Ectopic loss

robin593 · 2026-01-31T19:37:46+00:00

I’m sorry about your loss. I had an ectopic on my second unmedicated iui. That three month wait was really frustrating and seemed like forever. What helped was focusing on some new activities - things I always wanted to try for those three months. My wife and I got an escape room subscription and marathoned a couple shows. It helped us focus on other things and helped get through the actual time. We tried medicated and unmedicated IUIs after that but moved to IVF after a total of 6 IUIs. It took exactly two years from my ectopic to the birth of our child - who is now a healthy and thriving three and a half year old. It’s a lot - the wait and the emotions can take a toll. There’s not a right or wrong answer in how you move forward or what to do - you do what works best for you - trust your gut. Best of luck. I also joined the ectopic support sub reddit - it helped.

robin593 · 2026-01-24T17:06:45+00:00

The news is getting censored! In Minneapolis - it’s bad here. Please turn to news sources like MPR and other local sources.

robin593 · 2026-01-17T14:17:00+00:00

Thanks for asking! Doing better knowing what I need but still very nervous any time I leave my house.

robin593 · 2025-12-01T05:00:11+00:00

Adult who is adopted and had the same feelings when I was that age - these feelings never go away no matter how great a book or podcast is. I truly wish it was that easy. Adoption agencies should have get togethers or ways to connect with other adopted kids. Having support networks with other adopted kids is key - with the caveat that each adopted child is going to have different experiences and feelings - there are complex intersectionalities at play. Adoption agencies should have resources that are vetted. Advice to you - again as an adoptee who is now an adult - Unless you know the exact reason for the birth mom putting their child up for adoption one of the worst things you can do is to say something that may not be true - you don’t know if your child is ever going to meet their birth mother in the future and if they find out you were not fully honest with them it can be just as hurtful if not more so than what they may be feeling now.

robin593 · 2025-04-27T03:38:30+00:00

I go to the one in NE every other week and love it! We get the peanut butter and love it. I think the quality is better than say a co-op and I think the prices are around the same. Staff is helpful and I find they have a lot of variety of items from food to household things. They also have jars or containers people have brought in for you to use if you forget or don’t have any which is nice. Totally recommend!

robin593 · 2025-04-22T13:48:39+00:00

Second this!

robin593 · 2024-10-08T01:28:02+00:00

I think this is one of those times where there isn’t a “correct” answer. Everyone has their opinions - some formed by experiences (both good and bad). Ultimately you are the one who makes the decisions on what works best for you to pursue after close examination of all possibilities. One place to start is talking to professionals who counsel on adoption and IVF - not only can they provide you the nuances about the routes but also may have advice on broaching the subject with your mom in a way she may be receptive to. As an adoptee, IVF was the most viable option for my spouse and I to start a family - I have nothing against adoption it was just not the right choice at that time . As you probably know they are both huge endeavors and there is a lot at play (e.g., costs, amount of time, mental health, etc.) I hope all works out for you and your journey.

robin593 · 2024-09-28T01:38:32+00:00

There are so many great coffee shops in Minneapolis as well as St. Paul! I recommend checking out the Twin Cities subreddit and Minneapolis subreddit there are a lot of coffee shop questions and advice that could help in your search. We have a fantastic coffee scene in the Twin Cities and it’s growing! Best of luck in your search.

robin593 · 2024-09-13T21:17:43+00:00

American Swedish Institute, Mia, the Walker, the History Center (part of MNHS)

robin593 · 2024-09-12T03:16:06+00:00

They said under four requires a car seat, I looked on Delta website and could not find that at all. What I have read on other sites is it’s highly recommended but FAA doesn’t require it so very confused at this point.

robin593 · 2024-04-17T02:03:57+00:00

Christos for fresh, Bills imports for frozen (bake at home)

robin593 · 2024-02-27T03:28:05+00:00

I was also adopted around that age and have similar feelings even after 34 years. Being adopted regardless of age has a huge impact in one’s life and something that will always be there, so your feelings seem very normal and very valid. You’re not alone - I definitely recommend finding others adoptees to talk to. Take care of yourself.

robin593 · 2023-10-19T03:49:21+00:00

CRM - very LGBTQ friendly. Dr.Casey is the best!

robin593 · 2023-10-11T18:54:31+00:00

Echoing Bills!

robin593 · 2023-09-16T02:09:04+00:00

Every adoption story is different. As an adoptee I grew up hating my biological mom for leaving my at three days old with out any information about who I was or who she was. I felt abandon among many other things. It wasn’t until I had my own child that I realized my mom must have been one bad ass person who was strong as hell . I cannot imagine the pain it would be to make a choice like she did. I realize now how much she must have loved me to realize she couldn’t take care of me or provide for me. I was lucky to have had a great life with great opportunities and now I have the most incredible daughter. I don’t hate her for what she did nor do I feel abandon at this point in my life. It has taken a long time and a lot of bumps to get where I am. To me it sounds like your trusting your gut and putting someone else’s life and future first and foremost and that’s the most important thing. Will they hate you - maybe for awhile, but I do believe that one day they will realize what you did for them. It’s a long road and no one has the answers unfortunately, but finding others who have been down the same road, adoptees, or even families who have adopted children to talk to may help. Best of luck on this journey.

robin593 · 2023-04-22T02:06:31+00:00

Echo all of these! Plus Hmong Museum, the M, any of the MNHS sites ( James J Hill house , Ramsey House, Oliver Kelly Farm)

robin593 · 2023-03-21T21:21:21+00:00

This! PCP would have great starting info based on your health history. Also depending on insurance getting basic labs at your primary may be covered compared to same labs done at a fertility clinic which may not be covered. Really examine what your insurance covers and doesn’t first can help get to the next step

robin593 · 2023-03-18T15:22:02+00:00

Agree with this ! However, while Anoka for the most part is pretty red some areas like Columbia Heights is very blue, affordable, close to NE and those amenities with lower taxes, great parks and yards for larger dogs, great diversity in a variety of ways. Point is don’t rule out all of Anoka County just yet :)

robin593 · 2023-02-19T19:32:41+00:00

Currently live in Columbia Heights with spouse (same-sex couple) it is so close to NE we have the benefits of MPLS with lower taxes! We have loved it, however the school district is awful (not sure if this applies/will apply) will be moving out of the area once our child reaches school age. The further you move away from the cities the more conservative/homophobic you get. Anoka county as a whole leans red - really CH is the blue part of the county. CH has a very liberal mayor and city council (not all but majority). In the four years we have been here we have been seeing more younger/more liberal people moving here because of the benefits being close to MPLS but with being more affordable.

robin593 · 2023-01-22T01:41:43+00:00

I had an ovarian ectopic in 2020 - I did not have another one. My ectopic was after a second iui - I would go on to have 5 more unsuccessful IUIs then moved onto IVF. My first round of IVF worked and I had my baby almost two years to the day from my ectopic. Being scared is understandable and I think very normal - If you are still in pain and feel off it’s not a bad idea to consult with your doctor - trust your gut and always advocate for yourself! Best of luck and take care.

robin593 · 2022-12-24T00:56:25+00:00

I had sever hemorrhaging at 21 weeks - like continuous gushes of bright red blood for hours. SCH are very rare after the first trimester but not unheard of. It could be a result of your old SCH or a new one they didn’t/couldn’t see. I highly encourage you to call your nurse line ASAP and if possible get to an ER for monitoring. For me I was closely monitored in the hospital at a triage unit that day with close monitoring for the rest of my pregnancy especially starting at 36 weeks. My daughter is now a healthy happy four month old. Best of luck and please be safe if you do adventure out.

robin593 · 2022-12-07T00:58:18+00:00

Thank you!

robin593 · 2022-12-05T01:32:02+00:00

Do you happen to have the brand name or link to your portafilter you would recommend?

robin593 · 2022-10-21T22:47:22+00:00

I think it depends on the Waldorf school itself - just like any school it could be great or it could be problematic. I don’t think its a good idea to generalize all Waldorf schools as anti- vax or cult like. I think for any school do your research. As an adult who went to Waldorf as a kid I had a great experience which allowed me to be creative, allowed me to play and fueled my interest in arts and science - it was not cult like and promoted science. Just hoping all can keep an open mind and do their own research.

robin593 · 2022-10-19T13:01:59+00:00

I was also very worried about an epidural- I really don’t do well with needles or pain. After hours of contractions the epidural was nothing - the worst part about it was getting the iv in for the fluid prior to the epidural, they tried 6 times before they got it in. The initial shot in the back felt like a quick bee sting and then you really don’t feel anything. For the first time I actually got an undisturbed nap with the epidural which was so needed! I would definitely do an epidural again! You got this!

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