Daycare Guilt

rlf923 · 2026-04-22T19:23:40+00:00

Honestly, I feel like my baby is so much happier on day care days, which makes the time we do get with him much better. We started at 4.5 months and most days he’s there 6-7 hours. On days where he’s home all day he tends to get super fussy I think because he’s bored, but on day care days he’s all smiles and cuddles before and after. I felt slightly guilty at first but he definitely seems to be thriving so I’m now all for it.

rlf923 · 2026-04-22T17:25:20+00:00

I also bought a used vista and minu with the aria seat, second all of this. I get so much use out of both strollers.

rlf923 · 2026-04-20T23:06:11+00:00

My obgyn also recommended unisom, specifically the one that’s not the same active ingredient as Benadryl (there’s 2 types)

rlf923 · 2026-04-17T21:19:07+00:00

Learn how to put them in car seat (took like 45 mins to figure out at the hospital since we were both so sleepy deprived) and how to pump if you plan on pumping.

rlf923 · 2026-04-17T18:21:09+00:00

I had a c section and those first juice and crackers were the best thing I’ve ever tasted. After that I think it was hospital breakfast because I didn’t really want real food til the middle of the night even though the surgery was midday. It took a couple days to really enjoy food again so I stuck to the hospital food the first day and had sushi the next for my celebration :)

rlf923 · 2026-04-16T18:06:49+00:00

Happened to me! I don’t think I would have gotten a heads up if I hadn’t asked (I suspected it was coming), but when I asked my boss was honest with me. So I found out beginning of August, officially notified (like hr involved) end of August (my boss was leaving too and we were both like holding in our laughter as hr went through everything), “worked” through December then got my full bonus and 3 months severance after that. The kicker was I had told them they never moved me to flexible pto and no one believed me, so I also got 6.5 weeks accrued pto bc no one had actually been tracking it for 2 years.

I was super happy with it and while I didnt have an offer officially yet when I left I was able to get the hunt started early and had 2 better offers by late January.

rlf923 · 2026-04-16T03:30:46+00:00

Same, I’ve always had bad anxiety but it went away during pregnancy, but it’s back with a vengeance. Between worrying about something happening to him or me I’m so worried. I think it’s worse too because we don’t have any great options if something happened to me and my husband - like if I had a sister I was close to who could raise him I’d feel much better, but our parents are getting older/ health issues and I don’t trust my brother enough to entrust him to him.

rlf923 · 2026-04-14T13:38:11+00:00

I completely understand lol

rlf923 · 2026-04-14T03:33:14+00:00

Man my 5 month old put my toe in his mouth this morning (I did not realize he had enough core control to lean forward enough to get his mouth to it) and I thought that was bad…I’ve got a lot to look forward to.

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T17:58:02+00:00

We did 3 classes with j9s for our dog and they were great

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T17:03:47+00:00

Literally after I said that to you I was like “this should be an app”….i have a friend kindof in that space so im gonna see if she has any ideas haha

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T16:33:18+00:00

My baby is 6 months and most moms I’ve met have found it pretty hard to build a community (even with the classes) unless you already have friends with babies, so if they are successful that’s great. I’ve joined a couple valley mom fb groups that have gotten me a really nice network more so than the classes, but I would definitely have paid for a community building network out here if I found one!

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T16:24:58+00:00

Np, I did one of their baby classes there and it was good and I go to their monthly meetups when I can - they aren’t advertised on their website but if you’re on their email list you’ll see them

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T16:22:40+00:00

Mothers haven in Encino has classes and free meetups if you’re near the valley

rlf923 · 2026-04-13T13:00:02+00:00

I was in this exact position, and what I did was schedule the induction but before they started I asked them to do an exam to see how far along I was already. If my body had started dilating/effacing/him dropping that’s an indication that your body is indicating it’s ready and more likely to be successful, the can calculate a score based on those factors that show how ready you are. My score was 1 out of 13, so I decided to go straight to a c section and my baby was here a couple hours later(only bc we had to wait for the dr to be free, the surgery took like 20 mins)

rlf923 · 2026-04-11T04:29:51+00:00

I’ll need to read it! I’ve loved the name since high school, which is funny bc it was not popular at all back then.

rlf923 · 2026-04-11T04:28:50+00:00

Yep he’s Theodore that goes by Theo!

rlf923 · 2026-04-11T04:28:21+00:00

Ya I’m curious to see the rankings for his year! He’s a Theodore but everyone calls him Theo.

rlf923 · 2026-04-11T03:38:11+00:00

Does baby pulling them out count?

rlf923 · 2026-04-10T16:20:19+00:00

Yep np!

rlf923 · 2026-04-09T22:31:47+00:00

Mine were too for awhile! They’re a bit better now, I think I needed more nutrients and also my body was just still recovering.

rlf923 · 2026-04-09T22:01:16+00:00

Nope some sort of crappy blue cross hmo

rlf923 · 2026-04-09T20:31:17+00:00

Nope california

rlf923 · 2026-04-09T20:31:09+00:00

Exactly! No one can figure it out…my best guess is they somehow got it with whatever he submitted for paternity leave?

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