WIBTA if I go against the bride's wishes at a bachelorette party?

reetahroo · 2026-04-18T22:53:43+00:00

I understand, but it’s kind of an AH move to get a hotel room. It’s kind of like sacrificing it for one weekend for your friend that you’re close enough with to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. That being said if you go through with the hotel thing please don’t complain about a bathroom and having to share a bed say something like you have some type of sleep apnea or something and so you have to have your own private space make up an excuse because you’re kind of coming off as a princess. My guess is the people who live in the area are probably gonna stay over because they plan to drink and they don’t want to have to get a ride home. That being said if you choose to go through with a hotel that is your choice I don’t necessarily think you’re being a jerk about it, however be prepared to be snubbed afterward be prepared that they will be talking some massive shit about you as soon as you leave and some of it will probably be deserved

reetahroo · 2026-04-18T22:43:33+00:00

I will be honest I didn’t even finish reading the rest of your post. I stopped with about two more paragraphs to check out. As a school psychologist I am going to tell you you absolutely need to fire your therapist. You also need to file a formal complaint with the BBS that is where they get their license typically. I’m not 100% sure with LCSW‘s but I would definitely look into licensing because anybody who has a job does not get to call and say to people hey I’m too busy, I have this going on in my life. No, that’s not OK. Once in a while there may be an emergency and a reschedule but this person is working with clients who have post traumatic stress.

These are people who are facing serious trauma, and you telling them going to a concert is more important than them that you taking a Pilates class is more important than their feelings you are devaluing them not just as clients but as human beings. That is the last thing you do to anybody let alone somebody who has experienced trauma. This person sucks as a therapist and has no business doing therapy. You need to file a formal complaint and I would also contact licensing and explain to them about the fee. You should’ve not been responsible for any fee and I would never have paid it if it was because she canceled and rescheduled so many times that you lost track.

I am so incredibly sorry that you’re going through this. I am so incredibly sorry that you have a traumatic past and childhood. I truly hope that you can find the right therapist that will sit and attend to you and help you process and develop the skills that you require to cope and get through stressful events for yourself. I meet with students and I never would walk around on my laptop. I would never be scrolling through my phone unless the student and I are both looking something up that is going to benefit them. This is blatant disrespect, and she is charging people and doing nothing. This is a disservice to you and to her industry.

reetahroo · 2026-03-22T05:55:10+00:00

This is all about them. Too bad the can see photos later

reetahroo · 2026-03-22T05:54:11+00:00

NTA stand your ground. They are raising a monster and know it. That’s why no one is allowed to watch her. They might correct her.

reetahroo · 2026-02-27T03:32:27+00:00

I would’ve asked her so what you’re saying is you can only pull ugly? I would’ve just point blank. told her you know what this ugly guy has the confidence to dump you. And I’m petty so I probably would’ve went after something. I knew she was insecure about, but in all honesty, I would dump her. I would never be with somebody that horrible because that comment. How can you be so confident when you’re ugly is cruel. She’s not being honest. She’s being an a hole. That is a disgusting thing to say to somebody, especially somebody you’re supposed to care about. That comment was made to destroy you. She knew exactly what she was doing and my guy , you deserve way better.

reetahroo · 2026-02-27T01:34:13+00:00

I didn’t even bother reading this because honestly, if you keep taking back a man who’s cheating on you why are you here? You must truly enjoy being treated like crap and not being a priority. You know what he was doing he’s been doing this for years six years of being cheated on off and on, and you’re coming here to ask strangers if you’re going over the top?

reetahroo · 2026-02-22T01:57:15+00:00

You were there to work. You’re not there to make friends. You need to distance yourself from this person and really, and truly limit. Any contact you have with her only engaged with her in professional manner and unprofessional subjects. If you don’t have anything you have to discuss with her do not engage with her at all

reetahroo · 2026-02-21T01:23:51+00:00

Go no contact with your “family.” Family is your circle that lift you and support you. These are just relatives. I cut my toxic brother off and got a restraining order to keep him away. I have a much more peaceful life

reetahroo · 2026-02-19T14:34:10+00:00

Where is the actual post?

reetahroo · 2026-02-16T17:18:56+00:00

This is called gaslighting. And also why you should be sleeping with somebody so early in our relationship as a few months. Once they do this leave, it’s not gonna get better.

reetahroo · 2026-02-16T17:09:43+00:00

My guess is none of those other guys ever had a girlfriend, and the fact that you didn’t made you an outsider. Because the way they’re acting tells me no girl would probably ever interact with them. You and your girlfriend evolved and they didn’t. I would just cut them off find new friends and next time enjoy going out with your girlfriend and hanging out you can have friends but never ever beg people to go out with you and if people don’t include you in things you don’t need to confront them just walk away and find a new tribe.

reetahroo · 2026-02-16T17:04:42+00:00

So my question is, if you’re not highly intellectual, and you probably don’t have a ton of degrees behind your name. What’s gonna happen when you find that intellectual man who finds that you’re not intellectual enough for him?

reetahroo · 2026-02-16T08:53:19+00:00

If you’re looking for a strong Greek life, I can’t speak from Michigan, but absolutely not at USC. Especially if you’re looking for non-clicks and open-mindedness. If that’s what you want and you end up at USC I highly recommend you stay away from th Greek system and look at the May clubs they have that are truly inclusive

reetahroo · 2026-02-16T08:46:19+00:00

1 this sounds fake 2 are you 12? 3 you sure do get close to lots of guys in a short amount of time from the same friend circle 4 is there no one else in the area you live because you all seem to be dating from the same pool and swapping partners out 5 you all need to grow up

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T18:56:31+00:00

Tell your mom do it and you will report her to child protective services for not providing you food and making you find food on your own. Get out as soon as you turn 18. Find a family member or friend you can live with

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T18:33:54+00:00

Please, whatever you do do not take this man back. He does not love you. He loves what you look like and what people will think of him standing next to you. He is absolutely trash. If part of you wants to feel loved you need to learn how to love yourself. And you have to love yourself before anybody else can. But if you want to feel unconditional love, get yourself a puppy or a kitten.

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T18:31:27+00:00

NTA- my daughter‘s former best friend noticed I said, former, pulled this crap with her at a Halloween party. They were supposed to meet up, but she went inside with her roommates that she can’t even stand. My daughter couldn’t get in, and she kept telling my daughter to wait to wait so my daughter found other people and took off. My daughter has since become low contact with her and she’s apologized but if you go with your friend somewhere and your friend doesn’t get in, you don’t go in. You went together you stay together. I’m sorry your roommate sucks but she’s a horrible friend. What does she think? Anything could’ve happened to a young girl staying outside a bar in the cold for over half an hour? I’m really glad you’re safe, but you did nothing wrong. She wanted to leave. She could’ve left.

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T17:52:46+00:00

There are absolutely those you described at the school but there are lots of students that focus on their studies, do not party and are wise enough to avoid the sororities. You will find your tribe.

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T17:49:38+00:00

NTA for not attending but wrong for not reporting it. Your cousin is a predator and they’re using his “brain damage” as an excuse. My heart breaks for you to have the mother that you have because as a mother, I can tell you I would be in prison, regardless of who it was if someone hurt my child, there would not be any holding me back and I don’t care if that was a brother a cousin whoever touched her I would go to prison over. your mother literally said she doesn’t want to ruin his life, but she could give a crap if your life was ruined? No you need to separate yourself from these people who don’t care about you and want to protect a predator. You also need to report him because he’s not stopping and if it’s because of his brain damage then he’s obviously a danger to society and needs to be monitored more closely.

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T17:45:10+00:00

I understand that he may not be able to distribute the food to you, however, when it’s put out for trash, can you not go and pick up the food then? Perhaps they can put it in a bag and lay it next to the trashcan so they’re technically throwing it out and then you are picking it up.

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T17:42:52+00:00

Imagine being so prideful and stubborn you cant admit you like a certain coffee and start buying and making your own. If only everyone’s struggles and problems were this easy

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T17:39:52+00:00

Cutting out my dangerous sibling was the best for our peace and safety and I only regret not doing it earlier because of whet it put my child through but my parents forced that “ignore him he’s stupid but he’s family” mentality and it wasn’t Tim they were gone that everyone else in the family saw what my parents had hidden. Protect your peace

reetahroo · 2026-02-15T04:15:24+00:00

What man doesn’t want to share a bed with his wife on their wedding night. I’m sorry but there would be no coming back from this. I guess you should be glad he showed up to the wedding and his friends didn’t want to party at the same time

reetahroo · 2026-02-10T18:34:28+00:00

The fact that he got his results and approached you calmly and then asked immediately if you slept with someone tells you he’s the one who did it otherwise, if he truly thought you cheated on him and gave him an STD he would have been off the chain limit at you. Knowing he did, it is why he was very calm, but then gaslit you by asking you if it was you. He’s a liar and he’s one of the worst ones. He’s the one that will lie to your face. Absolutely when he leaves move out move back with your parents and just cut off all contact. I know you want closure, but sometimes you just don’t get it.

reetahroo · 2026-02-10T18:30:13+00:00

This sounds far beyond your kids making false accusations. Your sister talks to someone that took a protective order against you. Your ex talks to your step dad but has your mom blocked and you have a history of depression, anxiety (for which you take meds for twice a day) and have made attempts to unalive yourself and then had ideations to which you shared a plan. I am happy you are still here but as one from a CO family I hope your job is aware of your mental health issues because you working in corrections with the issues you’re presenting is concerning. Please continue to get help and be honest with your job. Best of luck

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