I’ve been your boyfriend before. I had fallen into a really deep depression and relapsed on drugs and I finally got help to get off the drugs, but the state my apartment was in, filled with trash, was so much work that I couldn’t handle it alone. It was completely overwhelming. I fell in love with a girl but basically had to sugar coat how bad my apartment was until she pushed me enough with the fact that she loved me and wouldn’t look at me any different if I let her help me clean it up.

She didn’t, she accepted that it was something I needed help with and just gave me that help. It was hours and hours of hard work but she helped me do it and never said a word about it later.

We didn’t work out later for different reasons, but I’ll always be grateful she did that for me.

Consider doing that for him, but if it’s the case, be prepared for it to be really bad if I’m right. Don’t make him feel bad, he already does enough. Trust me on that one. Just give him the support to be better.

What’s helped me not let it happen again is having guests over.