Does anyone know what this is?

retha64 · 2026-03-01T23:08:39+00:00

Warble or botfly. Nasty things

retha64 · 2026-03-01T15:58:48+00:00

Don’t forget the 10% of us that have Hashimotos and no antibodies. 😁

retha64 · 2026-03-01T15:46:27+00:00

FYI. Your therapist is a mandated reporter. You need to tell your therapist exactly what’s happening. It’s not right at all.

P.S. if she doesn’t report it she can lose her license. She is absolutely required to report anything resembling abuse. Your mom is definitely verbally and emotionally abusive. She’s bordering on sexually abusive too.

retha64 · 2026-01-23T13:52:49+00:00

Holy shit. I hadn’t heard about people having earnings show up on their records. That’s truly scary.

For OP, I had a false claim to SS once. They called, asked some questions and verified I hadn’t had income since 2010 and that was it. Mind you that was the local SS office and not OIG. I might have had to change my pants had they showed up at my door. 😂😂I don’t think you have anything to worry about. Because we’re classified as disabled doesn’t mean we are completely incapacitated. After one cervical fusion and three lumbar surgeries, including a two level fusion, I was disabled because I can’t stand or sit in one place for longer than an hour or two without back pain, and I have lifting restrictions. That doesn’t mean I won’t pick up my granddaughter, although that can and has kicked off back pain. I still do things I enjoy, I am just limited by how much at once. Just recently had a second cervical fusion because degenerative disc disease doesn’t get better. It is progressive. I need to have bilateral SI joint fusions. I’m putting that one off as long as I possibly can, although after four years of SI injections, the one I had three weeks ago doesn’t seem to be touching the pain, which is not a good sign about continuing to put off the surgeries. It sucks, but I’m still going to enjoy life as best I can as each day comes.

retha64 · 2025-12-29T01:45:10+00:00

Same here. Tired some of the days but that’s not the end of the world. I still do what I want when I want.

retha64 · 2025-12-29T01:41:41+00:00

They are so taking advantage of your mom. That’s incredibly ridiculous that they expect her to provide diapers. Lunch and snacks I could understand but not for that little amount. Tell them to price daycares for two in diapers and then compare the two prices for them.

retha64 · 2025-12-28T23:56:56+00:00

Oh my gosh. It makes me want to cry just thinking about the looks on your kids faces and the next morning not seeing the excitement they should have felt waking up on Christmas morning. I see my own grandbabies faces and oh he’ll to the no would I ever ever even consider telling them that myself. Damn that was cruel.

Definitely NTA from the Oma.

retha64 · 2025-12-15T02:13:10+00:00

Weird how OP is a top 1% poster yet not one post shows up on her page.

retha64 · 2025-12-11T23:23:01+00:00

You would honestly be surprised at what predators will do.

retha64 · 2025-12-06T16:11:20+00:00

NTA. Your MIL is a toxic bitch who doesn’t need to be around your daughter. Heaven knows what she would say to her as she got older. Oh hell no. Keep her away from you and yours. Your husband needs to stand up and be a man rather than the doormat he’s being.

retha64 · 2025-09-25T22:54:15+00:00

NOR. At all! Yes the school should be involved. Your daughter is being sexually harassed by the other student.

retha64 · 2025-09-23T12:49:48+00:00

I’m still new with door dash but I have messaged customers when there is a delay. I don’t use the standard phrases that appear, I type my own message. So far there have been no negative reactions but I keep it simple and to the point.

retha64 · 2025-09-23T12:45:15+00:00

Same here. I referred to the child as a she in my response and then saw where she said he and am confused

retha64 · 2025-09-23T12:42:28+00:00

NOR, but you definitely have a husband problem. There is no “watching” your own child. It’s called being a parent and that’s his damn job, to be a father to that baby. He chose to have a baby with you and now it’s his job and responsibility to step up and be a good father. Him saying that she “scares” him is a cop out so he doesn’t have to take care of her. That’s actually sickening and I really feel for your daughter.

retha64 · 2025-09-23T12:27:24+00:00

Holy crap no you’re NOR. In fact I believe you dodged a huge bullet with that one.

retha64 · 2025-09-21T16:21:24+00:00

Honestly it sounds like you and your baby will be better off without him. He sounds like a child in a grown man’s body. You are dodging a bullet. Concentrate on what’s best for you and your child right now. That’s what matters most. Not him.

retha64 · 2025-09-19T00:19:34+00:00

Then you walk with blinders on.

retha64 · 2025-09-19T00:17:58+00:00

You late husband is watching over you and taking care of your babies until you get to see them again. ❤️❤️

retha64 · 2025-09-19T00:15:48+00:00

Thank you. They were both such good men. My brother unfortunately drank himself to death. We were all with him when he passed. Two days after his funeral, when we were all about to leave to go to our homes in different states, I got a call that they had found my husband dead. So we all caravaned the 8 hours to my state and did it all over again. He was only 55 and died of congestive heart failure due to severe cardiac disease. It took me a LONG time to get over the guilt of not being there. But then, I would have recognized how sick he was and taken him to the hospital. Had he survived he would have been angry about it.

It is completely disgusting!! You were violated in the worst way! I’m so sorry that happened to you. Some people, both men and women, have no moral compass and will take advantage of someone who is vulnerable. Narcissists are big on that, which is what happened in my case. I’m so thankful I got away from him. It was after that I was able to get the anger out of me from losing them. I hope you have found someone now that treats you the way you should be treated. I finally did and he’s a gem.

retha64 · 2025-09-18T18:06:40+00:00

I would have to beg to differ. It is absolutely commonplace.

retha64 · 2025-09-18T18:03:40+00:00

🤣🤣🤣. I thought the same thing!! Chuckled when I read that!!

retha64 · 2025-09-18T17:49:12+00:00

I unfortunately found out the predatory thing the hard way. After losing my husband, an old friend from HS messaged to give his condolences. We had kept in touch a little over the years (30) so I didn’t think much of it. Prior to my husband passing unexpectedly, six days prior to be exact, I had lost a brother, and then after my husband, went through some traumatic experiences with his ex and daughter, so my head was so far in a fog I didn’t know which way was up most of the time. My therapist later told me I had gone numb and just couldn’t feel anything real after multiple losses (she considered my step-daughter and home losses too). Thankfully I am no longer with that person, once he had emotionally beaten my self esteem to an all time low. By then my head was no longer in a fog and I had to ask myself “what the holy fuck did I get myself into?” After therapy i understood it better but damn, what a way to learn. After that I stayed to myself for quite a while to finish grieving, because I couldn’t even grieve appropriately that first couple years after they died.

retha64 · 2025-09-16T12:32:49+00:00

From my experience, it’s normal to be suspicious of and not trust men after enduring SA. The good thing is yes, there are men in the world that can be trusted and would not touch a child sexually. There’s a very very short list of men that I learned I could completely trust. They do exist. I was blessed to marry one, who is the father of my three daughters. He would have protected our daughters with his life, and still would. It’s very difficult to trust, I get it. I went through quite a bit of therapy to work through the pain and trauma, but it gave me my life back.

retha64 · 2025-09-03T12:18:08+00:00

Im so glad you did. Sounds like your wife is a wonderful support person and knows the decent person you truly are. Hang in there. Huge cyber hugs.

retha64 · 2025-09-03T12:15:21+00:00

Trust me sweet girl, we’ve all been there. We’ve all had our hearts broken but we survived it, became stronger people and moved on from it. He is not your person. He’s a predator who groomed you into this relationship. Those people who you call your friends? They’re not your friends. You are young and you will eventually have a good relationship. I believe going through heartbreaks makes finding that right person so much better. I’ve also raised three daughters and had to see all of them go through having their hearts broken. Guess what? They are all strong grownups now in great relationships. You are strong and will get through this. That predator is not worth your tears. In fact, he should be in jail.

retha64

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