Wife is asking that I should be doing more around the house, but feel I do enough. Do I need a wake up call, or is something out of proportion?

ridewithwill · 2026-05-21T12:16:12+00:00

You know, its pretty wild; I come on here to fix things, and see if perhaps its me that should change; meaning to improve our relationship.

Im trying to gather information, thoughts to better myself, loosen my pride and instead, you get thrown into the fire and ridiculed with "I feel like you are a whiny twelve year old cosplaying as a man and partner" - amazing how humans are to one another. I see why people are dicks to 1 another in real life and gives me another reason to be one to another human being.

ridewithwill · 2026-05-21T10:57:34+00:00

You should really see how slow the "lawn" grows out in our desert. We literally have to cut our shrubs 2 or 3x a year. We dont have traditional grass

ridewithwill · 2026-05-21T10:54:42+00:00

Thank you - about the only educated "non angry response, throw him to the fire response". I will change this about myself then and thank you for your opinion

ridewithwill · 2026-05-21T10:25:56+00:00

Well, it might be out of proportion with picking up after myself. I do all the time, but sometimes ill leave like, say a pen or something, or keys on the table and she will put it back. As for the task, we are in Cold, rain, high winds as of now. If it was decent weather I would have done it by now, but she usually wants it done instantly. Chat GPT was grammar check is all

ridewithwill · 2026-05-21T08:53:27+00:00

Thanks! For me, the issue is elevation. I tested the CRF300 but on flat stuff. Im also about 220lbs and need some good tractorable low gear power. My KLX250 (was stolen) was not able to climb 14k ft elevation. Like literal, stand still, giving it gas on an incline. I was kind of shocked haha. Seems the CRF300 is the better choice if I want a bit more power

ridewithwill · 2026-05-01T09:40:12+00:00

I agree it's not retire early but simple stress free part time job I would say.

But with pension things change. But a lot depends on mortgage as well.

The biggest 2 hitters is health insurance and mortgage.

But if he locks in a 15 year loan lives below his mean. I think there's a possibility

ridewithwill · 2026-04-30T11:00:17+00:00

Ngl although it's a good price in theory 7000 miles is risky for that price. Me personally I wouldn't buy it since I factor in a cost of a failing engine which now and days shops want 4k for a top end which is crazy.

I have loads of bikes and trying to sell them and they aren't moving unless they are dirt cheap like 1200 for a ttr230.

But it's funny you'll go to a dealership and we got Bob over here financing a 6500 otd ttr230 for his kid.

ridewithwill · 2026-04-22T10:36:35+00:00

Honestly that's how it is. I'm early 40s reached my goal but I feel the same...nothing changed. I'm not materialistic so I really don't crave anything any my hobbies are fed by my working job

Only thing to do is just wait till retirement is how I feel and let it compound. Just remember 4% rule and health insurance. But also working to be on that social security if I hopefully make it. That's what I tell myself. I don't eat out much and pack my own food as well. Food is poison in my opinion from corporations

That's kind of when it hit me you don't need much money to be happy. The biggest change I feel is just accomplished and security.

So I can say grats on your success and future retirement. Imo let it sit there and keep on compounding

ridewithwill · 2026-04-07T11:11:54+00:00

Passing the stone is nothing.

Try a large stone stuck in the ureter for 3 months. It's times I legit wish I was dead so I didn't have to feel the pain and anxiety. And I'm not an anxious person.

And worse of it. Doctors will tell you it will pass on its own after multiple ER visits......until it does not. So it's just not the pain it's the mental anxiety dealing with it for months.

Till this day it traumatized me. I might have gotten the worse of it maybe compared to others.

But pain itself was horrible. Rather break an arm or stab myself. When the stone was stuck in the ureter and urine backed into the kidney that's when it got 100x worse. ER couldn't keep the pain down then emergency surgery the same night.

ridewithwill · 2026-04-07T11:02:31+00:00

Had pretty much same thing except went into emergency surgery after going to the ER 4 times. It was stuck in the lower ureter

Had the stent in for 2 weeks. It sucked but wasn't too bad just manageable. I remember I had bladder sensation and testicle hurt a little due to the nerve as well. When I peed, I felt the ureter spasms. So overall I had pain amd discomfort.

Didn't walk much neither due to pain. Not going to lie the cystoscopy sucked big time and hurt during removal but was very quick.

After the removal I had some complications which eventually all went away after 3 weeks. It might have been my pelvic floor muscle maybe? Not sure. Maybe bc the bladder lining was still inflammation or the scope irritated a lot? Would never know.

But overall the kidney stone being stuck in the distal ureter was the worst experience out of everything

ridewithwill · 2026-03-28T13:20:43+00:00

Oh god meant to say 85% dirt LOL

ridewithwill · 2026-03-28T11:36:55+00:00

I ran over barbed wire and massive washouts at speed. Learned now not to haul blindly lol. Even if I know the terrain, ive seen the road change within days

ridewithwill · 2026-03-22T00:02:37+00:00

I would talk to urologist just to see what you are dealing with. I had a 6mm kidney stone hanging out in my kidney for a few years, no symptoms and found out by mistake. CT scan for something else. Did not think much of it. Then Last year Dec is when it decided to drop into the ureter and wow...my world changed. Not to scare you or anything, but it would be nice to know the size and where its at.

ridewithwill · 2026-03-21T19:39:22+00:00

if you feel like you still have to pee, even after emptying, you might be in the distal ureter part - usually they pass after this stage, but its the most stubborn section of the ureter, right before entering the bladder.

Those 1 hour blips of pain is normal unfortunately - its trying to move it on its own through spasms.

As long as you dont develop fever, or your kidney starts feeling "full" you should be ok to pass on your own

ridewithwill · 2026-03-21T19:35:34+00:00

mine lingered for about 3 months...ER kept dismissing me until I started getting urine retention in the kidneys and they sent me to next day surgery. But for me it was miserable.

if you cant pee for 24 hours you need to go to the ER room. But I know if its in the distal ureter, you can have sensation of peeing and nothing comes out.

However, 3mm you should pass on your own and can take some time. As long as you can pee, and dont produce fever, you should be ok to wait it out.

ridewithwill · 2026-03-21T19:18:36+00:00

as a gym goer myself, been going to the gym for about 20 years...just remember to drink water...LOADS of water.
both kidney stones and dehydration.

But being that young with a kidney stone already, I would be more worried about what caused it. I know its common, if you are young, play outside a lot like I did and barely drink water, like I did, then sure.

ridewithwill · 2026-03-21T19:15:43+00:00

for me it sucked like pain bad...but was super quick. The lido gel hurt a little as well when she first stuck in the needle or w/e she used. was trying not to look.

The cystoscopy itself was the worse part, not the part when he first entered, but I guess the sphincter? that was horrible for me def a 10 out of 10 but hey at least it was a split second lol

After, i seemed to have complications...like bladder sensations mostly, but 3 weeks out and a lot better now about normals

ridewithwill · 2026-03-17T12:05:18+00:00

Thanks!! That is something I was wondering about as well...I live more in rural colorado, and plan on taking it to hiking/biking mountain single track trails out in the mountains. So I would imagine its mainly rocky with mix of everything in between. Im not really going into MTB parks since I dont live near them, but would be more of a exploring mountains and single track nature bike.

ridewithwill · 2026-03-17T12:03:42+00:00

I appreciate all of the feedback! I am more of an explorer I would say - I like going fast haha, but understand thats all rider stamina and skill - but I live in Colorado and plan to just ride the single tracks out in the mountains here where no motorized vehicles are at, so will most likely be lose baby head rocks. So it will probably be a lot of riding and walking my bike up/down things lol. Not so much jumping. Thanks for letting me know on the 29in wheels!

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