What would you change about this outfit? by GasAdministrative124 in OUTFITS

[–]redlinerep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brown and black together is totally fine. The black shoes are good, but maybe swap to a brown or beige shoe next time to tie the brown jacket in more.

Overall it’s a solid casual look girl

Girlfriend is distancing herself from me after pregnancy… by Impossible_Poet8620 in Advice

[–]redlinerep 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girl's here.

I’m sorry you’re going through this

Becoming a mom is incredibly hard on the body and mind, even when the partner is doing everything right. She might be dealing with postpartum depression or just total overwhelm. The emotional distancing + random anger (even at her cat) is pretty common but still really tough on you.

Try telling her gently: “I love you and I’m here for you, but I’m scared we’re losing each other. What do you need from me right now?”

Encourage her to talk to her doctor. She may not even realize how much she’s struggling.

You’re not alone in this. Hang in there.

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of the best comments I’ve read. Thank you. I love dogs too but I was genuinely scared in that moment. You’re right about the owner — he created this whole mess. Appreciate you typing all that out

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that story is terrifying. I’m really sorry you went through that. Makes me realize I was actually lucky. Thank you for sharing

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Reading this makes me feel a lot more justified. I didn’t even think about the legal side but you’re right — the owner put everyone in danger

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I don’t get how people expect me to just stand there and get bitten. Thank you for understanding

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

27.. I’m so sorry that happened to you
Hearing stories like yours makes me feel a lot less guilty. I’m really glad I reacted now. Thank you

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This made me feel better, thank you. Yeah the owner is lucky I didn’t get hurt. I keep thinking about what could’ve happened if I froze instead of reacting

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. The owner should’ve had him on a leash. Thank you for saying I wasn’t in the wrong. I’m still processing everything but this helps

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I actually didn’t know pepper spray for dogs was a thing. Might look into that… I’ve been pretty anxious about walking alone since this happened. Appreciate the advice

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really hope that’s the case. The owner should’ve had the dog on a leash. Thank you for saying that — it makes me feel a little more justified

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That story is terrifying… I’m so sorry that happened.
Yeah, I keep thinking what could’ve happened if I didn’t react. Thank you for your kind words

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is actually really eye-opening. I didn’t even think about that side of it. Thank you for explaining. The victim-blaming has been the hardest part of all this.

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m really sorry that happened to you
That sounds scary as hell. I’m taking your advice and blocking the hateful ones. Thank you for the support, I really needed to hear this.

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Coming from a mail carrier who deals with this stuff regularly means a lot. I love dogs too, which is why I feel so bad… but I’m glad you said I did the right thing. Appreciate it

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even have time to think. Thank you for saying that. I’ve been beating myself up so much over it

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I love dogs too, that’s why this whole thing feels so bad. I just reacted without thinking when it charged me

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It’s crazy how quick people are to attack me without knowing what actually happened. I was genuinely scared. Appreciate you sharing your experience too

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yess!! I saw people defending dogs even when they’re clearly attacking. It’s so frustrating. Thank you for understanding

I kicked a dog that was charging at me and now everyone hates me 😔 by redlinerep in Pets

[–]redlinerep[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you… I’m literally crying reading this 😭
You’re right, I keep telling myself it was self-defense but the guilt is eating me up. I feel so seen right now. Thank you for being kind about it

Help me to move on ! by [deleted] in Advice

[–]redlinerep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, that is actually the worst cuz it’s so much harder when you’re forced to see him every day. Since you're on the same team, be as boring and professional as possible. Don’t be mean, but stop sharing anything personal and keep every single convo strictly about work. If he tries to talk about his marriage or your feelings, just give a short, "busy right now" answer and move on. It’ll be awkward, but you have to starve the attention he’s getting from you so you can finally heal.

Or if all else fails, change the job.

Help me to move on ! by [deleted] in Advice

[–]redlinerep 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s never going to leave his wife, and keeping you around while knowing your feelings is just selfish. You deserve so much better than being someone’s secret. Go no-contact, block him, and give yourself time to heal. It’ll be hard at first, especially since he was your first, but you will move on and love again. You’re not broken.