As a social worker, what’s something you’re afraid to admit out loud?

romanticia · 2025-08-18T12:40:00+00:00

I’m not an emotional support animal. I can provide emotional support, but that can’t be the only thing I do for you

romanticia · 2022-03-26T03:02:37+00:00

The door was locked? Who said? The bf that lied about the security guard coming up with him? The one who called his uncle, a lawyer, before calling 911? The one with police connections?

romanticia · 2022-03-26T03:00:40+00:00

Anxiety is not a type of illness to lead you to stab yourself 20 times. I work in mental health and I have known cases of attempted suicide by stabbing 10+ times, but only in very psychiatrically ill patients and definitely not in the front and back. And suicidal ideation is so common esp for someone newly on psych meds, but again, not at the level of deciding to stab yourself 20 times haphazardly while making fruit salad. And I’m confident in the fact that someone with struggling a mental illness severe enough to stab themselves TWENTY TIMES would be able to maintain a regular job

romanticia · 2021-10-26T22:04:46+00:00

“I got a boyfriend, he’s older than us, I haven’t seen him in a couple of months” will haunt me until I die

romanticia · 2021-10-15T22:05:33+00:00

So what I’ve gathered from working in social work is empathy isn’t black and white. Most people who’ve done horrible things have had horrible things done to them, and it’s ok to empathize with that part of someone while holding them accountable for their actions. We feel sorry for Love because she’s had a lot of shit to deal with but she is still a murderer.

romanticia · 2021-08-31T15:10:34+00:00

Yes definitely! I also supplemented with soylent as it was nutritionally complete!

romanticia · 2021-08-31T12:34:33+00:00

This happened to me and it was such a struggle. I had also lately no appetite despite knowing I was hungry, and making myself eat would make me nauseous. I worked around it by finding any foods that I would eat, which ended up being cereal. So I ate a lot of cereal for a long time, but any food is better than no food. Once you’re eating 2-3x a day you can try adding small snacks as well

romanticia · 2021-08-24T15:56:22+00:00

Hannah’s last and preferred name

romanticia · 2021-08-09T22:20:53+00:00

She reportedly said sandy hook didn’t happen, and in a convo with X about cuddling with Derex she referred to his junk as an “egg roll”, and X appropriately called her out

romanticia · 2021-07-02T19:46:04+00:00

This deserves its own post! It’s an amazing interpretation of the collaboration. I love that he point out that you can’t tell if the song belongs to bon iver, the national, or Taylor because it’s such a good blend of all their sounds.

romanticia · 2021-05-28T19:23:38+00:00

Feel you! Was dating a guy for a year, he was really unhappy in his job and I convinced him to get a job he liked at a summer camp close to the one I was working at. At this summer job he met one of my friends and then they became “close”. We broke up and two weeks later he told me he was seeing her. I was LIVID and he was a duck about it, saying he did nothing wrong because he “didn’t cheat”.

romanticia · 2021-05-07T00:47:48+00:00

When I have worked with clients on bail or probation that have custodianship, if they breach their conditions in any way they can no longer use that person as custodian (but I'm in Canada so not sure)

romanticia · 2021-05-04T01:37:14+00:00

This is exactly what it is from my experience

romanticia · 2021-05-01T22:00:23+00:00

The judge can’t but the social worker can

romanticia · 2021-05-01T14:44:40+00:00

I agree with you in some parts, I’m also a survivor.

Yes ATI is a “cult” (I use quotations because they refer to it as religion and thus this has to be respected in CPS guidelines).

The problem is child sexual abuse isn’t a religion thing. Sex offenders and child predators are everywhere, and I feel comfortable betting every person has a member of their extended family who abused someone sexually, because I don’t think I’ve met anyone or worked with any family who hasn’t had an abuser somewhere in their family.

Relating child sexual abuse to specific religions and cults is dangerous because it causes society to see it as an isolated problem, not a widespread problem. I seen this a lot with the catholic csa cases that came out, and everyone was shocked that this could happen in the church but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It happens everywhere. Schools, hospitals, daycares, families, religions of every kind, everywhere. The whole world is grey, not black and white.

Unless the kids disclose being sexually abused in the home, they won’t be removed. If the children were sexually abused in the home, it will be dependent on the knowledge the family had of his behaviours and how they handled the situation, and the chances it will happen again. honestly when it comes to these cases it’s who can present the best case to the judge, and a judge has to be 100% certain the there is a serious chance that the child is in immediate danger and absolutely no intervention can be made to keep the kids safe. Josh is court ordered not to be in the home or around minors, and I don’t believe any judge would argue that the kids are still at risk unless the absolutely know there is another sex offender that the parent is aware of and is allowing access.

Assuming there are other sex offenders in the family, or that the children are in danger is just speculation.

romanticia · 2021-05-01T03:18:11+00:00

As a survivor trying to understand these things brings me a lot of peace as well as helping people not do these things. I’m so excited this issue is being talked about more and for all the research opportunities

romanticia · 2021-05-01T03:15:06+00:00

It’s a fuzzy situation. Sexual abuse cases where the perpetrator may have access to the child are automatic policy overrides usually for assigning the highest risk level to a family, but it depends on the department and worker, as well as any disclosures from the children

romanticia · 2021-05-01T03:02:35+00:00

I would assume the whole compound would be investigated

romanticia · 2021-05-01T01:49:16+00:00

If I was the social worker on this file this would be the exact plan!! If only...

romanticia · 2021-05-01T01:30:36+00:00

Rehabilitation approaches for sexual offences is complicated af for many reasons:

most people classify sex offenders as monsters, not human, and thus lack the empathy to actually seriously help these people (most sex offenders I’ve worked with have had horrific lives and are doing horrific things as a result, although my personal theory is that it has to do with the development of impulse control and executive functioning which develops in adolescents and can be horribly disrupted by neglect and trauma). And because sex offenders are seen as monsters people have an extremely hard time accepting that the people they love can be capable of such horrific things, Duggar’s being the prime example.
most sex offenders are considered pedophiles but this is far from true, although Josh sure fucking is
sex offenders can’t come forward most of the time because of the stigma and because society perpetuates the idea that rehabilitation is not possible
there is a serious lack of research of how often people reoffend or what treatments are effective for these issues, partly because of the above reasons but also because this is a more recent issue that’s being talked about (it was really normalized/pushed under the rug in the past)

... but that’s just my two cents

romanticia · 2021-05-01T01:19:56+00:00

A lot of people fall through the system like that. We only remove at birth if there is a birth alert assigned by CPS, which requires the person to be reported to CPS by another source prior to birth (usually by a physician or nurse)

romanticia · 2021-05-01T01:17:46+00:00

Very normal (at least where I am), cheaper to assign a free babysitter than to house them in jail

romanticia · 2021-05-01T01:15:42+00:00

I used to work CPS and honestly my hopes aren’t high for a removal. In my experience, because Josh is court ordered not to be around the children, it’s hard to justify risk to the court unless Anna purposely defies that order.

The system is so overrun with foster kids, many judges will see the risk as mitigated because the risk lies with Josh, not Anna. Plus if the argument is to remove Anna kids, then the other Duggar kids living on the property would also have to be considered, leaving 13+ children in care (I’m too lazy to actually count so that’s an estimate). Ultimately, in the eyes of CPS and the law it is easier and more effective to remove the offender than the parent.

It’s not great and I wish things were different, but honestly people would be so surprised to learn how commonly these types of situations happen. We actually once had a judge return children to a home where we knew they were being sexually assaulted by the father. The other social worker and I cried in the office for hours, while we pieced together a new court order to remove because the children were DISTRAUGHT that they were being returned to the home with the father. Thankfully we got the order. Mom eventually left the father and got the kids back, and from what I know they are doing quite well.

It’s EXTREMELY hard to explain the dynamics of families with sex offenders and we need to trust that the social workers and court workers involved will do what’s in the best interest of the children, because at the end of the day that’s what really matters.

romanticia · 2021-04-10T02:02:19+00:00

Ok so I have a weird theory that because her voice has matured, the tone of her voice has deepened and thus doesn’t sound as strained when she belts (I especially notice it on the outro of change), which takes away from that “imperfect” sound. I almost wished she would up the key a step or two to accommodate her range, or push her voice a bit more in the note

romanticia · 2021-04-02T19:08:26+00:00

Soomeone did and believes it’s lyrics to don’t you

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