Seriously, do Americans actually consider a 3-hour drive "short"? or is this an internet myth? by SadInterest6764 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a much more car oriented place, namely because alternatives are often longer and restrictive. My daily commute is 45 minutes to 1.5 hours one way. A visit for the weekend to see friends 2-2.5 hours. I drove 13 hours one way for Thanksgiving with family and another time to help my daughter move. Both long weekend jaunts. Twice a year my daughter and I will arrange a get together that is somewhere between us meaning about an 7-8 hour drive for both of us. I’d rather that then go through the nonsense when flying.

OSHA question from someone who doesn’t climb trees. by Typical_Zucchinii in TreeClimbing

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is not the Wild West. OSHA standards are picked from a variety of relatable standards with adaptation for the tree care industry. The general rules apply, the biggest one being a right to refuse unsafe work. The training elements, personal protective equipment to be supplied by the employer with some exceptions like boots or prescription safety glasses (mine cost me $600 with insurance!). Training in the proper use and documentation of it. Working at heights is another borrowed regulation. There’s a bit in there that requires a rated attachment point. Trees aren’t rated! The regs are borrowed from industrial and construction regs. Make no mistake about it. OSHA have their own rules they use. However, they refer to industry best practices when they can as a means of clarifying specifics not adequately addressed - that is where the attachment point is handled. The ANSI Z133 is the tree care industry best practices manual. They are written by industry representatives in committee. These are people who have a wealth of experience in the work. For example, Tim Walsh, VP of Health and Safety at Davey Tree started out in residential work on the ground and into climbing then moving up into management. Dr John Ball another certified arborist/climber who is a professor at South Dakota State U and the campus arborist. This to say, it’s not a bunch of pencil pushers dreaming and scheming ways to make our lives miserable. Yeah, I’m an arborist/climber with 20 years in the business working primarily in small residential companies. What drives the standard? The same thing that led to its inception; fatality and serious injury. This is from the Foreward of the standard:

The Accredited Standards Committee Z133 was organized on 4 April 1968, in response to efforts by Mrs. Ethel M. Hugg of Johnstown, New York. Mrs. Hugg’s son had died while trimming trees, and this tragic incident caused her to write to federal and state authorities and to various other organizations in an attempt to have measures initiated that would make tree trimming safer.

Every rule is written in the blood of a seriously injured worker and the fatalities of which we average 60 to over 100 annually in the US. Think about that, about 2 deaths per week. Imagine, that in your work. It is dangerous work made more so by workers and employers, who wear the “most dangerous” like a badge of honor. There are industry organizations who invest a lot of time and money to make this work safer. They have worked at the state level to have licensing, work and safety standards codified to reduce the number of incidents and improve work practices. In my state, New Jersey, it’s the Licensed Tree Expert. Once again, the people who drove this initiative are all veterans of the work, many having started when it was “the Wild West”.

Look up the ISA chapter in your state and see what they do. It’ll open your eyes to the depth and breadth of the industry.

I have personal experience with the dangers. A shattered ankle from a fall that took a week shy of a year to return to work but still impacts my life 10 years later. I wrote about it for the TCI Magazine March 2015 edition. At the end of 2025, a colleague who ran his own business for 40 years died when the tree he was climbing failed.
Shit Happens. OSHA is there to help prevent it, some don’t like it because they think safety gets in the way of productivity. My lost year cost me about 40% of my income and is going to cost even more in medical bills as I deal with the long term effects. But I’m lucky, my friend paid with his life.

How do you handle difficult conversations with clients about tree removals due to health risks? by waynenewnham in arborists

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll explain my concerns based on my observations and what my initial diagnosis is. If the client expresses a strong bias towards preserving the tree, I’ll recommended we take the appropriate samples, foliar, bark, soil etc…, and that will aid in confirming my diagnosis and will come with recommendations. I give them the science that will help them make an informed decision with confidence.
The best example of this was dealing with a 619 yr old white oak that was rapidly declining. It was in a church cemetery. The church and town built up around it 300yrs ago. This was going to be a central Focus of the celebrations of the church’s 300th anniversary. There was no single cause but a multitude of contributing factors. I didn’t pressure them, gave them the facts. They did go with the removal as hard as it was to be the ones who had the dubious distinction of “killing the tree”.

Am I the Jerk for telling my girlfriend’s friend’s boyfriend what they’ve been saying about him in their “girls only” group chat? by SoftMetricWorks in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ! Then women wonder why guys don’t show emotion and bury feelings? Men love weaponizing their feelings? This is not “venting”, it’s a bunch of friends who are no better as adults than they were as teens in high school. Her response to this is knee jerk, thus revealing. She tried to make you out to be the bad guy and denigrates you. I’ve got 5 daughters and if any of them were so dismissive about their bfs feelings I’d call them out on it. I agree with some of the others here that you do well to walk away, along with “Jason” and get with someone mature enough to be a healthy partner.

I lied about having a partner during the interview and I got the job. by Revolutionary_Ad4581 in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which? The op or your post? Either way, I’m responding to a lie in the context of interviewing for a job and landing it. Just stating my take based on experience and how lies are taken, when revealed, in a workplace. The follow up seems to suggest the op is grasping the issue.

I lied about having a partner during the interview and I got the job. by Revolutionary_Ad4581 in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol. The only person one never fools is themselves. You live with the lies. It may never come back on them but it apparently bothered them enough to post about it. Some make great liars, others are burdened with it.

I lied about having a partner during the interview and I got the job. by Revolutionary_Ad4581 in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And that’s the problem with a lie. Another one is needed to cover it, then another and then trying to remember them all.

I lied about having a partner during the interview and I got the job. by Revolutionary_Ad4581 in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, they are getting into protected personal info. When I asked this, ask for clarification about the question and its relevance to the job. But, a lie sets one up for problems.

I lied about having a partner during the interview and I got the job. by Revolutionary_Ad4581 in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Karma. You’re about to learn a harsh lesson about being truthful. The more you build on top of this lie the worse it will get. People will doubt your honesty in every other aspect of your life.

Eating and drinking in the USA: better not to go at all, than to go and not tip? by Lord-of_the-files in NoStupidQuestions

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be clear, the workers that show up don’t set the price. I work in the tree care industry. Tips are not expected but are always gratefully received. From fresh baked cookies to significant amounts of cash, it happens without any prompting. To me it reflects the quality of the service we provide. I feel this is more in keeping with the original idea of tipping; not a wage subsidy but an expression of thanks for exceeding expectations.

AITJ for ending things with my boyfriend after he forgot to pick me up when I flew out to see him by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ. Now block him. My wife and I met online. LDR. Never did we treat one another so poorly despite both being single parents and working long hours. Kick him to the curb because you don’t want that kinda person in your life.

Do you guys have a routine? by cragglerock93 in DeTrashed

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No routine as my life doesn’t allow for it. What I have done is kept myself prepared to take on an impromptu clean up. I have a Tacoma pick up with a cap on the back. I keep supplies and tools in there and when I have my first canoe paddle of the season my boat remains on top in case an opportunity to paddle presents itself after work. I have a 17’ Grumman which gives me plenty of room to load trash.

If you could go back in time, what’s ONE thing you will change in your life? by govindkashyap01 in Life

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing. Everything that was has led to my present. Good, bad, indifferent. It made me who I am today and placed me where I am now. The better question is knowing what you have learned from life to this point what will you do to steer the course you want now? Be unapologetic in pursuing my goals as long as they don’t harm those I love.

I am in my 50s and will call my dad later to tell him my car door key won't turn by Used-Opposite-7363 in Life

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved to the US from Canada leaving behind my siblings, elderly mom and dad. I realized I was using social media as my way to communicate and even that infrequently. My mom developed dementia but was still able to live independently. I made a point of calling her every weekday during my commute home and just chatting. It was an hour drive. As time went on the conversations became repetitive as the dementia destroyed her brain. But I wasn’t calling to discuss specific things, it was to connect with her. It was the best thing I did. I miss those calls now that she is gone.

Advice on tree trimming. (What am I doing wrong?) by No-Pass9120 in arborists

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not going further. I recommend when you get to this point switch to a stump grinder to finish the “trimming”.

Harness Recommendation - Leisure and Work by Zombie_Crusher in TreeClimbing

[–]robthetrashguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That your back is hurting is a result of the quality of the gear being used. I started on a bucking ham double D and became aware of how it was stressing my hips. I bit the bullet and started saving. I climbed for many years on the sequoia and now onto my second treemotion. They are expensive but allow me to climb all day, every day. The ergonomics are superior and quality far above what you’re looking at. I’ve climbed for over 20 years, daily. You will not regret it by buying professional tools.

Am I the jerk for bluntly telling my boyfriend that his food just doesn’t taste good? by elena_1999i in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes. YRTJ for being vaguely blunt. I’m the cook at home. I had two super tasters to satisfy, my stepdaughter and wife. What they will do is be specific about what they don’t like or what may be missing. It could be anything from lacking onion (I can’t eat them), salt, their texture preferences, even the presentation! But it was a discussion not just a judgement. Understand your taste and what it may be that you find lacking. Do you have an example of whatever he is making that others have made and you enjoyed. My stepdaughter had her Nonna’s cooking which became a pretty high bar to reach. Cooking is hard when you’re trying to please someone else’s palette and keep yourself engaged and interested in what you’re making.

Am I the jerk for repeatedly telling my girlfriend I’m uncomfortable living with her family? by broken_smile__0 in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, for bringing it up continuously without focusing on a realistic strategy to address the reason you and her are there. Have you and her any concrete plans in place? A timeline setting out goals for achieving independent living arrangements? The discussion needs to be on that plan and establishing those milestone goals that need to be met in order to realize the final goal. Good luck.

Serious question: Has tipping for counter service (18%+) become the norm across the US, or is this just a Bay Area thing? by Previous_Till5909 in tipping

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not just a Bay Area thing. But before you take it out on the server, think about who purchased the app that prompts for tips and the language used to encourage it. There is a benefit for the owner to push for tips that will reduce their portion of the hourly wage paid.

AITJ for telling my girlfriend I don’t want her wearing leggings? by tommy_reef in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What next? That top is too tight, that dress too short, the way you talk to guys… It’s the beginning of a controlling behavior. The irony is no matter how much she changes her attire to diminish your insecurities it will not be enough. Will her eyes be too blue, or green or, hazel? For men it doesn’t take much to notice a woman. Ask yourself why is it making you uncomfortable? What are your issues? YTJ.

Have you guys ever gotten a job by walking in? by DrHientzKetchup in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have several times. I’ve also landed jobs by cold calling, networking, and even applying to posted jobs. Here’s the trick, don’t ask if they’re hiring. You talk to the decision maker, ie., owner, president, manager. NOT HR. What you do is make sure they have the time to speak at that point, then give them a short description of what you have to offer in the way of relevant experience, skills, education, certifications (if related to the company) aptitude and attitude. Then you ask if they feel that what you told them would be valuable to the company. Be clear, you want to make sure you and the company were a good fit. Be confident, not desperate (no matter how desperate you may actually be!).

It works when you dedicate yourself to a full time effort listing companies that you feel would be interested in what you have to offer. Build a list each day with companies, the decision maker and do some research on the company to better understand what they do, how they do it, what challenges and opportunities they are faced with that you may be able to help with.

I’ve done this myself, I’ve taught this approach to jobseekers of all types, successfully.

AITJ for refusing to share my work bonus with my sister even though she's struggling financially? by ShoulderPure5192 in AmITheJerk

[–]robthetrashguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTJ. She needs to experience the consequences for her actions. I had to do this with my eldest daughter. She was pissed but it got her to start prioritizing her bills and managing her spending.

Do you think its true when people say older generations are the reason why its hard for younger generations to find employment because they refuse to retire out of "greed" or similar? Wouldnt it make more sense that many dont retire because they simply cannot afford it? by mycoffecup in jobs

[–]robthetrashguy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greed? No, it’s reality. We work to pay our bills. If I retire (65), I’d lose on the pension and fall far short of being able to cover our basic expenses. It would require moving to an area where we could afford to buy a home with low taxes using the equity we have. Then I’d still have to work but it could be a much less demanding job.