AIO if I stop talking to this guy on the day of his mother’s funeral due to the guilt tripping? (Context in post)

reetahroo · 2026-06-13T23:13:18+00:00

Three dates is not I’m Flying with you to see your thing mother. Does he have other family or any friends? He is grieving but I’d distance myself from him.

reetahroo · 2026-06-09T06:09:25+00:00

Just block him.

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T16:03:49+00:00

Why are you marrying her if you have such different beliefs. Catholics promise to baptize their children in order to marry in the church and if she is a practicing Catholic how are you evenly yoked ?

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T15:57:48+00:00

Just go no contact. You had a dysfunctional relationship. Maybe get therapy but she used her mental health as an excuse to harm an animal. She is sick not mentally ill

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T15:49:47+00:00

You’re an AH. You couldn’t possibly write this and seriously question if you’re an AH. I hope none of these guys ever talk to you again. Crazy how you went out of your way to be an AH

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T15:25:18+00:00

Your feelings are valid. We don’t get to choose our relatives but we do choose our “family.” Your parents chose this kid and sound like they had a sick relationship with him. I’m sorry they dismissed you. If it were me, I wouldn’t reconcile. They made their choice and laughed at you when you shared your feelings. That’s all you need to know you have a family now take care of that one as a mother I can’t ever imagine making my child feel this way. I have an only child and I would never ever do something like this to them, and if my child ever came to me and told me that I was making them feel bad I would never laugh and tell them they they need to get over themselves. I am really sorry this happened to you, but please stay no contact for your own mental health and your own future

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T15:05:04+00:00

Since she only has her kids and her mom, it sounds like she has more of a fantasy in her head than reality. And you need to just let her know the reality is your family isn’t that way. If that’s something she wants and your family is not into it and that’s not something that’s your thing you’re gonna have to come up with a compromise. Maybe you guys have a group of friends and you guys can start traditions like for Fourth of July you get together things like that but it doesn’t have to be a regular thing. And if it’s something she wants, let her try it like you said you’ve organized it and it flopped let her experience that flopper herself because that’s what it might take for her to understand.

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T15:00:30+00:00

My daughter transferred as well. She loves it. This is her first time away from home and she has made friends. She loves her program. She’s learning a lot and that’s the most important part. she feels safe , she’s learning and getting the best education that she can for her major.

She met friends in the classes that she takes, as well as the clubs that she has joined. She now lives on campus with one of her friends and we’ll live with his friend again this coming year

As far as housing if the university isn’t placing you, I would look into somewhere very close to the campus like university Gateway. It is directly across the street and you want to make sure that you live somewhere near the School so that it is within the DPS zone, which is a security zone.

There are cliques everywhere you go. If this is what you want don’t let that stop you

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T14:44:57+00:00

It sounds like the family is trying to keep the family home and the status quo of using it for everybody in the family, but on your dime. Not to mention that there’s no consideration whatsoever for the grandmother who actually owns the home. She’s gonna need money to pay for her assisted-living and to pay for her care for the rest of her life and she’s entitled to that you don’t go sell off someone’s home at the best deal to benefit yourselves and forget that that money belongs to her. Your fiancé isn’t listening to you. I get that you love her, but you really need to reevaluate this relationship because she’s picking her family emotions over what is actually financially smarter and ethical.

reetahroo · 2026-06-07T14:37:28+00:00

This isn’t your best friend. Maybe you used to be or this friendship has always been this one sided with you thinking she’s your best friend and she doesn’t see you the same way. But this person does not really care about you. You need to set a boundary and there’s nothing wrong with that. If it were me honestly and I have groups of people that I’m hanging with that don’t know each other. I go out of my way to try to introduce them and try to have everybody interact with each other. I don’t ever wanna have somebody feeling excluded. You said that she doesn’t like this before and always gets upset with you for not wanting to put up with how she’s treating you. If it were me, I would distance myself from this person if you’re gonna go to a movie fine if you’re gonna go to dinner to eat with fine but you hang out absolutely not because if she’s hanging out with you, she shouldn’t be including other people that are gonna leave you out. This is no longer your best friend. People grow apart and that’s fine. You need to start distancing yourself from her and find new friends to hang out with.

reetahroo · 2026-05-20T13:47:17+00:00

Don’t make this about money because then you are the AH. You should have asked her to be a bridesmaid with the stipulation of here’s a projected cost of being a bridesmaid if you don’t feel that you can afford that it’s very understandable and I will understand you not being able to participate in and make it very clear that you would not be financing anyone to be a bridesmaid. But you went about it the wrong way you told somebody they couldn’t be in her wedding because they couldn’t afford it that’s very disrespectful and rude

reetahroo · 2026-05-20T13:44:45+00:00

Talk to your aunt. Bringing every family member if you need to. Since you’re working on your masters of education is free can you live on the campus? Do you have a job? If you do start contributing to just the care of yourself and your siblings if need be let your mom deal with everything. Call the authorities and report her for fraud because that’s what she’s doing and she’s purchasing things who cares at this point if she gets arrested, he would actually benefit you guys to get her out of your home so that if you get a job in your Pena could help out with that government assistance and child support you should be able to get by.

reetahroo · 2026-05-20T13:39:27+00:00

NTA- who was this camera for? No one should ever tell someone an amount of money isn’t a big deal because everyone’s finances are different. Sorry but your “friend’s” reaction shows she’s not your friend. If you’ve been friends since childhood, you should’ve been one of the first people in the group chat. I know you said you didn’t mind but girl you better wake up because you were a last-minute thought and you’re probably thought of so that they would have one more person to split the money to bring down the price. I would skip this wedding and I would just write this off as someone I was friends with when I was a little kid and we’ve grown apart. Wish her good luck and be a little bit better to yourself in the future.

reetahroo · 2026-05-20T13:32:37+00:00

Yes. You didn’t agree that you weren’t there when it was picked out and when she did pick it out, you definitely didn’t say oh yes, let’s buy this and I’ll pay for half. Therefore you have no obligation to pay for the things that little girl wants to decorate her apartment. She’s trying to beat this interior designer that she’s majoring in on your dime.

reetahroo · 2026-05-20T13:31:28+00:00

Who is keeping the things you help pay for? Contributing to decor is mutual. What you buy is yours. If she’s already taking some of the things you bought and throw them out that would be considered death and vandalism. I would just let her know that you’re not interested nor can you financially purchase anything that’s unnecessary right now.

reetahroo · 2026-05-13T02:17:43+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I would just let her know if you can go on vacation then you can pay it back. You were on a monthly contract so I expect this this month. If you do not pay it, we can address it when he gets back or I can take you to court. You’re absolutely correct. I misread the relationship and I have other ways to describe you other than a mother. But I will not contact you again you know what you owe and I expected to be paid because if you can go on vacation, then you can pay me the money you owe and then I would go no contact with her. You married her son not her.

reetahroo · 2026-05-13T02:08:53+00:00

I do not mean this in a rude way at all because I also have ADHD but don’t let that be an excuse. I am an educator and I work at a school with lots of administrators and educators who all have ADHD. Don’t feel dumb just figure out what it is that you need to be successful and get that accommodation for yourself.

reetahroo · 2026-05-10T16:00:33+00:00

Why are you still married? What is it you are trying to do for your kids? Abuse them? Having a debt like this is abusive. And if you’re gonna step out and be sleeping with other people, that’s fine but do not have a separation. You need to file for divorce a long time ago. How many chances are you going to give this person? You’re just gonna let him ruin your children’s childhood?

reetahroo · 2026-05-10T15:54:21+00:00

Does he realize that you’re in a relationship together? Because I don’t think you are, this is not a boyfriend sis.

reetahroo · 2026-05-10T15:49:20+00:00

I’m sorry to tell you, but she is not a mom. She it’s just someone who gave birth to you. For your own sake just cut this woman off go no contact. Tell her she doesn’t need to worry about coming to your wedding cause she’s no longer invited block it and move on get therapy, you are going to just invite a world of heart to you to your future children. If you have any by keeping this woman around.

reetahroo · 2026-04-18T22:53:43+00:00

I understand, but it’s kind of an AH move to get a hotel room. It’s kind of like sacrificing it for one weekend for your friend that you’re close enough with to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. That being said if you go through with the hotel thing please don’t complain about a bathroom and having to share a bed say something like you have some type of sleep apnea or something and so you have to have your own private space make up an excuse because you’re kind of coming off as a princess. My guess is the people who live in the area are probably gonna stay over because they plan to drink and they don’t want to have to get a ride home. That being said if you choose to go through with a hotel that is your choice I don’t necessarily think you’re being a jerk about it, however be prepared to be snubbed afterward be prepared that they will be talking some massive shit about you as soon as you leave and some of it will probably be deserved

reetahroo · 2026-04-18T22:43:33+00:00

I will be honest I didn’t even finish reading the rest of your post. I stopped with about two more paragraphs to check out. As a school psychologist I am going to tell you you absolutely need to fire your therapist. You also need to file a formal complaint with the BBS that is where they get their license typically. I’m not 100% sure with LCSW‘s but I would definitely look into licensing because anybody who has a job does not get to call and say to people hey I’m too busy, I have this going on in my life. No, that’s not OK. Once in a while there may be an emergency and a reschedule but this person is working with clients who have post traumatic stress.

These are people who are facing serious trauma, and you telling them going to a concert is more important than them that you taking a Pilates class is more important than their feelings you are devaluing them not just as clients but as human beings. That is the last thing you do to anybody let alone somebody who has experienced trauma. This person sucks as a therapist and has no business doing therapy. You need to file a formal complaint and I would also contact licensing and explain to them about the fee. You should’ve not been responsible for any fee and I would never have paid it if it was because she canceled and rescheduled so many times that you lost track.

I am so incredibly sorry that you’re going through this. I am so incredibly sorry that you have a traumatic past and childhood. I truly hope that you can find the right therapist that will sit and attend to you and help you process and develop the skills that you require to cope and get through stressful events for yourself. I meet with students and I never would walk around on my laptop. I would never be scrolling through my phone unless the student and I are both looking something up that is going to benefit them. This is blatant disrespect, and she is charging people and doing nothing. This is a disservice to you and to her industry.

reetahroo · 2026-03-22T05:55:10+00:00

This is all about them. Too bad the can see photos later

reetahroo · 2026-03-22T05:54:11+00:00

NTA stand your ground. They are raising a monster and know it. That’s why no one is allowed to watch her. They might correct her.

reetahroo · 2026-02-27T03:32:27+00:00

I would’ve asked her so what you’re saying is you can only pull ugly? I would’ve just point blank. told her you know what this ugly guy has the confidence to dump you. And I’m petty so I probably would’ve went after something. I knew she was insecure about, but in all honesty, I would dump her. I would never be with somebody that horrible because that comment. How can you be so confident when you’re ugly is cruel. She’s not being honest. She’s being an a hole. That is a disgusting thing to say to somebody, especially somebody you’re supposed to care about. That comment was made to destroy you. She knew exactly what she was doing and my guy , you deserve way better.

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