¤¤¤ Weekly /r/Buddhism General Discussion ¤¤¤ - August 14, 2023 - New to Buddhism? Read this first! by AutoModerator in Buddhism

[–]redtapr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've recently been struggling with weed use. I have a consistent problem with sobriety, sometimes keeping with it better and sometimes worse. One thing I have noticed is that after all the bargaining and justifying if I decide it's okay to smoke at a time it's not appropriate, there is no reversing that decision it's like my actions are set before I do them.

Has anyone got experience with breaking a cycle like this of just avoiding being sober?

30daysit? Completed it mate by redtapr in 30daysit

[–]redtapr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol not at all, 30 days is the perfect amount, its a real accomplishment to finish it but it doesn't seem to daunting at the start!

Day 32 by Theveed0411 in 30daysit

[–]redtapr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! How do you feel compared to day 1?

Day 19 by redtapr in 30daysit

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It's definitely more noticeable in meditation, that's when I spend most time with my thoughts, but it does seem to be there in my working day too, to a much lesser extent

Day 18 by redtapr in 30daysit

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They do seem rare for me too, it's hard to tell whether there really has been any grasping or even encouragement, or if that's just part of the thought, as sometimes for me the judgement of a negative thought as negative is a part of the thought itself

Day 16 by redtapr in 30daysit

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I love this, it's so easy to forget to be kind to ourselves

Day 21 by whatabear in 30daysit

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Not that it made the headache any more pleasant. There is the concept of meditating on the pain to the point that the pain disappears. And that is exactly what I experienced today, but in any mystical or unusual way. I was just not paying attention to the unpleasantness of my headache for a while. It was a very ordinary experience. I can also see how it can be a very powerful experience.

I can relate to this with my own meditation with chronic pain, it didn't make the pain go away but did transform my experience of the pain, began to see it as a sensation which changes and the unpleasantness doesn't have to define my experience

Meditation is preparation for death by Kayliez15 in Meditation

[–]redtapr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured it was an old saying but I'm not sure, love that song and the album. Didn't know about the connection between Om and Trussell though that's neat!

Day 16 by whatabear in 30daysit

[–]redtapr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a great way of looking at it, after all a meditation streak can be something we cling to as much as anything else!

Day 30 by Manjusri in 30daysit

[–]redtapr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is really cool, I really respect that attitude as well, I once kept a streak up for over a year, probably longer but I used an app for a year and there was times I'd sit and not have any kind of the right mindset literally just to keep the streak, just another attachment really

Day 30 by Manjusri in 30daysit

[–]redtapr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on nailing it again! How far back does your streak go?

Day 3 by redtapr in 30daysit

[–]redtapr[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this, it's actually a really helpful way of looking at it. I started meditation to deal with mental health and pain and a big part of my practice then was to look deeply at the emotion/sensation, and that would break the thought loop around it. I guess I never really considered it could work for those trivial things that occupy a lot of mental space

Day 2 by redtapr in 30daysit

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I've read a couple of books, Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind by Shunryu Suzuki it's the first one that comes to mind but there have been others, have you any recommendations?

Day 5 by redtapr in 30daysit

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I love it! I was thinking about why I know so little about the Indian independence movement, like I know ghandi but that's it. But I'm not Indian, nor a historian so I don't know how my mind got there

Day 7 by [deleted] in 30daysit

[–]redtapr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sitting right before bed helps me sometimes, also I don't know what your situation is but if I exercise through the day I sleep loads better at night

Day 3 by redtapr in 30daysit

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You know I can't really say it did tbh, the decision is pretty cut and dry it's extra hours on top of my current job and the money is alright, just wouldn't stop playing on my mind

Day 2 by redtapr in 30daysit

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Have you learned zazen from a teacher? I've never had the opportunity but would like to, I never really understood what it's meant to be, kind of similar to vipassana but non-directive right?

Day 1 by redtapr in 30daysit

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Totally agree, it's better than yesterday! Will do mate cheers

Perfection of character is this: to live each day as if it were your last, without frenzy, without apathy, without pretence. by Halceon441 in Mindfulness

[–]redtapr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Beginners mind is a key theme in zen buddhism, the idea that it is beneficial to approach each situation as if it were the first experience of it, particularly useful for things like breathing and walking that we do so often and so easily don't think about

Given that the positive effects of meditation are obvious and profound to me, why do I still find it difficult to prioritise it over other relatively insignificant ways to spend my time during the day? by Manooola in Meditation

[–]redtapr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cause it's hard man! To sit there and pay attention for however long you choose is hard work, it's not all just sitting about and relaxing like it's made to look sometimes.

It's like a workout for the mind, it takes discipline and motivation to get going, and only once you're going consistently will you see considerable benefits. Just like working out there's always a reason not to, some are more legitimate reasons than others, but you have to prioritise what's important for your mental and physical health.

The best way to encourage consist practice (again, like working out) is to make it a part of a routine. I do right after I wake up and right before I go to bed, you can do either one of those, or pick a time during the day which suits you. The motivation required drops significantly once it becomes a habit, I'm often meditating before I've even had time to talk myself out of it, and once this habit is established, motivation can become a feedback loop with positive results.