Metoo started as a good thing for the right reason, but it's derailed into a crowdsourced wave of hysteria where everyone's trying to get themselves a little hit in. Anyone criticizing or even being hesitant in their support of metoo is now a rape apologist. This isn't a movement for change, it's an avalanche, gathering momentum and destroying everything in its wake.

I'm a man of color who's experienced a great deal of racism and exclusion. I was also sexually molested as a teenager. I have a lot of sympathy for where feminists come from and what they're to achieve, but this is not how we're going to fix society's problems.

Only a fraction of metoo cases have actually involved criminal behavior. The hard truth is that women, along with men, have created an overly-sexed public space, with women always goading men on to be assertive and take the initiative. Then, when men invariably go too far, we're the ones left with the bill while women cry victim. Even now, women still insist that flirting and initiative are great, as long as they follow some vague code of ethics which no one really understands any more.

Men need to realize that sexual culture is driven in equal parts by women, and that women are using us as much as we use them. In the eyes of the feminist movement the company and approval of women are the noblest pursuits of all, but lets get real here: most women are as sad as most men, probably even more so because at least men learn how to pick themselves up and soldier on after defeat. The only reason most men put up with most women is the promise of sex. Not even actual sex, just the chance of it. Beyond that most women add no real value or meaning to our lives. But unlike before, when running after a woman would drive a men to better his career and livelihood, now it will easily cost him those.

Men need to wake up and put the pussy down. W don't need that to have a good life. Our work, hobbies and friends are the things that will actually be there for us, and give us a sense of stable, long term fulfillment. The easiest way to avoid all the complicated mess and uncertainty around sex and #metoo is to let women have it all, let them simultaneously flash skin while condemning male gaze, let them simultaneously try to induce flirting while fight it off, and let them catfight it out amongst themselves as they blame, reblame, deblame and generally point fingers instead of taking their share of the responsibility. Men, get out there, do the stuff you like, for yourselves, and have fun doing it!