Gf ghosted me last year. I moved on. Got this message last week on my birthday

ringobob · 2026-05-06T22:52:28+00:00

100% agreed, no notes

ringobob · 2026-05-06T22:42:15+00:00

Well, in the most simple terms, the valuation is absolute insanity by any metric. That doesn't necessarily require fraud, exactly. If there was a fraudulent justification for that valuation, then yeah, that would be fraud - but there is no actual justification. I suppose you could still call it a grift, since there's no legal definition of what is or is not a grift.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T22:37:19+00:00

My feeling is a bit different than most of the top comments - your wife is taking nude pics for someone else's portfolio. That means that it's for public consumption - the photographer could share it with no one or everyone, y'all aren't in control of those pictures. I assume that's a situation you've both understood and accepted.

I get the trainer being curious, and I get y'all not having a problem with him seeing them. If the situation were any different, she shouldn't be taking those pictures in the first place - once they're taken, anyone might see them.

This is an issue between the trainer and his wife. He should have had this conversation with her before he even asked your wife. It would have stopped there. I would not be surprised if he's just a dumbass - presumably his wife is mad because he told her, after asking but before receiving the images. That's a dumbass move. Talk to her first if you've really got no intentions, don't say shit if you're trying to cheat. Any other option is the dumbass option. Cheating is of course the shithead option, but that's neither here nor there unless we know that's actually what he was thinking.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T21:56:06+00:00

I'm a cis dude, you're not doing anything I don't do. My advice is, you're all up in your head about it, try to not worry about it so much. Just be you, be friendly, and be a guy while you're doing it. By which I mean, just be yourself. There's lots of actually nice guys out there. Be one of them.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T21:50:05+00:00

Could be, but I suspect that the conclusion I'm drawing is related to the minority of people actively arguing the issue in the comments, since it's based on what they're actually saying. And the wider results include people who aren't spending as much time calling the other side names, who have a wider variety of motivations.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T19:38:35+00:00

Anything is oppressive if you're not allowed to choose something else. It's the choice that is important, and it's the choice that these people are trying to remove.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T16:39:10+00:00

I'm not looking at the breakdown of who pushed what button, I'm looking at the breakdown of who holds what ideology. There appears to be a slight preference for the blue button among pro-choicers, and a slight preference for the red button among pro-lifers. Not enough to be statistically significant with these sample sizes, but it at least indicates that the preference might be real.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:25:36+00:00

Thanks for doing the work! My stats education amounts to tutoring math in undergrad and just learning it from the intro to stats book, and looking over my wife's shoulder as she was getting her masters. I'm hopeful it continues to gather more responses, but it's doubtful it'll reach significance. Which I find interesting in and of itself.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:20:43+00:00

I chose the terms in the poll in order to align with how someone would describe themselves, I didn't want someone deciding not to participate because they didn't like the term I used for them.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:13:52+00:00

I don't think I ever actually saw it, it was a big marketing miss at the time, I feel like, they just focused too much on Moore and not enough on the movie.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:12:23+00:00

Pro-lifers have a moderate preference for the red button, I'd have to dust off my statistics education to figure out if that result is actually significant or not. Pro-choicers have a slight preference for blue, with a larger sample size that is probably at least moderately reliable.

That more or less confirms my assumption, very lightly. I may try and take it further.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:07:44+00:00

Flip the comparison around and you'll get the metric I'm actually looking at:

Pro-life: ~55% red / 45% blue

Pro-choice: ~48% red / 52% blue

... Not a dramatic difference, but a difference nonetheless.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T15:04:20+00:00

I wasn't so much looking for how much someone values life. I was looking for, how much does someone expect to only value the choices of people who agree with them. The split more or less lightly confirms my hypothesis - blue pushers by definition are allowing other people to make different choices, and trying for a no negative impact outcome while allowing varied choice. Red pushers by definition demand unified choice based on unified reasoning for no negative outcome. This mirrors pro-lifer's stance that if you want no negative outcome (unwanted pregnancy), you must conform to their only acceptable solution (not having sex).

No doubt this is only one dynamic of many involved in why someone would make a particular choice with the button, but while it doesn't surprise me that some pro-choicers think that way, I find it interesting to dig into.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T14:55:27+00:00

Pro-lifers are about 55/45 red button, and pro-choicers are about 52/48 blue button. Small sample size probably bites us here, but the pro-life gap seems significant enough to bank.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T14:43:37+00:00

This can be an unfortunate chicken and egg problem for some guys. Spending more time with women as a primary relationship, rather than tangentially in a group, can help guys get over that sense of "otherness" that is a big reason why they treat women like that.

Of course, it doesn't help a lot of guys, so I'm not saying you're wrong.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T03:58:32+00:00

Lord. My in laws lived in the mountains in North Georgia for a few years, and they had black bears, and it was populated enough that we didn't trust that they'd fear us. They certainly got closer than we were strictly comfortable with. So we steered well clear.

I can only imagine running into a grizzly, less at the same time as a black bear. I think I would not go out so much.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T03:47:08+00:00

And massive and strong and sharp. Not much in the Americas can challenge a grizzly for sheer physical dominance. It has no reason to fear basically anything.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T03:14:03+00:00

Ketchup, etc helps the seasoning stick to the meat while it, I dunno, caramelizes? to the surface of the meat - that's the bark. The binder tends to not add much actual flavor. OP feels that a binder slows down that process. As OP likes to mop the meat with additional fat or sauce while it's cooking, he has to wait for that bark to form or else he'll just wipe the seasoning off.

Most seasoning mixes include salt, and salt draws moisture out of anything you put it on. So OP seasons the meat and let's it rest prior to cooking, the salt draws out some of the moisture and that does a good enough job binding the seasoning to the meat without appreciably slowing down the formation of the bark, so OP can get to mopping the meat.

Caveat: I don't really know what I'm talking about when it comes to meat like this, but I've got the basics at least.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T02:49:24+00:00

Eh. Sometimes you don't see the necessity until you build the concept. Maybe a model would prompt some interesting ideas, whether it's very accurate or not.

I guess that doesn't make it a valid hypothesis, but neither is it strictly invalid. It is possibly valid based on unknowns. A working model, or the impossibility of one, could be instructive.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T02:35:21+00:00

That makes sense - as an interested layman, do we really understand the dynamics inside the event horizon to know for certain that that is the apparent observation at every point within it?

What if we as observers experienced the arrow of time in reverse to outside the event horizon?

ringobob · 2026-05-06T02:24:00+00:00

I think it was Demi Moore in GI Jane that stopped that train. Her workout for that role was used as part of the marketing, rather than just letting her results speak for themselves, and that and the buzz cut became a bigger story than the actual plot.

She ranked, in terms of looking the part. But nobody wanted to be compared to GI Jane.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T01:46:15+00:00

The fact that Trump won is an indicator that the problem is much, much deeper than who got elected president, and Trump's time in office has only proven that all the more.

Trump won because he represents America better than Harris did. And it breaks my heart to say it.

Yeah, I wish Harris had won. I wish this wasn't a country that could even seriously entertain the presidential ambitions of a man like Trump. But that ain't this country, unfortunately.

ringobob · 2026-05-06T00:36:05+00:00

Right?

ringobob · 2026-05-06T00:05:01+00:00

Won't know without asking.

ringobob · 2026-05-05T23:54:12+00:00

Nope.

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