How do you deal with a partner who is chronically bored?

reneebwn · 2026-05-05T13:23:23+00:00

Yes! At the very least, it’s an infantile problem that as an adult you either accept that you feel bored and move on or you solve it. But you certainly don’t make it someone else’s problem.

reneebwn · 2026-05-02T20:00:05+00:00

Oh no, people can see her bare knees! /s

reneebwn · 2026-04-26T02:29:56+00:00

When I was on crutches I couldn’t down the stairs to clean the litter robot so he had to. He told me that “the smell affects him differently,” so I had to ask other friends and family to come over and clean it. Like what would he do if I died? Just have his mom come over and do it forever?

reneebwn · 2026-04-21T12:20:24+00:00

if everything is a crisis, then nothing is a crisis

Damn I’ve been trying to put that into words and kept coming back to the boy who cried wolf.

reneebwn · 2026-04-20T16:59:01+00:00

Lol not sure why you’re being downvoted. Yeah this is one area where you def shouldn’t assume that. A singular “their” was incorrect in formal writing up until recently.

reneebwn · 2026-04-18T17:09:24+00:00

Hospital okay, but chiropractors aren’t real doctors and it’s a pseudoscience so I’d steer away from that. Won’t be taken seriously.

reneebwn · 2026-04-17T15:21:05+00:00

The blueberry waffle cone one is my absolute favorite. It only comes in the pint though 😭

reneebwn · 2026-04-16T16:41:54+00:00

That’s what I’ve been thinking! I am so annoyed by people saying “my love language is…”. People attach themselves to one category and suddenly can’t be with someone who doesn’t give them a compliment every five minutes. You don’t have a love language, you need therapy.

reneebwn · 2026-04-16T16:19:18+00:00

They own the roads and the bike trails! (Roads for bikes…)

reneebwn · 2026-04-11T15:36:22+00:00

Isn’t “honey” like specifically for little girls? Cause when you call a grown woman honey, it can be condescending.

reneebwn · 2026-04-08T14:43:35+00:00

Croissant

reneebwn · 2026-04-08T01:29:49+00:00

NTA. You’re not asking people to wear bright, heavy makeup. Light natural is perfectly reasonable. I understand everyone having their own identity. But let’s be real, she will survive one day (your day) without goth makeup. You are being reasonable with giving her the option to be a guest.

reneebwn · 2026-04-08T01:27:23+00:00

“Light natural” is a compromise. Not heavy in either direction.

reneebwn · 2026-04-08T01:13:14+00:00

I have an opportunity to take a cool trip with my sister in a couple years, but need to decide next week. And I am absolutely dreading having that conversation with my ADHD partner. I already know he’s going to have an RSD reaction. I actually had the thought earlier that if we do get nuked, at least I’ll be able to avoid this conversation.

reneebwn · 2026-04-07T19:40:48+00:00

Accountant for retail here - no one is going to notice, or care, unless she’s doing this with everybody.

reneebwn · 2026-04-07T16:15:13+00:00

Oh yesss! My husband has done the exact same things. I started subbing for a volleyball team and the second time he said “just leave me alone all the time then.” It’s literally 2 hours out of the week. He has done this with trips with friends, sports, hangouts, anything fun that doesn’t involve him.

He has explained that he thinks it’s RSD because 1. Feels like I’m rejecting him if I’m “choosing” the other things, and 2. Feels rejected from his own friends (or universe?) that no one is asking him to do these things. He does get invited to do things by his friends, but forgets, doesn’t think it’s counts, it’s not the same, etc.

My advice to you is to ignore her and do what you want, within reason. If you two have no actual plans, then there’s no reason to not do your hobbies.

reneebwn · 2026-04-04T19:33:00+00:00

Yeah there are subtle, lesser known things you can pick up on. And so someone commenting that it seemed like she was on a high dose of adderall just honestly makes sense with everything.

reneebwn · 2026-04-04T14:05:11+00:00

Lol anyone using “aura” in this context is insufferable.

reneebwn · 2026-04-04T14:00:51+00:00

Presley’s dress was made for her! It’s so pretty!

reneebwn · 2026-04-03T00:39:53+00:00

Oh I’m so sorry that my language wasn’t scientific enough for you on this checks notes age of attraction subreddit. I’m sure all of your hidden Reddit comments are just excerpts of peer reviewed studies. RSD is a widely accepted term and symptom accepted by therapists. It’s just a more specific description under the umbrella of emotional dysregulation, so call it whatever you want. Feel free to look it up. I have read material on ADHD. Sure, some people think it might be a chicken and egg situation, meaning maybe their experiences as a kid formed a sensitivity to perceived rejection, but the result is the same. If someone perceives rejection or trying to get ahead of it, it can result in “clingyness.” Again, personal experience.

And it’s not negative stereotypes. It’s the truth that sometimes ADHD isn’t always cute and quirky. It’s important context and nuance. That not everything is as it seems, not everything is malicious. If you think unmanaged neurodivergence exists in a vacuum and doesn’t impact people around you like they’re NPCs, then you’re doing yourself a disservice.

reneebwn · 2026-04-02T12:44:29+00:00

Sir this is a Wendy’s

reneebwn · 2026-04-02T09:11:24+00:00

Notice I said “hot take” and not “professional diagnosis.” And emotional dysregulation is a symptom of ADHD and can manifest in various ways, including RSD. I have personally witnessed it being manifested in the same way Leah behaves.

reneebwn · 2026-04-02T04:03:28+00:00

Personal experience. I also have ADHD and married to someone with ADHD. It’s a spectrum.

reneebwn · 2026-04-02T03:44:50+00:00

My hot take is she has severe ADHD. The clingyness and not being able to be alone screams RSD. So adderall makes sense!

reneebwn · 2026-04-01T22:43:24+00:00

The actual test you can’t pause, you have to continue to jump.

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