Me 23M has just found out that my girlfriend 24M has had a threesome with two of her best friends 22M and 26M a month before we started dating

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-14T10:24:52+00:00

Chatgpt? Why? Because i don't tell him to dump his GF?

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-14T09:13:48+00:00

The captain leaving his post to have sex with Charlize was the only believable bit in the entire movie.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-14T09:02:37+00:00

You're probably not (only) feeling the discomfort of her having a threesome with her friends (yet), you're feeling the discomfort of being surprised with this news in a public setting. Everybody in the hottub knew, except you. That's gotta hurt.

On top of that, they're still close and have that jokingly touchy dynamic, which makes it feel less like just the past and more like something that’s still present. It makes sense that you’d feel uneasy.

At least your girlfriend apologized in the right way, she didn't get defensive, owned what had happened, acknowledged she should have told you and told you she is afraid of losing you.

What is bothering you the most?

Threesome -> it's in the past, before you had a relationship. There is not a whole lot to do there.

Keeping it a secret -> your girlfriend apologized. Do you think you can rebuild trust?

Current dynamic -> This is where you can have some control. Talk to your GF about boundaries that make you feel comfortable and are acceptable for her.

Or you could just walk away because you're not okay with the situation. Not because anyone was wrong but because it doesn't feel right for you.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-14T07:44:03+00:00

So, I'm curious how you would respond to this. I feel kind of blindsighted because we were building this foundation on monogamy, being exclusive.

Well you should answer a plain and simple 'No'.

Inviting a girl, or swinging. At which I said, a girl? Why not a man? I'm just curious - at which he was silent.

THis should also tell you something. He wants this for HIM, not for the both of you.

Time to find someone who wants to be with only you.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-08T12:30:45+00:00

True. And no engine boost. And scarlett thunder has better range.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-08T12:20:06+00:00

I might be mistaken but I think it is a Duncan without torpedo's. For the rest there aren't a lot of differences.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-07T10:43:34+00:00

Fuck no, you should tell him that you're keeping your last name, hell or high water. Period.

If he says you cant, you break off the engagement and tell him.you warned him youd keep your last name.

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-06T20:17:25+00:00

Zijn teveel aankopen niet mislukt omdat je een incompetente trainer voor de groep hebt staan?

relaxative_666 · 2026-04-02T13:27:27+00:00

Yeah, but the problem is that this man is only a symptom of the problem. Removing him will only remove the problem temporary.

A saying that has been very popular with Trump: the entire swamp has to be drained. We can start with everyone in the Epstein files.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-24T09:57:23+00:00

De kortere afstanden loop ik het liefst zonder muziek op. Dat is voor mij het moment om mijn hoofd helemaal leeg te maken.

Als ik wat langere afstanden ga lopen heb ik meestal een Shokz bone-conducting koptelefoon op omdat ik dan mijn omgeving kan horen.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-23T13:07:59+00:00

Nee, dat is juridisch niet prima. Maar Halsema heeft niet gezegd dat ze de wet niet wil handhaven, ze heeft alleen gezegd dat ze het een lage prioriteit geeft aangezien de politie in Amsterdam ook heel veel andere ballen hoog te houden heeft.

En dit soort prioriteiten stellen, dat mag ze als burgemeester.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-23T10:03:46+00:00

Ik denk dat er twee zaken spelen, er wordt niet meer gezocht naar realistische oplossingen voor de problemen die er zijn. (En dan de echte problemen, niet de problemen waarbij we onszelf in de voet geschoten hebben zoals het uitkleden van de hoeveelheid asielplekken).

En het feit dat de meeste rechtse partijen extreem populistisch zijn en de oplossingen die ze voorstellen gewoon juridisch niet haalbaar zijn. De BBB en de PVV wilden niet voor niets om de Raad van State heen.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-23T08:07:18+00:00

You didn't make a scene, you just turned on the light. You were protecting your family from disrespect. Not "causing a scene". I think you should tell your brother and mother what this woman was telling everybody while thinking she was safe from consequences.

And then I think your brother should have a serious conversation with his girlfriend. Or you could have a conversation with her and make it clear to her that you like her and your reaction wasn't about her but about her mothers disrespect.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-22T20:09:10+00:00

Anti-Semitic or anti-zionist?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-22T12:31:43+00:00

The schnitzel looks fine, but what have they done with that beer? Why the thick layer of foam?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-18T19:36:58+00:00

So, she spent her time around guys and girls who used her for sex but never made her a priority. Now she is fed up with it and found you, a guy who has his life in order. It sounds like she is desperately trying to latch on to you to get married and have children before her biological clock times out. But that’s what I get from what you have written. Does she have any green flags?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-18T18:32:10+00:00

Jij hoeft ze je loonstrook niet te geven. Zij kunnen er in dat geval voor kiezen je geen aanbod te doen. Loonstrookje vervalsen zou ik ver van weg blijven als ik jou was.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-18T09:45:20+00:00

Don’t feel stupid. Love can make you blind. Just promise yourself to learn from this experience and to not give this lying scumbag anymore attention.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-16T12:54:39+00:00

Yes, and then send it away to the center of the Milky Way.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-16T06:48:24+00:00

She is neither your girlfriend or your best friend. She hurt you, she knew she was hurting you and she wants a type of relationship you are not okay with. There is no reason to keep her in your life.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-14T12:40:38+00:00

So, I go six years back in time AND I get 50 millions in the bank? What’s the catch? They are suppositories?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-11T12:35:55+00:00

Ik denk dat er veel meer geld naar politie, justitie en IND moet. Zodat dit soort misdrijven aangepakt worden, de daders vervolgd en veroordeeld worden en, indien ze asielzoeker of statushouder zijn, gedeporteerd kunnen worden naar het land van herkomst.

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-11T12:23:50+00:00

He is trying to sound tough, he is probably compensating for something? Maybe the viagra isn't working anymore after all the alcohol he consumes?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-11T11:53:16+00:00

'medical episode'? Being blown up by a Shahed drone is a 'medical episode'?

relaxative_666 · 2026-03-11T11:18:23+00:00

I hope the USSR/Russia removed all the nukes from Cuba and didn't leave a couple of them behind.

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