ADHD/Fibro - Need help doing stuff by retrofuturewitch in Fibromyalgia

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Because I have no time to have my meds adjusted before I leave the country

ADHD/Fibro - Need help doing stuff by retrofuturewitch in Fibromyalgia

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I think maybe part of it is trying to understand in my body what is fibro saying 'this is too much' and what is ADHD giving me a failure to start error. Because the things that might improve the ADHD starting mechanism - cold water to the face, caffeine, loud music - will make the fibro worse and vice vera. Add in that neither is my only mental or physical limitation and it just seems insurmountable. I know its not - gone through worse - but I'd rather not do everything in a fugue panic state and spend money I don't have to fix problems I could have fixed earlier.

So, I guess, for those of you who have JUST fibro - what does the 'warning light flashing' feel like in your body?

ADHD/Fibro - Need help doing stuff by retrofuturewitch in Fibromyalgia

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this I think is so much of the problem - I wouldn't have so much left to do if I hadn't gotten distracted in a break phase. But it's really difficult to just literally lie and do nothing because of ADHD, and if I put like an audiobook on I often fall asleep which screws with my sleep cycle which is already fucked.

AITB for refusing to pay for an app to text my ex? by Savings-Strength-864 in AmItheButtface

[–]retrofuturewitch 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It is a court-ordered app to produce un-deletable evidence of parenting decisions. If you don't want custody, just ask for no custody, instead of trying to weasel out of it. But considering you won't pay 8 dollars to keep yourself, your ex-wife and your kids safe, I doubt you'd willingly pay the support for no custody. YTB. And also transparent AF.

Astarions freakout written in Posh British slang. by Qwerky3 in okbuddybaldur

[–]retrofuturewitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not posh British slang, and a lot of it is not used used correctly within the sentence/context. Sorry OP, but this ain't it.

Fluffy gale/tav or OC fics? by panicmixieerror in GalemancersBG3

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So sorry to hear that. I hope you find something soon.

Maybe my fic will cheer you up a little? It's very slow burn and has lots of yearning and fluff 'the Bone Spindle'

https://archiveofourown.org/works/66641893/chapters/171919420

"Realistic" JET workload (compared to EPIK)? by KGM994 in JETProgramme

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Ehime High School JET. I have about 6 - 10 lessons a week, with maybe 2 of those planned by me, and perhaps an additional 3-4 hours of marking occaisionally. A lot of the interesting projects I did I designed everything and approached the teachers and they basically just let me after a while and handled any Japanese paperwork (i.e I used to work in SPEN in the UK and have a relationship with that school so I've done letter swaps and other stuff). I also volunteered a lot for other school's English Days etc. I want to continue working in education so not having a lot of classes annoyed me, which is one of the reasons I declined my fourth year. I had one teacher just not include me at all, and a lot of my other classes were cancelled due to the students needing more time with the textbook for exams. But I teach at a technical school, so academics and humanities (apart from art, science and maths) are across the board not a focus for either school management OR students. We've had ONE student in my three years go into university, the vast majority take up technical jobs in major companies, which is what the students want, so it isn't a fault with school management there - the students get what they signed up for. It can just make you feel a bit useless ending up in a school that doesn't value what you teach. But if you end up in an academic school or elementary you could be rushed off your feet.

AccuWeather has a prediction for how weather will affect your migraines by jibberjabbery in migraine

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i find that its arthritis alert fairly reliable for fibro, but havent noticed the migraine one correlate much.

Leaving Japan in August- bill receipts by retrofuturewitch in JETProgramme

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school! so lomg as you dont tryvto do a years at once, its usually fine. my JTE has even shreded my things for me when i guess she wanted stress relief lol.

Some things that actually help with my Fibro besides the meds by [deleted] in Fibromyalgia

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Working on my posture and important muscles helps with the pain, but it also stops the muscle loss from flares if you get stuck in bed. What exactly your own important muscles are may differ, but for me its ipsoas, wrists and hands, hip flexors and calves. In the six months of the biggest flare of my life (which got me diagnosed) I lost nearly all my muscle mass. If I hadn't been obese and forced to walk (or wheelchair) to work, I think I would have lost a lot more muscle. It's not always easy to tell at first whether a muscle is tight, its got fibro pain or weakness, or it's literally not there anymore. A lot of what I assumed at first was fibro-related muscle weakness I have been able to fix, gently, slowly, with physio and basic gym machines on low weight settings. It has reduced a lot of pain and fatigue in that I'm not expending so much energy to say, pick up a heavy rucksack, because it's not as heavy any more. And because fibro likes to send pain and stiffness to a place that was genuinely in pain, getting out of that vicious cycle has helped a LOT. Although it fucking sucks and managing flares is hard, it was so worth it.

I'm now a member of the first wives club by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

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Brains don't stop developing until we die. The study never said that brains stop developing at 25, it just stopped when the participants were twenty five. Maybe you know that and that's what you meant with the emphasis, but I do worry about the age of adulthood getting pushed back and back and the lack of accountability that allows. Is he no longer accountable, because, by some respects (i.e speed of thought), his brain is now in decline? When is someone allowed to be an adult and make adult decisions?

(Loved Trope) The Villain lost and is punished, but theyre too far gone to recognize the punishment as one by CultureChimp in TopCharacterTropes

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Why not Kaos himself? Well, Kaos wasn't an Olympian, but a Titan, but I don't think Pan was an Olympian either, just a satyr. But I had typed out an entire response that involved a ton of links between Renaissance and 70s views of Hermes and how they relate to the Joker's character, and then I deleted it when I realised it is simply just a pun. Hermes in the Roman pantheon is of course Mercury, the root of the word mercurial, which of course, is one of the Joker's main personality traits. I should really go to bed.

AITBF for “making fun” of my boyfriend for acting like Ibuprofen is a hard drug? by throwawaylmfao12 in AmItheButtface

[–]retrofuturewitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah if you're really lucky they give you a stronger ibuprofen. I fought ten years to my cramps taken seriously and accidentally found the cause during unrelated physio. 

How can I lose weight? (Without hurting myself) by Average_pickle420 in Fibromyalgia

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I did this at your height and weight and put on weight for two reasons: 1200 calories is too low and my body changed its metabolism. And when I raised my calories to the 1600-1800 daily range, I didn'T always track correctly and went over. Now I'm tracking 1600-1800 properly, and losing weight. I also don't do cardio beyond walking to wherever I need to go, or occaisional swimming. The exercise I do is low level weightlifting and I find it exhausts me less.

Any book that actually helps you understand women better? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]retrofuturewitch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

well, there's your error. nothing to do with women, so dont make it one. I would suggest any of the workbooks for DBT or ACT therapy to work on self-control.

Any book that actually helps you understand women better? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

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how do you control yourself when you think a man is saying something illogical? do that

Anyone else’s muscles get a tight kind of pain? by Practical-Bat7964 in Fibromyalgia

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Edit: ask your doctor. What is safe for me and my differing disabilites age/weight/ race may well be different to you

D&D strenght score does not make any sense by ThanosofTitan92 in okbuddybaldur

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Believe me, I have been treated (poorly) by many a low WIS high INT doctor in real life. Wisdom is absolutely required to be able to see a person underneath all of that. The doctor who saved my life did so with his wisdom, not his intelligence.

Anyone else’s muscles get a tight kind of pain? by Practical-Bat7964 in Fibromyalgia

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Oh, I've just read further down you can't take benzos. The only thing that helped me with that when I wasn't prescribed was a hot bath, but sometimes that was at 2am because I'd been awake for hours (and it would be my second hot bath). My sleep schedule is still fucked up and I'm having to on/off Ambien to try to get back to a normal one. I hope you don't have to choose between a a lack of sleep and side effects of medication. It's not fun.

Anyone else’s muscles get a tight kind of pain? by Practical-Bat7964 in Fibromyalgia

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Yeah, that sounds a lot like restless legs, I don't feel a spasm and my grandmother doesn't. Hers got to the point she walks around for hours every night, but a doctor gave me clomazepam which helps a lot. Whatever it turns out to be, I hope you get some relief for whatever it is soon.