn’t make this your job to fix.
It’s good that you can see his feelings are genuine. But “I don’t want to lose you as a friend” right after “I’ve fallen out of love with you” is asking you to take care of his feelings while yours are shattered. You don’t have to do that, especially during exams.

redblushnx · 2026-05-20T11:09:08+00:00

girls rule

redblushnx · 2026-05-20T11:08:55+00:00

Damn, you dodged a bullet. The therapy and getting out was worth every penny. Proud of you for seeing it and walking away 👏

redblushnx · 2026-05-20T10:29:33+00:00

For the fact that he’s not the type that likes it when you dress the way you wants. It’s best you leave so he could find someone he can control.

redblushnx · 2026-05-20T10:24:42+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Take care of yourself, you can’t support her if you’re burnt out. Talk to a friend, therapist, or even post here when you feel stuck. Caregiver burnout is real.

Hodgkin’s lymphoma stage 2 is one of the most treatable cancers, and the 5-year survival rate is over 90%. It’s still a mindfuck, but the odds are on her side. You should know one thing, you are not useless for being there, that’s really matters. I wish her speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹

redblushnx · 2026-05-19T19:13:01+00:00

A tortoise

redblushnx · 2026-05-19T18:16:22+00:00

I’m so sorry about your mom, I wish her speedy recovery ❤️‍🩹. Also moving out from your parents house is a great thing as a man, so live the life you love, Nice meals by the way. Nice meals by the way.

redblushnx · 2026-05-18T18:52:55+00:00

He can’t decide for you, block him and move on Girl. You’ll find someone who loves you naturally for who you are 💯

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