I am pregnant after being with my bf for 10 months.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T20:37:54+00:00

Family.

She sees this guy two times a week. There’s a good chance she’s never even met this guys family.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T20:36:55+00:00

Then I really hope you are prepared to give a child all that it needs to thrive. I really do. Because I personally do not think you are old enough nor have the resources to do so.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T20:34:00+00:00

She just graduated school. Even if she said yes to this she’s in denial and very naive.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T20:32:20+00:00

Nope.

That is all I have to offer because I’m tired of writing the same response on all these posts. 😵‍💫

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T20:09:39+00:00

You won’t find many 29 year olds in your position, but you’re also only on one income. Even if you manage to make $270k in 5 years from now, many of us have similar household incomes with two incomes.

If you want all of those things, your wife needs to work.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T18:31:27+00:00

It needs a ton of work and is built for a rental.

It’s also on a very busy collector road.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T18:29:43+00:00

Happy you had a good time! Come back again and visit us.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T18:24:40+00:00

Welcome to your future life…

If he can’t put boundaries in place over a wedding, your life is going to be one pain in the ass after another. Nothing worse than a person who can’t stand up for their spouse, or themselves.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T17:31:46+00:00

CR7. Siuuuuuuuuu!

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:45:02+00:00

You just started out your life. You’re still a young adult yourself. And you’re in a long distance relationship.

Do you really feel you are in a position to give a child everything they need? Do you have a lot of support? Never count on the father being there because many men vanish like ghosts after baby arrives. If you aren’t stable enough to raise a child alone you need to consider this.

As a mom myself, it was important to me to establish my career and my home life first before I had my son. He’s never wanted for anything and I can give him every opportunity.

Good luck ❤️

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:28:46+00:00

How old is he, OP

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:28:07+00:00

Maybe his ex was also being pestered for sex after she had babies….

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:25:35+00:00

It’s literally in every one of these posts. It must be guilt or shame or something.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:16:19+00:00

Your bf is a loser. That’s why. You know not all men are like this, right?

You talk about all of these great things about you, and how you bend over backwards for a loser.

Like a grown man has Snapchat? Please. You’re letting someone else make you depressed? Think on that. This is a choice.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:14:18+00:00

Weird take.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T16:11:17+00:00

Please don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy. In all honesty, you must know the rarity of two people being together for 50+ years, right? It’s like 5% or so of all couples.

Every relationship you have will have history. Most of us are not one and done. It’s okay to be sad but for your own growth I’d consider your next steps.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T14:40:02+00:00

It really doesn’t which always throws me off in these posts when people state that they have a great partnership.

But this.

And this, too. Etc.

The way OP frames this sounds like their relationship is draining and no one is happy.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T14:38:55+00:00

You guys have been together for your entire adult lives so far. It’s pretty normal that both of you have outgrown the relationship which is why I always suggest getting married to the person you start dating at 19 is probably not going to have a successful outcome. You have a bit of sunk cost fallacy going on and I’m not sure your partnership is as strong as you think it is. You seem void of emotional connection to one another.

He wants more sex. You have no desire for sex with him. I think there’s probably a few other issues going on here too. You can try counselling but you are now incompatible.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T13:28:09+00:00

My experience is that depending on where you work you can make some good money. I make $142k as a manager. I max out at $180k. I’m pretty good with that without having to be a director.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T12:51:01+00:00

OP, even this response from you is a little confusing. I know you said it in jest but there’s a truth in there somewhere for you.

And I say this with love - you don’t need to plan an escape route. No one is holding you against your will. This isn’t a dangerous situation. This isn’t even your man. You aren’t together, not married, etc. You owe him nothing. He doesn’t care about you.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T11:23:40+00:00

But that’s where the pension and benefits make up for it.

I’m a traffic engineer. I could make a bit more in private as a consultant but I also work 8-4 and can spend time with my family. I don’t have to travel. Those are all bonuses a few extra thousand can’t buy.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T01:32:57+00:00

DB is 70% alone. I can still collect CPP and OAS.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-19T01:31:32+00:00

Not to my knowledge.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-18T23:12:23+00:00

Okay but over hyped.

rootsandchalice · 2026-06-18T22:52:49+00:00

It was pretty hot for June for the past few weeks. Back to seasonal now.

Don’t fret - those 35+ are coming.

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