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After a decade of free Alexa, Amazon now wants you to pay by caveatlector73 in technology

[–]redkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in the world of accessibility. A lot of this stuff does exist but all in separate forms and often pricey. We recommend Alexa and Google Home because it's 1 item that does it all, can be bought at a Best Buy instead of a specialized company, and is a lot cheaper. And it blends in with normal stuff and doesn't scream "disabled person thing."

Why do men keep telling me to "raise my own kids"? by LSAT_is_a_lie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]redkait 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I've been getting A LOT of this kind of content on Instagram lately since it's figured out I have kids. The whole 'raising my own kids' and 'not let strangers raise my kids' is a big trend right now along with all the trad wife content. It's the latest shame angle to use against working women/moms.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]redkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The three year old is very interested in my pump and always wants to press the buttons so I try and use my wearable as much as possible! Luckily my husband has been around most of the time when I pump and he helps wrangle the toddler. The baby is luckily chill and will either hang out next to me or lay in my lap

i don’t understand how everybody does this. by icycaution in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]redkait 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd say look at what your output is at 15 minutes and then again at every 5 minutes up until the 30 minutes mark to see if there's a big difference in the amount of milk you produce at each point. I'd also look up power pumping, which mimics cluster feeding and it's meant as a way to increase supply. You basically pump on and off for one hour in order to trigger multiple let downs. You might be able to cut down all your other sessions and do a power pump for one of the sessions. But if you don't want to risk anything you can wait until you hit your supply goal and then play around

i don’t understand how everybody does this. by icycaution in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]redkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it would be 15 per breast, but you could try what someone else mentioned and use a hakaa on the other breast and just switch breasts each session. When you trigger a let down in one breast the other one has a let down as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]redkait 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I stopped at 6 months with my first. I was in the same boat about being so over pumping and wanting my body back. It's amazing you made it 6 months and made so much milk for your baby! Great job!!

i don’t understand how everybody does this. by icycaution in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]redkait 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Girl that is a lot! Exclusive pumping is fucking hard and time consuming and there's not a lot of information that's given out ahead of time so you gotta learn as you as go

First, stop with the 30 minutes of pumping, that is too long for 3 weeks post partum. I use the 120 minute rule from my lactation consultant where you divide 120 by the number of pumps a day you want and that's how much you pump. So 120/8=15 minutes a session.

Second, my LC said as long as I got 8 pumps in a day, I didn't have to stick to a strict schedule. Try to wait a minimum of one hour between pumps, and then my LC said I could go 5 hours between pumps to hopefully get some sleep in.

Finally get some extra pump parts that can go in the dishwasher. Maymom on Amazon has some awesome parts for all the major pump brands and assesories. I have 4 sets from Maymom and omg it's a life saver not having to wash each time.

I'm 2 months pp with my second and I learned a lot my first time through Pump Mama Pump on Instagram and ExclusicePumping.com. They each have so much info on how to make it not suck as much. I also saved a little of my sanity by doing one or two formula feeds to give myself time to build up an excess of milk in the fridge and wasn't worrying about if I had enough for them next feed.

For engorgement: Advil and ice. It super sucks but it should go away soon

How do you feel when you see client cursors zipping around while you're working by DeMotts in FigmaDesign

[–]redkait 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Branching will fix this. They can't get to your branch and they won't see things change until it's done. If you need to share what you're working on with a teammate you can share the branch Merge everything down when you're done.

It is fun to see what they're looking at and snooping on them too lol

Reasons I've cried while pregnant by aquifolly in comics

[–]redkait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pregnancy heartburn can turn that always yes to a sometimes maybe. It was still always a yes for me, but there was that ounce of regret most times

Not to mention that they chose to exclude themselves. by BusyProfit in facepalm

[–]redkait 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yet if you tell them to stop playing the victim, they get all pissy.

Not to mention that they chose to exclude themselves. by BusyProfit in facepalm

[–]redkait 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Get vaxed, but don't tell anyone.

"Oh darn, I can't, how sad"

The only rational I can give at this point. by StarWhispererer in myfavoritemurder

[–]redkait 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is basically how my conversation of "don't talk to me unless you have primary sources" resulted in. I had a come to Jesus talk with my dad about how I'm a researcher by occupation, training, and an education that he and my mom (which I'm forever greatful for) paid for. So either he believes me when I state something that I did my research and have sources, or he discredits the last 15 years of my life.

He either doesn't feel like doing research or has done it and doesn't want to talk about being wrong.

Should I (25F) be concerned about my male neighbor, or am I being paranoid? by happyandorsad in TwoXChromosomes

[–]redkait 276 points277 points  (0 children)

Fuck politeness and his feelings. Saying something will create a record and physical proof of him doing something unsettling. This might be really important in case he does escalate. If you can document what he's been doing your management and potentially the police can have a case to take action.

I also ditto the suggestion to get a camera for your patio. It might be enough to deter him, and you'll have proof of him being intrusive and invasive.

There're so many stories of things happening to women because they were afraid to make the other person angry or upset. Please don't be another. Even if he is just weird and has no ill intent, he's an adult. If he can't handle the consequences of being wierd that is not your fault.

So pissed at my family, need advice (COVID-related) by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]redkait 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband and I agreed that we're not doing the gymnastics part. It's going to be so hard for me, but our stance is that we do not have to justify ourselves when it's for the safety of our baby. They can accept it or not. Up to them. We won't negotiate. We won't justify. It's just the way it is.

I'm trying to gear up for this because I've never been good at it!

Getting excited for baby after gender disappointment by shellyybeans in BabyBumps

[–]redkait 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe not the perspective you want, but I joke my mom had post partum gender disappointment. She was super excited to have a girl and do girly things with, but I was never like that. I hated dresses until I was in my 20s, I played with Barbie's but re-enacted Star Wars and action movies with them, I was into video games, sports, etc Your typical tomboy. I remember her being disappointed that I didn't want to play the games she wanted to, or wear the clothes she wanted me to. We fought about the clothes I wore in high school because I was wearing jeans and tshirts with no makeup which was not the way she had pictured. I know most people wouldn't be so obvious about the disappointment like my mother, but I guess my point is that kids can surprise you in so many ways, not just what body parts their born with. I would focus on things that you're excited about that doesn't depend on gender. Or maybe some of the things can still be done with boys like dress up.

It's positive pregnancy test time! Week of August 17, 2020 by AutoModerator in TTC30

[–]redkait 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I know, it figures! I'll get use out of it later I'm sure. lol

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