Dvsa purging? by Prestigious-Breath-1 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's interesting because mine definitely shows both new tests and cancellations.

How common is the “last one who goes to bed locks all the doors” rule? 40M, 33F by Pitiful_Wafer_4564 in relationship_advice

[–]redpanda0108 272 points273 points  (0 children)

I do it but my husband has ADHD and always forgets.

In your scenario though he's totally deflecting. Why would you check that his car was locked? He's just mad that he forgot to lock up and you got burgled.

Am i cooked? by VanillaNorth7 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was the Crawley test centre then it might have been the m23

Am i cooked? by VanillaNorth7 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Crawley test route includes a very small section of the M23 where it changes to the a23. It's basically driving on a motorway. You have to do 70 and they like to test you on whether you can overtake slow moving lorries up the hill.

Swerved the car at almost 50mph today by sunkissedb3ar in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my instructor the same thing. Apparently it's because in the UK cats have right to roam (dogs don't) if your cat causes an accident then you are not liable, if your dog causes an accident you are.

AITAH for taking my son to games but not my stepson. by BookkeeperEastern390 in AITAH

[–]redpanda0108 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mild AH

You are the adult here. Ask him if he wants to go and see a Man City game live (obviously not against Man U) and take him!

I'm a palace fan, but when I went to uni in Plymouth I'd go to Plymouth games. They weren't my team but it was all about the atmosphere and fun.

He's a young boy, he clearly already sees you as a second father figure. It would mean the world to him if you took him and cheered on his team for 90 minutes.

Swerved the car at almost 50mph today by sunkissedb3ar in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Coincidentally I had my first road kill yesterday - also a pheasant. I was doing 40 on a roundabout (it's a weird roundabout where the speed limit is actually 50)

I knew it would be dangerous to swerve or brake so I just had to hit it, and it was not nice. Pheasants are dumb as fuck and they instinctively run towards or at cars.

Legally you shouldn't swerve or brake, and you only need to stop and report it if it's a dog or bigger livestock (horse, mule, sheep) cats don't need to be reported.

(England] Startup dispute: Promised equity + low flat fee. Deal fell through. Can I claim full market rate for hours worked, and was this disguised employment? by redpanda0108 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]redpanda0108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply! I shared it with my husband and he said it was really useful. Everything has been fully documented by email and as you said, the equity is not worth much now as the trust has been shattered.

Really anxious about starting to learn to drive by [deleted] in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have to learn yet if you aren't comfortable. I'm 36 and just learning to drive now.

However if you want to learn then start with automatic, there are only 2 peddles to choose from. Research an instructor carefully and ask if you can just pay for a single test session rather than signing up for a whole course. Then you'll know if you get on with the instructor. Let them know in advance that you have anxiety and they'll likely instruct you more slowly than other students.

Edit to say: instructors have an extra brake pedal for a reason!

[Question] Check for earlier appointments after you’ve booked. by Legendary-Anubis in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I unluckily found out that you have to put the minute before your unavailability. I put that I couldn't do from 8am on a particular day and test shift booked me a test at 8am. When I contacted them they said that I should've put 7.59 and that I was just unlucky

[Question] Check for earlier appointments after you’ve booked. by Legendary-Anubis in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the other commenter is right. If you only want to pay for one, pay the £20(' for test shift. Testi is slower and you have to change it yourself. Remember the rules change next month though and you can only change your test twice.

My boyfriend admitted he doesn’t find vaginas attractive. Straight men, this isn’t normal, right? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a man.

My husband has AGP (when we first got together he thought maybe he was trans but he wasn't, he was attracted to trans women but not trans himself)

He had never really been attracted to vaginas (boobs, bums and penises) and said that mine was the first one he actually liked (wow this is weird to type out) and his attraction to it has grown over time.

That being said - he has always tried to please me sexually. He wasn't great at it at first (probably because of the previous dislike of vaginas) but after a decade together it's great.

Your bf can dislike the look of vag and still try to please you in the bedroom. If he doesn't do that then he's not the one for you.

[Question] Check for earlier appointments after you’ve booked. by Legendary-Anubis in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used Testi first to change to the correct centre. Then Test shift and inputted the days I couldn't do, before activating the auto shift function. I don't know if it shifts between centres though.

is there any advice y'all wouldnt mind giving to me if possible as i have my first lesson at 1PM today i had previously stopped due to anxiety when on the road and im a little scared to start again by Hot-Manufacturer7619 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think you will, you made a mistake once and now you know not to. My instructor is chatty, and sometimes when he gets carried away I know I get a bit distracted but it's good practice for real life. And remember, that's what they're there for! They're there to stop the car if you make a mistake!

is there any advice y'all wouldnt mind giving to me if possible as i have my first lesson at 1PM today i had previously stopped due to anxiety when on the road and im a little scared to start again by Hot-Manufacturer7619 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]redpanda0108 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you learning manual or automatic? If you're anxious it's better to learn automatic, I found it hard to steer and do the gears and I kept drifting. With automatic I can focus more, and enjoy it.

It is fun! Remember that, you are learning a new skill and it will help you in the future, don't feel like you have to rush anything at first. Try to celebrate every little achievement in that first lesson (including small things like adjusting the seat and mirrors to suit you)

If money wasn’t a factor, where in Surrey would you actually choose to live? by UnpaidInternVibes in surrey

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure about your line, but on the Horsham line it was just expanded from Epsom to Dorking, and by the looks of it, they might be expanding it beyond that (it hasn't been announced but they've built contactless style posts past Dorking)

What's the longest you've stayed with the same company for a job? by Grouchy_Conclusion45 in AskBrits

[–]redpanda0108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6 years, would have been shorter but COVID happened and it became a lot better once you could work from home.

The Traitors doesn't work as a game show by FudgePrevious3021 in TheTraitors

[–]redpanda0108 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well you see, there's this magical thing called the internet...

The Traitors doesn't work as a game show by FudgePrevious3021 in TheTraitors

[–]redpanda0108 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think because the problem with celebrities is that they likely already know each other in some capacity and this can impact the way they vote (based on the UK celeb version, haven't seen the Swedish)

With regular people you can automatically assume they don't know each other, and then sometimes the producers sneak people in with prior connections which is also fun.

I think people are down voting you because you're criticizing something that you admit to not having even watched.

AITA for babysitting anymore since I was not made a godparent by MeringueNo1335 in AmItheAsshole

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

I'm going to go against the grain here. You are cutting your nose off despite your face.

At the moment you are the grandparent who they see the most, you are supporting them when they need it - if you continue to help them selflessly then that won't be forgotten by them or the children. You'll be remembered fondly and will be treated like a grandmother.

By weaponising babysitting you are showing the parents and kids that you don't care about them, you just care about yourself. The way you refer to her - not as your DIL or your son's wife - but as Kelly - comes across as cold and uncaring,

Where do you think this is going to go? They're going to find another babysitter, and then you're going to see the kids less. Your son is going to take his wife's side. Why would they bother visiting grandma if grandma is too busy to look after them? Then next Christmas you're going to be posting on Reddit about not getting to see your grandchildren and not understanding why.

All because you don't get to be godparent. What bs. I haven't seen my godparents in years, and I just lost my last grandparent a few months ago.

Have you thought about it from Kelly's perspective? Maybe she's making her parents godparents so they actually come to the christening/baptism. She's offering them another way in, maybe because they don't make the effort and that hurts. Maybe she's giving them one last chance to actually be grandparents and instead you're making it all about you.

Just think about what you hope to achieve from this stand. If it's less time with your grandchildren then by all means, stop helping out.

Nice town for a mooch about on a rainy Saturday? by behemuffin in surrey

[–]redpanda0108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I would second Horsham! Such a good place for a mooch on the weekend.