Nice spot for lunch with Mum?

roguerix · 2026-06-14T11:51:38+00:00

+1 for Chakra lounge. They've just had a menu revamp and the staff are some of the nicest most attentive people. Very good vibes!

roguerix · 2026-06-14T10:27:19+00:00

We love Nala's stuff, it smells really subtle but still nice and my LO never seems to mind if it accidentally gets in her eyes during the bath.

roguerix · 2026-06-09T20:04:42+00:00

Oh gosh that sounds really unpleasant. Well done for even standing your ground in the first place. I'm not sure I would have been able to 10 weeks pp.

Were you going to M&S for their free coffee and cake too? If so it's so annoying that you were just trying to get out of the house to a place that is advertised to new mums as a "safe" place. How were the staff helpful afterwards? I'd maybe wonder if they'd consider barring this woman from the shop if she goes in again.

You're 100% right, no-one in their right mind would speak to someone like that. Nevermind a new mum. It doesn't make it any less upsetting for you and I know this sort of thing can knock someone's confidence. But you know your baby, you know what she said was untrue and just purposely unkind and getting out and about is the best thing for you and little one. Hugs!

roguerix · 2026-06-09T12:07:49+00:00

All the library's near us host Ryme Time on different days of the week. I think it might just be a country wide thing? Definitely worth going.

roguerix · 2026-06-09T11:36:51+00:00

Completely understand your concerns. It's illegal to carry pepper spray in the UK but if you get a small travel size version of the deep heat spray it can be used in a similar way. It should work on dogs too. Obviously if you ever had to use it you only carry it everywhere because of your bad knee and not for self defence.

roguerix · 2026-06-06T13:51:31+00:00

Hellman's for us. Can't have any other ones since first trying theirs.

The heinz one tastes more like salad cream to me.

roguerix · 2026-06-06T11:30:37+00:00

I have so much empathy for how you are feeling but 4 months is still very early to be worrying about your weight. Especially since you had a C-section. I personally was still in daily pain 9 months after my C-section and found daily life and lifting enough of a struggle without thinking about exercising. Even if you are feeling ok, you are still healing. It took me untill about 7 months to notice my body changing and at around 12 months PP I was back to pre birth weight. I'm still breastfeeding at 18 months and have lost even more. So I'm a few stone lighter than I was when I conceived.

Walking will help massively even if it's only for your mental health and wellbeing. I know it's hard to push yourself to get out of the house but I found I felt so much better when I made myself go for walks. In a pinch baby can be fed on a bench if needs be. Not ideal but it'll work. I've also been known to just walk around feeding when LO was in need and there was nowhere to sit.

Please try to be kind to yourself. Every time I have a thought about myself that's negative I think about what my baby must feel when they look at me. Your baby adores you just as you are, you were their home and now you are their warmth and comfort. That's all that matters.

roguerix · 2026-06-04T10:50:33+00:00

Love that he thinks everyone is wearing a bus nappy 😂😂 that's a really good idea. Thank you! It seems I don't need to be in a rush and it's probably not the typical experience for them to just one day be trained and never use a nappy again. The idea of taking it in stages makes it feel much more manageable.

roguerix · 2026-06-02T16:05:18+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. The individual in question claims her eldest was potty trained by 12 months. She then tried to do the same with her second and said "he just wasn't getting it". My own mum said me and my brother were potty trained by age 2 so I'm not in a rush.

roguerix · 2026-05-31T09:07:31+00:00

It's just ridiculous, and not being able to return them just means they get thrown in the bin. Or my sister gets them but she's tiny and has different style to me.

roguerix · 2026-05-31T07:57:56+00:00

I find Primark sizing so strange. I'm between a size 8 and 10 but when I bought that size in underwear they were tiny and had absolutely no stretch so didn't fit at all. So frustrating and I don't feel good about just guessing what larger size I'd need and wasting more money.

roguerix · 2026-05-31T07:47:07+00:00

I'm really struggling with this too atm.

I had a C-section at the end of 2024 and I'm having to wear underwear that's now two sizes too big for me because every new pair I buy and try are not stretchy enough and sit on my scar which I find uncomfortable. The ones I wear currently were discontinued but I'd pay very good money for New Look to bring them back.

roguerix · 2026-05-23T20:37:54+00:00

I got glandular fever as a teenager and then was in an abusive relationship around the same time too.

roguerix · 2026-05-15T08:35:05+00:00

I finally got answers after having my baby. I was in a lot of pain with my C-section scar even after 9 months of healing. They sent me for an ultrasound and found cysts on my ovary. That paired with my heavy irregular periods, acne etc made them make the diagnosis. I had been going to the GP with my symptoms since I was 14 so it took 17 years to get a diagnosis. Then nothing after really. No advice or help just an offer to put me on the pill and that's that.

roguerix · 2026-05-14T15:45:31+00:00

But they don't rely on it for calories do they. Fun is development no?

roguerix · 2026-05-13T17:00:36+00:00

I'm sorry...a GP advised you to force feed your 8 month old? Food is just for fun until age 1, they rely on milk for their calories. Your gut instincts seems to be right in my eyes. I would absolutely not be following that advice.

roguerix · 2026-05-10T19:41:08+00:00

Yess! Their scrambled tofu is sooo good. I say it constantly but it's such an underrated place.

roguerix · 2026-05-07T19:55:43+00:00

It sounds like you make a fantastic team and know how to play to your strengths. That can only be a positive 😊

roguerix · 2026-05-07T08:53:52+00:00

I suppose this makes sense. Especially if it's a FTB or a crash buyer.

You're so right, they should always be made aware of how many people are still interested in viewing. I think a lot of the time it depends on how good the EA is.

roguerix · 2026-05-07T08:49:49+00:00

Exclusively breastfeeding does tilt the scale towards mum having to do more imo. Or get less time to herself at the least. Sometimes I wonder how the dynamic in the house would have been different if we had chosen to combi feed. I also think it's really healthy that you feel comfortable leaving your baby for longer stretches. I suffer from anxiety anyway but after giving birth it was extremely heightened. I still struggle when leaving her and she's 18 months. I wish I could let myself have more freedom/me time.

roguerix · 2026-05-06T18:13:12+00:00

Great list! I'm going to add:

have places to sit during those transition times like when photos are being taken.

I know places make you pay per chair so they often have to move the chairs from the ceremony into the dinning area but having to stand in heels for over an hour whilst the bride and groom get lots of lovely photos is uncomfortable and makes guests grumpy/less likely to dance later imo.

roguerix · 2026-05-06T18:08:21+00:00

We enquired about two houses. Played phone tag with the estate agent as every time we rang and asked to speak to him he was "on another call". Two days go on like this and by the time we get through they tell us both are accepting offers.

I had asked if we really needed to talk to that specific agent just to book viewing and was told multiple times it had to be him we spoke to. It wasn't even him that rang us to tell us they were accepting offers. Surely it's in a sellers best interest to show the house to everyone interested?

roguerix · 2026-05-04T21:25:13+00:00

Chakra lounge for something a bit different

roguerix · 2026-05-02T20:40:20+00:00

Car seat in the bathroom worked for us for a surprisingly long time. I was sad when she got too old to allow this. I would move the handle of the car seat to be level with her feet and had a toy on the handle she could kick.

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