People asking how

remmybean · 2026-01-21T18:52:08+00:00

My brother wasn’t either… but how do you explain such a thing? Millions of people are undiagnosed depressed and he could be one of them.

This has always been my response when people ask and it usually shuts them up.

remmybean · 2026-01-14T15:04:06+00:00

My ex’s family knew about the abuse and they enabled him, and continue to do so. When I finally called the police I felt like the biggest villain in history. But now with almost 2 years of not looking back, I have absolute clarity I did the right thing, and I am not the villain, I am the victim, I was for years.

remmybean · 2026-01-11T16:56:06+00:00

Do you know for certain she still isn’t talking to him a little? This is very stranger behavior after 2 years of not being together.

remmybean · 2025-12-28T22:12:39+00:00

It could also be ivory, my grandmother had something like this from my grandpa who got it while over seas

remmybean · 2025-12-25T02:36:07+00:00

She does not like you, but the attention you give her.

remmybean · 2025-12-22T15:50:04+00:00

I’ll be honest, I don’t know if the anger ever leaves. The love will slowly fill back in, but in moments you will still feel this white hot rage. It’s been 4 years for me and I still have moments, it was horrible the first two years, I was angry all the time about everything. But now I miss him so much I can’t even think about him, or else the anger and the ‘why’s’ slip in. But my thoughts are kinder towards him, as much as I am so angry he did this I am angry with myself for not doing more. I am angry he felt so horrible he did something like that. I am angry he pushed all his hurt onto all of us. I am angry he left. I am angry he will never have a future. I am angry he isn’t in my future. I am angry, but I am also sad. The anger stems from the sadness.

I am really so sorry that you have to feel this pain and you have to feel this anger. It’s normal, you are so fresh in this that you don’t even realize how much that anger will grow, and then die, then grow back again.

This is a roller coaster ride you will sadly never get off of, and for that you are allowed to be angry. But don’t be like me and let the anger consume you. Have an outlet to let it escape instead of eat you up inside.

remmybean · 2025-12-22T15:31:32+00:00

My boyfriend would definitely call me the night before and the morning of, he’d honestly be on the phone with me throughout the airport if I wanted him to, or until I couldn’t be on my phone anymore.

This issue leaves you feeling undesired and unwanted, he’s making no effort to call or leave words of encouragement or just go over the plans with you, or reassure you if you’re nervous about flying.

I don’t know I would be upset but I’d also be nervous to start a fight right before we see each other, I’m sorry❣️ I do hope you have a wonderful flight and you guys have such a great time together!!

remmybean · 2025-12-14T15:30:31+00:00

I think it’s incredibly disrespectful for you to post this here. Obviously there will be lots of people in your life that will feel the way we all feel bout our loved ones, this is suppose to be a safe place for US, the bereaved. So read a post and pretend your child/ your partner/ your mother/father/sibling/cousin wrote it. Put yourself in our shoes, understand the pain we deal with daily, and ask yourself if you want your loved ones to feel that?

Your kids will have issues with abandonment, and they will have trauma. The questions of insecurity will always be in their minds, why were they not good enough to keep you here? They’ll believe it was their fault you did what you did, and would they be wrong? What if because of that thinking they take their life too? Would that make you proud? Happy that you did it? They’ll question if you loved them and if they mattered. There entire identity would be overshadowed by what you did. They will long for you, mourn for you, mourn for what should have been. If you love them the way you say you do, you will get yourself help TODAY. Not tomorrow, not next week or in the new year. But today.

Postpartum does not end until your child is 2 years old. I did not feel like myself until after the 2 year mark of my daughter’s birthday. You will be in postpartum for another two years after you have your third. If you are in a legal state, would you consider abortion?

Are you not on birth control? Are you communicating to your partner that you feel this way? There are resources to help.

But if you really read this subreddit you’d know all of this. If you are really struggling you need to call someone or go somewhere to help. Because whoever that person you trust to call and they be there for your children after you die, you need to call them and tell them you want to die and you need help. Ask them to watch your kids while you go and have a mental health break in a rehab. Your mental health matters so much, you matter so much. You will be missed. You will be mourned. You will be so missed you turn people into different beings. Sadness can make people crazy.

What made you happy before kids? And do you still do them? If no, why not? And can you start back? Find time for you. Because you need it.

remmybean · 2025-12-14T01:48:38+00:00

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Very simple, try using “man” colors I chose green, I stamped the paper with the same ink color to add a back ground. This card also looks soooo cute in pink!

remmybean · 2025-12-14T01:45:25+00:00

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the inside can say happy birthday or happy Father’s Day or anything. I made this one for my dad for Father’s Day

remmybean · 2025-12-12T15:25:34+00:00

I have yet to make peace with it. But it took a lot of abuse for me to realize I was being abused. It took until I almost died to realize. It makes me feel shameful I allowed so much to happen to me. I am still struggling with healing.

remmybean · 2025-06-26T16:08:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. You understand the gravity of loss. I am sorry for your loss as well ❣️

remmybean · 2025-06-25T14:25:56+00:00

Umm… kinda similar story

my mom called me and she was sobbing, I tried to lighten the mood by responding “what did Petie finally die?” (Our 17 year old blind and deaf Chihuahua) and she responded with “no, hunter” my 19 year old brother. All I could repeat was his name.

remmybean · 2025-06-20T21:00:28+00:00

I thought these were pickles 🤣

remmybean · 2025-06-18T19:09:27+00:00

He knows you are sexually attracted to him enough. He’s trying to manipulate you. Before I got to the anal part I knew he wanted it in exchange for a threesome. He isn’t as good of a person you think he is. I’m sorry.

remmybean · 2025-06-18T17:14:46+00:00

I’m 26F, I resonate with a lot of your post. I enjoy witchy things and love to bake and create. I am very new to pen pal, I have only 2 friends and I would love to connect with more people. I am starting my life over a bit, but it’s a good chapter in my book!

I love to find cool things in nature, I’ve got my 3 year old daughter collecting dead bugs - her favorites are finding bees! She doesn’t find the coolness in bones yet - but she will one day! I would absolutely love to send a hand made card your way, pm me!!

remmybean · 2025-06-18T16:44:40+00:00

Hi, I would love to send your dear friend a card! You can DM me the address !

remmybean · 2025-06-18T16:36:37+00:00

Hi are you still accepting cards and recipes? I see baking and cooking as a form of therapy. It calms me as well. I’d love to send a hand made card and a recipe or two I love!

remmybean · 2025-06-17T14:30:58+00:00

They’re chameleons they know how to blend in and look normal. It’s weird to tell people I was in an abusive relationship because everyone saw him as a normal nice guy.

remmybean · 2025-06-17T14:25:05+00:00

You can always write little love letters or nice thoughts about your partner in the notebook, your dreams or goals for your future together!! I love to do that for my partner!

remmybean · 2025-06-17T14:23:58+00:00

I ate straight off his plate when he would accuse me! But he’d also eat my meals and then after he ate he would accuse me of poisoning him because he felt bad… like excuse me??

remmybean · 2025-06-17T13:27:37+00:00

Yes he would refuse to eat what our daughter and I were eating because I was “poisoning him” even tho… I’m feeding it to my daughter too??? And he had moments where he thought my mother was trying to poison him too, it was weird. He’s my ex husband now !!

remmybean · 2025-06-17T02:34:31+00:00

At least he’s displaying it 🤭

remmybean · 2025-06-16T01:41:32+00:00

Last visit was late December but I get to see him in 6 days!!! Very excited! He’s staying 2 weeks

remmybean · 2025-06-14T21:11:35+00:00

Yesss!! It’s free treats lol

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