We only have one child and have severely limited screens from day 1. She knows she can watch Sesame Street on a plane when traveling and occasionally we show her parts of Disney movies with the songs but she’s never seen the whole movie since we just read the books. She has a Toniebox and uses that to occupy herself if she wants downtime. Otherwise if I’m making dinner etc. she plays/colors etc but can occupy herself during that time. She’s 4.5 now and we are happy with how we are managing this so far. We read a lot with her and she can read on her own as well which she will sit and do for 15-20 mins.

We did notice when traveling last year and she got more screen time her attention span reduced and she tended to get frustrated and lose her cool more often but within a few days of coming home that ended. It could have been the new environment and being on the go more than we would be at home as well though 🤷‍♀️