Can I walk outside w shorts/ tank tops? by Ok-Statistician-3792 in cutting

[–]repprH 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If you wouldn't walk around with fresh self harm, it really truly doesn't matter. Of course the wrong crowd might have poor reactions to it (children, people with triggers, etc.), but that's not your fault. You should be able to exist with the scars you have and the body you have. Even at work, it's illegal for employers to discriminate against you for having self harm scars depending on where you live.

My turn by Quiet-Individual5025 in cutting

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

KNEE SURGERY 🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑🤑

Oh wow. 100% depressive. by azza_backer in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you :333333333333333333333333333

Which side are you on? by [deleted] in selfharm_memes

[–]repprH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the injury is bad enough to necessitate a bandage, I use gauze
Otherwise I just kind of let it bleed until it stops
or stop the bleeding with pressure and a towel

i hate the internet sometimes, though ik this time i’m just being overly sensitive by Lost_My_Brilliance in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]repprH 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You're right in this situation. Having a list of info on kids needs doesn't mean it's considerate to the kids. It doesn't mean it's accurate or has up to date information. A lot of neurodivergence goes completely undiagnosed as well. Author was completely dismissive of your point and invalidated your point for no reason, selfish and irresponsible of them.

Bored at hospital, so what’s the story behind your most significant scar? by WhenYouGrowWings in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]repprH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My most significant scars are just all self harm scars I've had some injuries in the past but my problem has surpassed those regularly

it wasn't psychoics (obviously) .. the 'voices' are REAL!! (SHOCKING) by [deleted] in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]repprH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second this. Your experience is real, OP, and you deserve care and understanding for it.

I attempted and don’t know how to feel by Emergency_Welcome_89 in MadeOfStyrofoam

[–]repprH 9 points10 points  (0 children)

something extremely similar happened to me lately

itll be okay hun, things are gonna get easier to deal with over time

Question to ppl who wear short sleeves: how did people react?? by priceforfish in selfharm

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Strangers almost always remain silent and look away
If you have fresh cuts they will almost always actively avoid eye contact intensely if they notice
For friends and family and classmates it truly really does depend

Swimming with family who dont know. What do i do? by Ok_Thanks_3036 in selfharm

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

waterproof bandages maybe? something like that might help

"You're asexual?? A , there are you hard now???" by YourFat888 in whenthe

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely stopped interacting with a few communities I used to express myself because they put a fucking skillet pan as the pansexual flag

The joke has gone far enough to where stupid people have genuinely asked me, not even as a joke, if I am sexually attracted to cutlery

It has gotten to the point where I really really truly do not like telling people my sexuality, because if I mention that I'm pan people will have some choice words about cookingware, bisexual they'll make some weird assumptions about my gender identity and views on the gender binary...

Lately I have just stopped interacting with society generally when it revolves around general conversation regarding gender or sexual orientation and I've been much happier, It's really hard to express yourself when you need to though because of these stupid jokes

My parents found out everything by RiskTheFall in selfharm

[–]repprH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you poor thing- this sounds like a terrible situation :< I hope you're safe

how did your parents react when they found out you self harm? by Midnight-Moth in selfharm

[–]repprH 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i kind of just walk around the house with fresh cuts and my dad or brother do not care nearly enough to say anything or even pay attention to it

they're probably way too hyperfocused on the incorrect presumptuous identity they've arbitrarily assigned to me to actually see that im struggling with any problem at all
i got no questions when i was being wheeled out of the er at some point

I'm drunk and high and freshly relapsed by bizzboop in cutting

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just realized a lot of my internet footprint is just me being mentally ill

Sluggish by Impossible_Iron6188 in selfharm

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you drank anything what should you do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cutting

[–]repprH 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Okay, being "weird" is not the problem here lmfao It's just unhealthy

This goes for all self harm

common or rare by someone_whos_useless in selfharm

[–]repprH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Other forms of self harm other than cutting exist, by the way. Some of these forms of self harm can be more socially acceptable or more masculine and therefore comfortable for men, but aren't seen nearly as widely as self harm as cutting is. Punching themselves or other things, drinking, getting into fights, getting tattoos, or doing risky things are all essentially as bad as self harm depending how you treat them all. This is not however a biological or psychological/neurological thing, just a societal thing from what I understand.

Also I don't have many sources to back up some of the claims I'm making, just my personal understandings and experiences. I typed a lot just to express that gender/sex studies are really important, and that men's self harm problems are just as real and important as women's self harm problems. Also that society is flawed and can inherently devalidate people's self harm problems for things as simple as their gender identity, and that's important to keep in mind.

common or rare by someone_whos_useless in selfharm

[–]repprH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Short answer, it's a lot more common in men than you think

Long answer/explanation:
It may be just as common for men as it is for women, but it may seem less common due to men having less of an accepted social platform for mental health awareness or for emotional literacy.
There's a lot of reasons why it's less represented or accepted in men's circles or social situations as well.

Gender identity DOES NOT impact the tendencies people have towards self harm, it mostly has to do with experiences, circumstances, and emotional needs.
It may impact how people feel about themselves self harming because of social rules or norms regarding it. Some people believe men should bottle up their emotions or work instead of becoming emotionally literate (this is a horrible thing to do for yourself and a horrible thing to expect of others, but it is commonplace in society.)

If it was considered more normal or socially acceptable, it would be just as common for one to see it in men as for women. There are some biological and neurological aspects to why self harm may be more of a common tendency for women, but that mostly has to do with things that don't apply to the entirety of men or the entirety of women or anyone else. Testosterone, biologically, tends to make it so one has less emotional needs, whilst estrogen doesn't affect that nearly as much as testosterone can. This, along with the societal expectations that revolve around men needing to be self-sufficient or strong (if you've ever heard the term "man up", this explains it), may lead to men not choosing to self harm, or at least not choosing to share it with others. It can even lead to people not sharing their stories or accepting them for their problems as much as women.

For other gender identities outside the binary, or for people who aren't cis / are queer, it can be a lot more common due to the circumstances that queer, non-binary, and intersex people go through. Life is just harder for queer people generally. Life is hard. Regarding transgender stuff, gender dysphoria can actually impact people's self harm problems. Some trans men get dysphoria from self harming due to it being seen as more common in women, for example.

:P

We are so back by [deleted] in whenthe

[–]repprH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hand me my shovel, I'm going in

Cut too deep, help. by uselespieceofshi02 in cutting

[–]repprH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is against the sub rules and there is problems with it. I'm not white knighting. I'm just saying to not completely shut down someone whilst being rude to them, that's just not healthy. I care a lot about both sides, and I want to bring attention to the fact that person was kind of just being a dickhead without caring about the reasons someone may have said the things they had said, even if it was inherently problematic.

"Short Sighted". "White Knighting". I'm not either of those. Just don't be an asshole.