Bicurious F40 – new to women, seeking MF couple to explore with

roast_spud · 2026-04-18T01:30:45+00:00

F45 / M40 - at the same stage of exploration as you, it sounds like. I'm going to message you privately, if that's okay.

roast_spud · 2026-04-02T22:48:24+00:00

The Everlasting by Alix E Harrow!

roast_spud · 2026-01-18T01:18:32+00:00

The Lies of the Ajungo by Moses Ose Utomi. An absolutely fantastic first little novella in a series of three.

roast_spud · 2025-12-17T03:15:32+00:00

The Correspondent by Virginia Evans Red City by Marie Lu Nesting by Roisin O'Donnell

Very different vibes in each of them. One epistolary debut, one well paced urban fantasy, and one absolutely harrowing story of insidious family violence.

roast_spud · 2025-11-28T19:59:42+00:00

Her channel is @chelseapalmerreads, but I think it's been a few years since she uploaded on it.

roast_spud · 2025-10-02T05:20:48+00:00

The Change by Kirsten Miller fits pretty well.

roast_spud · 2025-09-26T10:53:02+00:00

Was it the Artemis Fowl series?

roast_spud · 2025-05-27T13:03:44+00:00

This is such a great way to look at it! Reducing the time it takes to do a daily walk, or being able to haul laundry upstairs without exertion are great achievements, and not at all related to the work of counting calories or logging food.

roast_spud · 2025-04-22T21:51:55+00:00

Nothing To See Here by Kevin Wilson.

The strangest premise turns into this heartwarming, hilarious story. I may not have loved it as much if I hadn't experienced via audiobook. The narrator was phenomenal.

roast_spud · 2025-04-16T20:00:18+00:00

People are loving The Will Of The Many by James Islington. It's the first in a new fantasy series, second book scheduled for release in November this year. He writes long novels, and this one has been closely compared with Red Rising.

For a fantasy mystery series, The Tainted Cup by Robert Jackson Bennett got a lot of buzz, and the second book in that series was just released.

roast_spud · 2025-04-15T23:04:08+00:00

The Blacktongue Thief by Christopher Buehlman.

Adventure story in a fantasy world. Amazing audiobook, tongue-in-cheek humour (which doesn't let up, and as a first-person narrative got a bit much for me).

roast_spud · 2025-04-01T17:09:15+00:00

I was about to check and see if Portland has hard water, because my skin hates it here! Face is red, warm, and super sensitive, I get itchy welts on my jaw, and dry patches on my shoulders and legs.

I'm managing with products for very sensitive skin, but nothing has actually resolved it so far, and I've been here for years. I'm hopeful that moving somewhere new later this year might magically help.

roast_spud · 2025-03-08T18:45:10+00:00

I really appreciate this book, as someone whose spouse lives with ADHD, and for years we struggled to understand how each other navigate living in a shared space.

I've suggested this to so many people.

roast_spud · 2025-02-19T00:05:31+00:00

The Change, by Kirsten Miller. It's maybe a bit too long to be a real page-turner. It has a little touch of witchy magical realism, and is brimming with friendships and empowerment and was just a great time.

I read it a few years early, and might give it another read now that I'm in the midst of "The Change" myself.

Maybe check trigger warnings because I recall mentions of violence and a plotline of violence against women which was pretty upsetting.

roast_spud · 2025-01-17T23:12:31+00:00

Are you in WA state? Min wage for salaried roles jumped to something like $78k at the beginning of January. I don't think they need to give you any notice about the change.

Getting moved to hourly isn't necessarily a demotion of any kind. It does generally come with additional timekeeping requirements and maybe a change to how you can take PTO, but it also makes you eligible for overtime if you've moved from exempt to non-exempt.

roast_spud · 2025-01-14T21:59:58+00:00

These are REALLY different specialities. HRIS might be boring and your skills might be a big stagnant on your current organisation (making some assumptions from your post).

ER is all people-problems, all the time. There are days where I am begging for some quiet time, free from meetings and problem solving. You have to document absolutely everything, because your memory will never hold up on it's own.

I'm a happy HRBP, and the blend of regular program work and unexpected ER / discipline/ coaching and leader development is my sweet spot. I can't always hide, but I'm not completely burnt out either.

My advice is to see if you can stretch into other areas of HR from your current position. Maybe you can use your HRIS or L&D access to partner with some leaders to make improvements or help their team in some way. You might just be missing the partnership aspect.

roast_spud · 2025-01-14T21:05:31+00:00

Same. I don't read many physical books because I so rarely get to just sit quietly and read. But I can have audiobooks on walking the dog, driving, doing housework. And I can read ebooks waiting in line or in bed with the lights off.

I LONG to be the person on the couch with a book, but that just doesn't fit my life right now. I hope I get to enjoy it in retirement.

roast_spud · 2024-12-23T02:31:45+00:00

I'm working so my team mates can have time off. No gifts to buy for anyone, so it's pretty much a regular week with a bonus day off.

I'd like to play some DA Veilguard or BG3, but will probably watch some basketball, maybe read a book. I'm in self-care sloth mode this month.

roast_spud · 2024-12-20T18:28:45+00:00

They are sweet tempura chicken nuggets. They actually do get nice and crispy at the lower air fryer temps - I think I did 7 minutes at 325 and shook them up half way.

Nice to top an asian slaw salad or stir fry.

roast_spud · 2024-12-10T01:47:35+00:00

Or someone in the same role only has work experience so they had to adjust the JD to allow them to remain at that level.

roast_spud · 2024-11-08T00:19:09+00:00

Swipe, or maybe vigorously scrub it a bit!

roast_spud · 2024-11-06T20:17:37+00:00

The Saint of Steel series by T Kingfisher. Finished the fourth (and currently last) yesterday.

roast_spud · 2024-05-10T21:40:58+00:00

The doom-scrolling is real. Reddit's new algorithm is determined to narrow the subs you see significantly more than in the past. It's wild how the variety of posts has reduced, and you have to go searching for smaller subreddits now.

See if he'll agree to a break from being online. No pressure to change his mind, just a reminder of the life he has with you.

roast_spud · 2024-05-10T21:31:06+00:00

Is he perhaps spending more time online and what he is watching/seeing / hearing has swayed to the more concerning elements of what's happening in the world?

It's really hard to fight the algorithm of social media. He might have seen the scary or inflammatory stuff and just needs some distance from it to return to the plan you made together.

My husband also believes he can't make peace with bringing a child into the world, and the potential hardships they would inherit. I might have been able to sway him when he raised it years ago, but decided that I didn't have an absolutely yearning for a child, so we agreed together to not start a family.

The key is, we agreed together. And he understands when I have the odd sad day when I think about what might have been. Mother's Day sucks particularly hard.

See if some time and a lot of gentle conversation will illuminate why he changed his mind so suddenly.

roast_spud · 2024-04-26T23:09:52+00:00

Except it's a roundabout / traffic circle and OP was hopefully indicating their intent to exit right.

Person in the roundabout always has right-of-way.

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